Need strength. Please pray.

[Ssarl]

Buh

 

[Pilgrim1951]

Heavenly Father, I hold Ssarl up to You. Lord, I ask first of all that You bring peace to his mind. Help him to slow down his racing, spinning, overwhelming thoughts. Lord, I ask that You bring order to his thought processes and I come against a spirit of condemnation is Jesus' name. Lord, I ask that You calm Ssarl and let him feel Your acceptance and love. Show him, please Lord, that no matter what he thinks or anyone else thinks, that he has much worth to You. I pray these things in Jesus' precious name.

Ssarl, your worth to God is not based on what you do, how you speak, what you do or don't accomplish. You are valued by Him because You are His child. It doesn't matter whether you think this is enough reason for Him, it simply is. You already have His acceptance and love. You didn't have to do anything to receive it, Jesus already took care of that. Begin to get into God's word daily. Read it as His personal letter to You. Because it really is. Ask the Holy Spirit to give you understanding and insight as you read. Try to start saying "no" to the lies that the devil has fed you all your life. Find scriptures that state who you are in Christ to combat these lies. God has given you an exceptional mind. Use it for His glory and let Him begin to heal you. He wants to. God bless you, son. Hang in there with God.

 

[Johnnz]

Hi fellow Antipodean.

You have not told us anything about your background, but it obviously it was not that good. This leaves you with issues to work through. That means we do not progress in a straight line, and often have some real struggles. This is particularly true with sexual issues, as we still retain our sexual nature.

Feel free to PM me with any issue you wish to get some insights on as that will need more detail which may not be appropriate for a public forum.

Bless you
John

 

[Ssarl]

Buh

 

[Princess Leia]

Dear God, I just want to come before You and hold up my friend Andrew to You Lord. I pray that You would give him peace of mind, and that You would continue to be with him and make Yourself very real to him. I pray that You would take away the lies that Satan is telling him and replace them with the feeling and understanding of being loved by You. Lord, he is priceless to You! Please help him to understand that as he continues to live his life for Your glory. In Jesus name I pray, amen.

 

[shazabella]

Thanks
Some of my story has shown up in my sporadic postings here, but I don't care to recount any detail now, I don't think it will help. It's certainly not sexual. I have suffered neglect, sometimes by others, something by myself, and have lived in a situation where abuse would constantly happen around me. I've had abuse directed at me or simply been caught in the crossfire.
Really, the problem is the lies that I have picked up from this and turned into habits. The ones that I allow to shape my decisions and control my life.

Last night, I was praying at a Christian meeting and that all seemed to fall apart - I can clearly see now that there is God's truth, and lies, and nothing else. There's no ambiguity.

It's a lie that I am worthless. It's a lie that I do not have the same rights as every other human being and that I'm somehow below. I'm a child of God, chosen, holy and dearly loved. It's a lie that I'm good for nothing, He has made me part of His kingdom and I am suited to the role He has appointed for me. It's a lie that I am helpless; help is offered to me by those who love me and I'm free to have it. Life is worth living, I can do something with my life, I've been given that right. I don't need to earn anything more - I am already made worthy by God.

... yay?

This is unfamiliar territory indeed, but I like it.

Hey Sweetie,

I'm sorry things are so confuzzling for you atm but hey they will get better - I'm praying for you and the situation and you know where to find me if you ever need to talk.

What was said to us was lies ... my dad was so good at that ... he even tried to do it last sunday morning by telling me i had no social manners what so ever ... seriously they do it to try and bring us down to make them feel good about themselves and its cr*p with a capital c but when you are living in a situation like that - the black and white becomes blurry and there is no clear answer anymore you try and work out what YOU've done to deserve this. You've done nothing wrong hunny and neither has everyone else who has been thru this situation.

You are worth so much to so many people and they don't look at you and see the screw up or the failure or the bad person ... they look at you and see Andrew the guy who makes them smile and eventually you will start to see that guy as well instead of the bad child who needed to be punished ( hey I'm still learning how to do all this ) They love you for you and eventually you will learn to see yourself not thru the eyes of hatred and manipulation but thru the eyes of love.

The old saying "sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me" is just so wrong ! Names and stuff we've been told by our parents / abusers does honestly stick with us ... we need to try and work out a way of letting go of it and rewriting those "tapes" with good messages.

