Need Wisdom Please

[GodHasAPlan]

Hello All! I would appreciate the Christian community's input/prayers on my situation:

Here it is in a nutshell.

I'm a 50 year old male (Mr. Mom) with (4) kids (15b, 12g, 10g, 4b). My wife (perhaps soon to be ex-) fell in love with my brother while he was living in our house (we had brought him up from Flordia to give him a fresh start since he had been addicted to crack cocaine for over 15 years).

Their emotional affair started in Nov. 2005 and culminated in a physical affair complete with them stealing money/lying and going on a (3) day crack cocaine binge in March of 2006.

(My wife has suffered from depression/anxiety pretty much all during our 15 year marriage.)

Well, I sent my brother packing back to Florida in March 2006 after their affair was exposed, and my wife left for Florida to be with him on April 10th. She returned for a month around the 25th of May until we refinanced the house - then she took her money, a new vehicle and headed back to Florida, leaving me with the kids, to be with my brother. We tried a christian counselor once in late March, but my wife said she was not willing to commit to the marriage and that she loved my brother more than me. She was "in love" with him and only "cared about" me.

Here's how it is today:
My wife sits in a county jail in Florida on charges of posession of crack cocaine, drug paraphernalia, and (3) controlled prescription drugs. (This is her first offense legally). Most likely she will spend (1) year in rehab. and or prison.

Here's what I need to hear from the Lord:

A) Can I ever hope to get over something that has been so devastating to me and the kids and re-unite with my wife?
Has anyone out there (particularly you men) gone on with a wife who has been doing drugs and had an affair?
Sometimes I feel the leading of the Lord to move along and let her work on her walk (I really can't be part of her healing now).

B) What's your opinion on divorce as far as my situation is concerned?

Thanks to all you saints out there. Please pray for us that God would do something amazing!

Thanks,
I know He has a plan.

 

[EmbracingHim]

Glad you are here at CF. You are a blessing to all through Christ. Welcome. (indeed God does have the 'greatest' plan for us).

 

[shalominyeshua]

Welcome. May the Lord strengthen you during this time and may you and your family grow closer to Him!

 

[Philothei]

Welcome! Sorry to hear of your troubles that must be really tough on you and the children. I would try to get spiritual councel as soon as possible. Someone you can trust so that you have some support. My prayers are wil you and your family. If I were you I would also would post in the prayer section. Prayers always help.

May the Lord give you strenghth to continue and keep you and your children under His protection. My hope is the Father, my refuge is the Son, my protection i sthe Holy Spirit. Holy Trinity Glory to You.

God Bless,
Philothei

 

[scraparcs]

Hey there, welcome to CF!

Have you seen our Marriage Ministry, Marriage Restoration, Christian Advice, and Substance Abuse forums? Those are the first I can think of that might be helpful. Welcome again!

 

[MrFreshdew]

hi GodHasAPlan
welcome and have fun

 

[Rut]

 

[psalms 91]

welcomer to cf

 

[zefora]

 

[thatgirliknew]

Hello All! I would appreciate the Christian community's input/prayers on my situation:

Here it is in a nutshell.

I'm a 50 year old male (Mr. Mom) with (4) kids (15b, 12g, 10g, 4b). My wife (perhaps soon to be ex-) fell in love with my brother while he was living in our house (we had brought him up from Flordia to give him a fresh start since he had been addicted to crack cocaine for over 15 years).

Their emotional affair started in Nov. 2005 and culminated in a physical affair complete with them stealing money/lying and going on a (3) day crack cocaine binge in March of 2006.

(My wife has suffered from depression/anxiety pretty much all during our 15 year marriage.)

Well, I sent my brother packing back to Florida in March 2006 after their affair was exposed, and my wife left for Florida to be with him on April 10th. She returned for a month around the 25th of May until we refinanced the house - then she took her money, a new vehicle and headed back to Florida, leaving me with the kids, to be with my brother. We tried a christian counselor once in late March, but my wife said she was not willing to commit to the marriage and that she loved my brother more than me. She was "in love" with him and only "cared about" me.

Here's how it is today:
My wife sits in a county jail in Florida on charges of posession of crack cocaine, drug paraphernalia, and (3) controlled prescription drugs. (This is her first offense legally). Most likely she will spend (1) year in rehab. and or prison.

Here's what I need to hear from the Lord:

A) Can I ever hope to get over something that has been so devastating to me and the kids and re-unite with my wife?
Has anyone out there (particularly you men) gone on with a wife who has been doing drugs and had an affair?
Sometimes I feel the leading of the Lord to move along and let her work on her walk (I really can't be part of her healing now).

B) What's your opinion on divorce as far as my situation is concerned?

Thanks to all you saints out there. Please pray for us that God would do something amazing!

Thanks,
I know He has a plan.

I want to welcome you to CF and tell you that if you ever need anything, you can private message me. As for your situation, I don't know what advice to give other than to rely on God and continue praying and I will also pray for you.

 

[ForeverInHisArms]

welcome to CF!

I dont know what to say except you can always have hope and pray, but you can never change someone or make them love you. Please dont put your life on hold waiting for her to see the light. Drug addiction is very often bigger than love!
If you are meant to get back togather you will, dont forget to keep living until that day. You sound like a very strong father, and that is a true blessing to your childern.

Bless you!

 

[Saint Melania]

I'd say Matthew 5:32 may be the verse you need.