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New Kind Of Grief

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I have recently found out that my son Mikey did die due to Gestional Diabetes. We have now 5 lawyers on our side the last (and I think the most important) a plactenta pathologist...he is a very good dr...he told our lawyer when our lawyer contacted him about looking at slides of my placenta that he wanted to know nothing about my medical history and he did not want to know whose side the lawyer was on (ours or our old dr) he said he just wanted to see the slides of my placenta...so he sent them off to him...without knowing my history he calls our lawyer an ask if I had Gestional Diabetes which was unmonitored the lawyer said yes an the dr said BINGO I dont want to brag but that is why the baby died an had it been monitored the baby would have lived!!! We are now on our way to filing a lawsuit against the dr.

Since finding out that Mikey did die at the hands of a jerky dr my brain has been all messed up. My brain keeps telling me after we win our lawsuit Mikey will be alive again...then I come back to reality and remember Mikey will NEVER be alive again!!! It hurts so much!!! I cant deal with us!!! Its like I am starting the greiving process all over again!!!
 
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Dear Manders2, I can not tell you, being a mother, anything that will take the pain away. I can not even lie and say that I understand. Mother's love is just beyond me. I am not able to comprehend it.

I just wish to tell you that your husband and you are not alone. Never alone. There are others who feel and pain with you. I can not find a word to tell you that will make it all go away. But, I can tell you that you are not alone. None of us is ever alone. I for one, can not take it away, but I can pray for you guys and with you guys. Mikey is in a better place right now. And with the great hope and belief that HE who promised, promised well, you can stay in expectance of seeing him again. This now, is going, this is passing, this is imperfect. And new is coming. New forever.

God bless.

You are not alone.
 
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This angered me,and I'm praying for you.What can I say other than hang in there and know your son is in heaven,you'll be there soon enough manders.I feel the sorrow will only be for awhile as times here are getting shorter.feel free to pm me anytime.God Bless your little boy Mikey. He is now an angel.
 
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As a mum who has lost 2 children, all I can do is tell you that it will get easier with time and the grieving process is an individual thing...what you r doing, is going to stop this Dr from doing it to any other mother-to-be ever again, that is a great thing.
I admire you for your courage...Mikey would have been proud of his mum and dad....
It will never bring Mikey back I know this.......From one grieving mum to another
 
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Dear manders,

What are you doing against yourself? Normally i would say that you should sue this doctor, but you are clearly in NO state to be able to handle a court-case. Doctors are only humans too, and you need to find forgiveness in yourself to stop blaming yourself or the doctor or the whole situation that you are into. Even if you win the court-case your son shal not return, so what is the use? Maby it will lead to the resignation of this doctor, but you will still never find the happyness and peace that you seek. *many hugs*

http://www.near-death.com/dennis.html
 
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Dear one... my heart crys with you... Your grief goes very deep...I know words are meaningless in this situation, but I want to remind you...as loving as I can with out hurting or offending you....your son is ALIVE IN JESUS...yes...He won't be here with you...but HE IS ALIVE IN HEAVEN. By doing this lawsuit your going to make this wrong a RIGHT...it is for the other Mikey's that can live. It is not fair. NOone but JESUS, can really know or understand your grief and the depth of your suffering. Or how many times you've processed this grief over and over again, It has to be unbearable. I pray that I have not caused any more grief by being bold to share these with you, but I pray that you will be comforted in knowing that Mikey is alive, and safe in the arms of JESUS. I pray that you will find comfort, healing and peace with this situation. I pray you will find a release of forgiveness in your heart...towards this doctor and that your heart be flooded with the LOVE of the FATHER, who totally understands what it is like to loose a child. He totally understands and is compassionate towards you.

Father, I pray with sincere tenderness towards this mother that is hurting so deep, only you posess the balm of gilead to bring a deep healing in her spirit and mind. Holy Spirit I pray that you would comfort her and touch those areas in her heart and mind that she has felt tormented in and close all the doors that cause her affliction. I ask that you help her to see any areas that she has held any anger or unforgiveness, so that she can be released and find a healing. Lord it is maddening for any neglect to occur by doctors...and even in innocence, not intentional, being a human being...a huge mistake and error was made...one such as to cause this precious child to be taken...Lord...only you know how to right this injustice. I ask that you would give her and her husband wisdom, direction and peace in each step they take towards their healing and recovery from such a loss. I ask this in JESUS mighty name. AMEN
 
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Manders, you aren't alone, for every tear you cry, God cries with you! I'm sorry that you have had to suffer this way, and sorry that no one can take the pain away, but you seem to be very strong and coping very well, I'm praying for you lots! stay strong, God will stay right by your side through this whole thing! God bless
 
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