need some advise!!!

[gwyyn]

Ok here's my problem. It's kinda a long story, so thank you for reading all in advance, and for your advice.

My mom had me when she was 17, I guess you can say I was one of those accidents from a one niter!!!. Well anyways I grew up wondering who my dad was. She would never tell me anything, except for his name and where he was from but this doesnt' really help me any. Well when I was pregnant with my son, I was worried cause I didn't have the medical history from my natural father. So when it came time at 18 weeks for the blood test and ultra sound I was so worried that they were gonna come back and say there was something wrong. Well I just thank the Lord that I had a healthy 8lb baby. But the issue still bugs me. I have asked my mom, what color eyes did my dad have and other questions cause I wanna know what traits am i gonna see in my son.

I don't know if it is wrong or right to pressure my mom for details. I just wanna know who my "real" father is?
So I guess my question is do I have this right? I don't want any money just wanna see him and know what characteristics I share?

Thanks for the time!!
And I do thank the Lord that I have a father in him.

gwyyn

 

[amie]

Hi Gwyyn,
I think we all have an innate need to know who our parents are. I think that is normal to want to know that. I know I would be wanting to know. When you talk to your mom about it, is she evasive with you? does it bring back painful memories? can you find out his name and does he even know about you? has your mom told him that she had a daughter?
Oh Gwyyn, I will pray for you, I know once we have children we want to know exactly where they come from so to speak. I have a friend who is adopted and she always wonders, some people don't give it much thought, but some people just need to know...I am always here for you! I met you in chat the first night you were here and I liked you from the start. Best of luck to you and let me know if you want someone to come with you to find him?! ROADTRIP! I am praying for and with you gwyynie my dear! Love and blessings to you always...
Amie

 

[Remny]

Hey Gwyyn... first off I love the name Gwyyn, I know a very smart, charismatic and tallented Gwyyn, she's quite the charmer, I'm sure yer much the same, and whoever you are, remember Gwyyn is a cool name!

2nd, EVERY friend of mine and even a relative of mine that has been adopted has saught out their birth parents. Even when they had 2 parents that adopted them. Ya know, for most of them it didn't amount to much in the end, but I think it settled their hearts. Now you are not adopted, but you are in the same position of not knowing at least one of your birth parents.

For you to want to know this man. Don't worry, I don't think you even need the excuse of worrying about medical history. There is no crime in wanting to know anyone. More than likely yer mother is unconfortable with this because it makes her ashamed. But by this time I don't think there is anything to be ashamed of. I think it is your right to get to know ANYONE you want to, and especially your father. So I think you should persue this endevor. I hope you do it openly and without persecution towards this man though. It would be great for you guys to get to know a few things about eachother.

I'll keep you in my prayers Gwyyn, Gwyyn with the really cool name.

later,

Benjamin Jeanotte

 

[jeremiah]

Hi gwyn,
I agree with amie and remny. Find your dad! go for it! can I come with you guys on your road trip or is it a girls only thig?
kidding here,
but I am praying for you about this entire situation, that much you can count on.
Peace.

 

[gwyyn]

Hey all thanks for the advise and prayers. I really do need it. It's just so wierd to me that my family avoids talking about my real dad, like it was the plague. Even my grandmother wouldn't say anything, and she's gone now so I can't ask her. I'm just worried about upsetting my mother by confronting her for the information.

OH and gwyyn is my middle name.

thanks again