Need some advice on this

[semodana]

Hello,
I am needing some guidance here. I was in a marriage for 24 years that was abusive. I divorced when my children were grown. I almost remarriage someone I met though work that lived out of the area, at the last minute it was like God though a curve at me and let me know this was not right for me so I left this guy. I went though a long emotional depression after this as I felt I had hurt this person. God revealed to me that I was seeing him though colored glasses.
After about 6 months, I met a man who lived about an hour from where I lived. He had been injured and was recovering. I married him feeling it was from God but since I attend church alone and live about an hour from my children who are married and doing fine. I miss the grandkids alot but go there often.
Since marrying this man it is clear he has a drinking problem. I do not deal with this well as my first husband drank also. This man is not abusive but I longed for someone to go to church with and share family with ect.
I have been thinking of leaving him but something is keeping me here. I ask God for guidance and it is as if he is telling me to wait, do nothing now. I wonder if my place is to be here or if I am just putting off the inevidable. So for the time being I am here, I try to set an example, go to church, pray and read my bible. I see my children often, work full time as a registered nurse. I pray each day for the right answer. I know divorce is wrong but at the same time I am not sure I am to be here.
I now realize that this marriage may have been my will and not God's but at the same time it is as if I am to be here?
Any advise to offer??
Thanks Dana

 

[Stanfi]

I am my no means a marriage expert, but when I read your post, the following verses came to mind.


1Cr 7:12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.

1Cr 7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.

1Cr 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

1Cr 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such [cases]: but God hath called us to peace.

1Cr 7:16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save [thy] husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save [thy] wife?

So, perhaps it is God's will that you are married to this man, and you might be the person to lead him to Christ. The only person who will know this for sure is you, by praying and seeking that God's will be done in your life. If you put God first, and seek Him, He will lead you. I believe that.

 

[Phoebe]

Maybe God is telling you to wait.

Has he shown any indication that he'd like to be freed from alcohol? You are praying for your husband, aren't you?

I say give it more time, and more prayer.

 

[jayswife29]

Pray without ceasing is my only advice as I have gone through similar situations, only difference is I'm on my first marriage but no matter how many times I have thought about divorce, God has told me to wait. I understand how lonely it can be to go to church alone, pray alone, be married alone. It's frustrating and heartbreaking, but God is bigger than any of our problems, and when God is ready to do His work, DUCK!! Get out of His way. I have made matters worse trying to do things my way, and I have had to learn to duck so God can get to my husband!! Good luck.