Need Support

I'm new here now, so none of you will recognize my user name. Hopefully it won't take long to be known.

Here is the thing: I am 18, male and VERY lonely.

I am not looking for an internet hook-up, only for support.

I am a virgin. I am 18. I am male. In other words, kind of a dating outcast. I have tons of friends, just none that would be interested in a relationship. That really is fine, because the girl I want (who I do not know yet) is a virgin too. She is a Christian. She thinks like I do.

I know that God has a plan for my life...destiny...and I know the right girl will come at the right time, but I am SOOOOO anxious!

I am reading "Every Man's Battle," which I am finding to be very helpful. I no longer look at girls lustfully, my eyes bounce away when they come in contact with intimate parts of the female anatomy.

I want what my Christian friends have...I want someone who I can tell anything. I want to poor my mind out to her like I am to you all, who are complete and will remain complete strangers, knowing each other only by our posts. I want someone who will choose virginity and Christ with me, actually, I am not anxious to kiss. If we could avoid all physical forms of dating, except maybe slow dancing (I love slow dancing), I would appreciate it. It will keep us both pure.

Anyway, if anyone has anything to say I would appreciate it.

Thanks

GivingMyAll4Him

I know what you mean and understand how you feel, but I'm a little confused about what you want from this post. Anyway, don't worry about it. I'm in about the same situation and know the feeling all too well. Now that I'm settling into the college life and developing deeper friendships things are looking a little better but I still know the loney feeling from time to time. From what you've said, you have the right mind-set so I encourage you to stick to it and remain patient.

thats all i was looking for, really. thanks for the support

This one is tough. Just remember that you are doing the right thing. Maintain your purity.



I remember being where you are when I was 18. Now I will be 30 in two months and I am still single – still really want to meet my wife. The Lord has taught me many good lessons though over the past 12 years. You will know of God’s plans when the time is right. Despite even your best efforts, you will follow His plans – believe me lol – I tried fighting Him for a few years. Just remember, the Lord’s plans will be realized in the Lord’s time. Abraham was 99 when God blessed him with a son with his wife. Abraham laughed when God told him, but sure enough, God established his covenant with Isaac.



Our walk with Christ is all about patients. Fear not though, if you remain faithful, you will be blessed. I feel lonely every day, but I take solace in knowing that my best friend created the universe.


Reading 2Timothy has helped me with these feelings (hence the user name). If you are still feeling rough, read Psalm 34.

Hope this helps.

-Tim