Life IS worth living and don't let your past define your future





- Shaz

 

[ozman]

God, O God, bring solace and wisdom into this young man's life. I pray for this expecting in the name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ...Amen

 

[Yasha]

It's a lie that I am worthless. It's a lie that I do not have the same rights as every other human being and that I'm somehow below. I'm a child of God, chosen, holy and dearly loved. It's a lie that I'm good for nothing, He has made me part of His kingdom and I am suited to the role He has appointed for me. It's a lie that I am helpless; help is offered to me by those who love me and I'm free to have it. Life is worth living, I can do something with my life, I've been given that right. I don't need to earn anything more - I am already made worthy by God.

... yay?

This is unfamiliar territory indeed, but I like it.

YAY!

This is the identical paragraph that I need to bang into my son's head. In a post I posted here yesterday I mentioned that I am sort of preoccupied with the idea of "white trash." My son and I had a few conversations a few years back about the 'white trash' definitions that our family fall into. A focus there is kind of a joke and then not funny at all, because it's true. And I always then, like AUTOPILOT, turn to the truths of Jesus' coming for the least of these, and using the things that are not to shame the things that are, and the last shall be first...and I breathe better. I already know we are a toxic bunch and there is no better testing of a person's strength of faith and practice of forgiveness and compassion than to tell them 5 minutes worth of the ten hour truths of our little group. If they high-tail it out of there, well, may they have a good journey...because I frankly don't have the energy to coddle the judgemental and the weak-hearted while I negotiate the waters of this swamp we occupy, you know?

When he is at his lowest and ugliest ( also a self- abuser: harms himself vs. harming others, in whatever form... I am too. I have always turned my pain and anger inward) he does a lot of damage to himself in the realms of diet and poor self-care like you describe. Me too, but mine is so mild and noticable mostly only to myself and my husband who sees me cloistering, pouting, eating funny and long in the face. At one time that was serious drug addiction, bulemia, reclusive months on end, homelessness and psychotic breaks, so I have COME a LONG WAY!

This is what makes me the die hard faithful Christian wife in this family of misfits. I was one....the worst of one, once. Jesus rebuilt me bit by bit. I never understood why it took so long or hurt so bad....I still don't know why it takes so long with my husband and son or hurts so bad, my guess is always rebellion though. Everything that ever changed in me happened after I yielded from some stubborn place or thought....but, I have planted my feet for the long haul, because I have seen and been the miracle. I am DIFFERENT than most. My husband and my son tell me that most of the time, I guess they convince me plenty, too. I see people come and go from our group with all sorts of excuses and reasoning....I see me stay, with only ONE reason.

You have met and know my Reason. He is the One who hears your prayers and brings all things together for His Glory in His perfect time. We need only believe and be diligent to see His deliverance...it is a reality...it does come...and once He has accomplished it, dear one, expect to be beset with those who need to hear of it with deepest needs. Becuase He will not deliver you for your glory, but for His own.

Service is taxing and demanding and draining stuff...be in no hurry to go there before you are healed. Be content to sit in His lap while He listens to you **** and moan. He has an endless ear that reaches His vast heart. Receive His love, seek it, know it and then you will understand the love for yourself that you seek. You will be amazed at the value He places in you. Be satisfied and filled in worship of the trashing of Himself that He endured to reach you...know His own stripes and chosen sufferings were the ONLY door to bring you home to Him. Love the only man who EVER did this with no other motive than your edification and redemption. You can't add to that in self-abuse. You actually hurt Him more...

Bless you, dear sweet one. You know my affection for your beautiful spirit and the adventure of your heart. Be grown up in His mercy and grace....for His glory.

I am praying for you every today. Love, Sha

 

[HollyHobbie]

Glad that you feel comfortable enough to share your problems, I was never neglected like you ! But there were times in my childhood and even up until a few months ago that I felt emotionally abandoned by my peers and adults alike.

I understand those suicidal thoughts and feelings you have, because I'm there myself right now.

I had another nasty manic depressive attack recently and during the attack and through my counselor ,God spoke to me and told me that he was about to open up one of the dark spots of my past.

Of course the devil knows this and is trying to destroy me,but I know my God is there right by my side and is stronger and more powerful than anything the devil can throw at me.

That is one of the reasons I haven't killed myself or hurt myself ,though the temptation is strong, I know what it is like loosing someone to suicide , I have lost 4 people 2 of them being My aunt and my grandpa over the past 19 years
so I know the devistation suicide brings its something ya never really get over

I will pray for you Ssarl

God Bless you
Love In Christ
Holly Hobbie
Laura

 

[Johnnz]

A good, wise counsellor may be really useful for you, someone who can guide you through the emotions and values you have acquired that need to be reformed by Christ's life.

John
NZ