We are in the process of having our 9yo, homeschooled ds evaluated for multiple issues. Sensory issues, speech and lang. eval. and also with a neuropsychologist. The more I read, the more I think he is on the Autism Spectrum somewhere, perhaps Aspergers.
My question is: How do you implement rules of behavior? He has a very, very difficult time sharing. I realize much of that comes from the way his brain is processing things, and that he is very particular about his possessions, and also that he obsesses about germs (so, in theory, someone using his things could possibly spread germs to him).
However, it's hard to know what to do, as Christian parents. We have 3 other children whom we require to share. If they have a very special item or toy, they can put it away and keep it to themselves. But if it's out and about, they share reciprocally. But with 9yo ds, of course, it's a HUGE issue.
What would some suggestions be that you might have? I'm beginning to dread others asking him to share because it inevitably leads to a meltdown on his part and to cries of "foul" on the other's part. He has so many meltdowns some days about things (his cookie broke, someone touched his plate or glass, someone was treated "more" fairly than he was, etc) and I am realizing I don't know how to handle these things. I think when he was younger I just brushed it off as immature, childish behavior. As he ages, I realize he's not growing out of these "stages." It's also hard in public.... Of course people think he's spoiled....
My question is: How do you implement rules of behavior? He has a very, very difficult time sharing. I realize much of that comes from the way his brain is processing things, and that he is very particular about his possessions, and also that he obsesses about germs (so, in theory, someone using his things could possibly spread germs to him).
However, it's hard to know what to do, as Christian parents. We have 3 other children whom we require to share. If they have a very special item or toy, they can put it away and keep it to themselves. But if it's out and about, they share reciprocally. But with 9yo ds, of course, it's a HUGE issue.
What would some suggestions be that you might have? I'm beginning to dread others asking him to share because it inevitably leads to a meltdown on his part and to cries of "foul" on the other's part. He has so many meltdowns some days about things (his cookie broke, someone touched his plate or glass, someone was treated "more" fairly than he was, etc) and I am realizing I don't know how to handle these things. I think when he was younger I just brushed it off as immature, childish behavior. As he ages, I realize he's not growing out of these "stages." It's also hard in public.... Of course people think he's spoiled....