Hello all, life can suck, but God is good...
I have been courting a wonderful girl, daughter of a pastor. She lives an hour and a half away now, she had to move away about 9 months ago. Her father died when she was 14 (19 now), she was kind of the forgotten child, so since before we were even courting I have helped her deal with a lot of these issues. She got better, came out of depression, her memory came back (she forgot almost everything anyone told her).
We both feel (felt*) that God wanted us to get married. Like from a week into dating. Not like a "lets get married right now!" but a "God has this in our future, no hurry." Well when her Dad's deathiversary came around a LOT more issues came out. She suddenly said she wasn't sure if I was "the one" and broke up with me (which lasted a whole 14 hours.) Well we talked out all those issues, it took us hours of talking, Bible reading, and prayer. And she was happier than ever.
Well, 6 months more later, my dad is dying, technically not of cancer, but from all the stuff his body couldn't handle. He isn't dead yet, we figured last night or today.
Well Deanna said she wanted to be there for me through all this. Her and her mother came, she was going to stay the day and I give her a ride back. But she told me her mom didn't want her to stay. It was ok with me, I understood. And she was going to be over in 2 days anyway, so it wasn't a big deal.
After an hour she told me she couldn't come when she was supposed to her mother didn't want me to drive (Deanna can't drive, she blacks out). This made me upset, I didn't understand why I shouldn't drive. She insisted she really wanted to come, but didn't want to disobey her mother. Well, after some talking she asked me to come to see her instead of her coming here. I was cool with that, I needed a shoulder to cry on as my dad's death is very slow, and extremely painful death. Well, before she even asked me to come see her she had asked her pastor to tell me she needed space and didn't want to see me. She told me that she wanted me to talk with him before I saw her. So I did, and I was crushed. Talking with him he also said that if I got upset with her, or reacted badly to her abandoning me right now he wouldn't marry us (the pastor that she wants to marry us.)
Well she has been contacting me on and off to talk about more issues she had with how her dad treated her mother. (abandonment, controlling) And this is really frustrating for me, because she won't even talk to me about this. Any advice? Prayer? A shot in the head?
Thank you everyone
I have been courting a wonderful girl, daughter of a pastor. She lives an hour and a half away now, she had to move away about 9 months ago. Her father died when she was 14 (19 now), she was kind of the forgotten child, so since before we were even courting I have helped her deal with a lot of these issues. She got better, came out of depression, her memory came back (she forgot almost everything anyone told her).
We both feel (felt*) that God wanted us to get married. Like from a week into dating. Not like a "lets get married right now!" but a "God has this in our future, no hurry." Well when her Dad's deathiversary came around a LOT more issues came out. She suddenly said she wasn't sure if I was "the one" and broke up with me (which lasted a whole 14 hours.) Well we talked out all those issues, it took us hours of talking, Bible reading, and prayer. And she was happier than ever.
Well, 6 months more later, my dad is dying, technically not of cancer, but from all the stuff his body couldn't handle. He isn't dead yet, we figured last night or today.
Well Deanna said she wanted to be there for me through all this. Her and her mother came, she was going to stay the day and I give her a ride back. But she told me her mom didn't want her to stay. It was ok with me, I understood. And she was going to be over in 2 days anyway, so it wasn't a big deal.
After an hour she told me she couldn't come when she was supposed to her mother didn't want me to drive (Deanna can't drive, she blacks out). This made me upset, I didn't understand why I shouldn't drive. She insisted she really wanted to come, but didn't want to disobey her mother. Well, after some talking she asked me to come to see her instead of her coming here. I was cool with that, I needed a shoulder to cry on as my dad's death is very slow, and extremely painful death. Well, before she even asked me to come see her she had asked her pastor to tell me she needed space and didn't want to see me. She told me that she wanted me to talk with him before I saw her. So I did, and I was crushed. Talking with him he also said that if I got upset with her, or reacted badly to her abandoning me right now he wouldn't marry us (the pastor that she wants to marry us.)
Well she has been contacting me on and off to talk about more issues she had with how her dad treated her mother. (abandonment, controlling) And this is really frustrating for me, because she won't even talk to me about this. Any advice? Prayer? A shot in the head?
Thank you everyone
