- Jun 1, 2017
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Hi everyone,
My first post here. I really need some advices from Christians. Here goes, I am a little confused. I know this girl in my high school but we don't really talk only until our early 30s. She went to Phillippines to shoot a documentary of the Drug War and was traumatized cause she told me. We still continue our usual meet up a lot, the connection was strong until there was a misunderstanding, I'm not sure if it is a misunderstanding or not, she did not know that I was waiting because I've told her I was deciding if I should head out to meet my BFF for movie instead because she wanted me to stream an online game so I then decide not to go meet my BFF on that night.
I just want to be her second pillar, to be there, to be her BFF(if she allow me into her world) when she's down, sad, need a person because she told me she had no one to turn to but pastor/cell group. As for the second pillar, I mentioned just now, I know she's a Christian and God is always first, her first pillar, I understand that concept entirely.
After the stream, I told her that I wasn't happy that she had me waited, granted she didn't know but still, I am pretty [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]ed about it. All in all, her views of friendships are equals. She just enjoy different people's company as they are unique in their own way. Fine by me. But why she met up with me so often than usual before that night?
Sorry for being repetitive, I kinda have too many crap in my head to think and type properly, please excuse my randomness, she told me after the trip, she was depressed, but if that is so, why the sudden drop of frequency in meetup and activities? It was that night, misunderstand or not I do not know. I can see it with my own eyes. She insists she's unresponsive across the board when she's down, not just because of me, but across the board, everyone. I mean how does that even tally? This whole thing meet up of frequency just drop overnight, the way she talks to me is also different. It all started that night she wanted me to stream.
On Facebook, that's not really the case but she told me it's her poker face she had to put up, mentally and physically tired, I know she has been meeting up with another friend, well this friend of hers is a junkie, she was helping her going through court cases, lawyers and taking care of her and while she can do that, she kept giving me the same old theory of hers.
What I see is she is prioritizing just like I decide to stay home and wait for her return (read above). I am a person who prioritizes when it comes to friends, I am converting to be a Christian but I must admit right now I'm an atheist, I am trying to believe in Him.
I find her statement to be contradicting when she said was gonna dump a young kid, much younger than her, in a good way by having a dinner and bidding a final goodbye, it was that night. So, I asked her, a BFF and a normal friend, had a car accident both were in similar conditions, both have their family, both have friends there for them, she would choose the normal friend and later on ask forgiveness from her BFF, that's not prioritizing? Again, she just doesn't want to admit she prioritize or am I wrong, or am I thinking too much like she said?
Thanks for reading, I hope there's some good advice as our friendship is on the line of breaking off. Thin red line.
My first post here. I really need some advices from Christians. Here goes, I am a little confused. I know this girl in my high school but we don't really talk only until our early 30s. She went to Phillippines to shoot a documentary of the Drug War and was traumatized cause she told me. We still continue our usual meet up a lot, the connection was strong until there was a misunderstanding, I'm not sure if it is a misunderstanding or not, she did not know that I was waiting because I've told her I was deciding if I should head out to meet my BFF for movie instead because she wanted me to stream an online game so I then decide not to go meet my BFF on that night.
I just want to be her second pillar, to be there, to be her BFF(if she allow me into her world) when she's down, sad, need a person because she told me she had no one to turn to but pastor/cell group. As for the second pillar, I mentioned just now, I know she's a Christian and God is always first, her first pillar, I understand that concept entirely.
After the stream, I told her that I wasn't happy that she had me waited, granted she didn't know but still, I am pretty [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]ed about it. All in all, her views of friendships are equals. She just enjoy different people's company as they are unique in their own way. Fine by me. But why she met up with me so often than usual before that night?
Sorry for being repetitive, I kinda have too many crap in my head to think and type properly, please excuse my randomness, she told me after the trip, she was depressed, but if that is so, why the sudden drop of frequency in meetup and activities? It was that night, misunderstand or not I do not know. I can see it with my own eyes. She insists she's unresponsive across the board when she's down, not just because of me, but across the board, everyone. I mean how does that even tally? This whole thing meet up of frequency just drop overnight, the way she talks to me is also different. It all started that night she wanted me to stream.
On Facebook, that's not really the case but she told me it's her poker face she had to put up, mentally and physically tired, I know she has been meeting up with another friend, well this friend of hers is a junkie, she was helping her going through court cases, lawyers and taking care of her and while she can do that, she kept giving me the same old theory of hers.
What I see is she is prioritizing just like I decide to stay home and wait for her return (read above). I am a person who prioritizes when it comes to friends, I am converting to be a Christian but I must admit right now I'm an atheist, I am trying to believe in Him.
I find her statement to be contradicting when she said was gonna dump a young kid, much younger than her, in a good way by having a dinner and bidding a final goodbye, it was that night. So, I asked her, a BFF and a normal friend, had a car accident both were in similar conditions, both have their family, both have friends there for them, she would choose the normal friend and later on ask forgiveness from her BFF, that's not prioritizing? Again, she just doesn't want to admit she prioritize or am I wrong, or am I thinking too much like she said?
Thanks for reading, I hope there's some good advice as our friendship is on the line of breaking off. Thin red line.
