Never happened before...

[Brittanyeah]

Okay... so yesterday for whatever reason (I think it was actually about socks), my parents were fighting and my dad was getting all in my moms face and was yelling stuff then she went to get out of his way, and held her arm out a little bit so she could get around him, then he shoved her against the stove and yelled "touch me again!" and she replied "what are you going to HIT ME?" (this has never happened before) he kept on saying that and he never said no. Then my mom hurried upstairs and left the house, to chill out and cool off, and when she came back my dad was gone.. and we haven't seen him since. I was actually upstairs with my best friend, having fun!

I just don't know what to think...
My best friend's dad did that, and he was SO abusive and just was a drunk and everything that could possibly go wrong with him, it did, and all I can think of when I think about my dad right now is my best friend's dad. If there was any man I could hate, It would be him.

This has never happened before, and I'm really scared, but I am mad at the same time, so I'm kind of thinking "screw it".
Please pray for me, pray that God gives me the strength to get through all this.

Thank you..
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[oneofthem]

Hey. I hope you're okay.

Have you spoken to your mum about it? Do you know if she knows where he is? Has she said anything to you, or your siblings if you have any?

Look after yourself. Talk to people you trust.

And try not to automatically associate your dad with your friend's dad in that sense. Maybe your dad left because he was scared that he was almost capable of that. Maybe he wants help.

My earliest memory is seeing my dad's ex hitting him with a broom when we went to pick my brother up. I would have been two or three years old. One day, i saw my mum slam the fridge door on my dad when he was getting something out of it. It seemed to be out of nowhere. My mum has her own ways, and on a few occassions she was physically abusive. But she was not my dad's ex. (Well, first ex anyway).

 

[Brittanyeah]

Hey. I hope you're okay.

Have you spoken to your mum about it? Do you know if she knows where he is? Has she said anything to you, or your siblings if you have any?

Look after yourself. Talk to people you trust.

And try not to automatically associate your dad with your friend's dad in that sense. Maybe your dad left because he was scared that he was almost capable of that. Maybe he wants help.

My earliest memory is seeing my dad's ex hitting him with a broom when we went to pick my brother up. I would have been two or three years old. One day, i saw my mum slam the fridge door on my dad when he was getting something out of it. It seemed to be out of nowhere. My mum has her own ways, and on a few occassions she was physically abusive. But she was not my dad's ex. (Well, first ex anyway).

I just don't know. He really makes me mad, oh he came back, and he acted like NOTHING happened.

 

[oneofthem]

Hmm...that happened to me once. I went for a walk, and when i walked around the corner back into my street, i saw my dad throwing furniture over our front fence. I disappeared for another hour and came back, and they acted as if nothing happened. And when i brought it up, they were like "oh, that, ha ha, yeah, that was funny". Parents can be odd.

Do tell your dad how you felt when he left, and how you're feeling about him not saying anything. The old "elephant in the room" syndrome. Maybe it will start the conversation you want.

 

[Johnnz]

Anyone you can talk to and get some ongoing support and advice?

John
NZ

 

[NostalgicGranny]

Maybe leaving was the best thing for that situation. It is way better to stop yourself from doing something wrong then it is to have to make amends after everything is said and done.

Talk to your family and tell them how it made you feel. Tell them about your friends dad and how worried you were that it was happening at your house.