need prayer and advive

[noneedforbooze]

my wife of 17 and a half years have been separated for 17 months,this is the third time.weve been living apart though married.
as of now shes living w a boyfriend shes met on craigslist.
neither one of us has filed for divorce.
shes not interested in restoring the marriage.
ive been unfaithful to her,i never told her/
should i file or wait for the marriage to be restored.
i dont no what to do.
my 17 yr old daughter is acting out.shes now claimed shes bi-sexual

PLEASE HELP! and pray.
thanx..

 

[Woven]

I'm afraid I don't have any great advice to offer I just wanted to let you know that I'll be praying for your situation.

 

[Bradford73]

Sounds like a tough situation you've got on your hands. If you've been separated three times, and have been unfaithful to her, it sounds like the marriage may be past reparations. I would suggest moving forward with divorce proceedings and focus on your relationship with your daughter. When was it you were unfaithful to her? During the separation period, or while you were together?

 

[noneedforbooze]

i was unfaithful 1 yr after our third separation.shes probably been unfaithful too.shes been living w a man she met online

 

[noneedforbooze]

shes still living w her boyfriend.no one has filed yet.waiting on GOD.keep praying everyone please.

 

[txmom2three]

Praying for you, although no one can give you the clear answer, except to pray, seek God and maybe seek a male mentor if you know of someone. Biblically you can divorce since there were affairs, but I believe God can restore. Just seek Him....and it's probably healthier to stay single while you heal.

 

[technofox]

my wife of 17 and a half years have been separated for 17 months,this is the third time.weve been living apart though married.
as of now shes living w a boyfriend shes met on craigslist.
neither one of us has filed for divorce.
shes not interested in restoring the marriage.
ive been unfaithful to her,i never told her/
should i file or wait for the marriage to be restored.
i dont no what to do.
my 17 yr old daughter is acting out.shes now claimed shes bi-sexual

PLEASE HELP! and pray.
thanx..

Since CF bans any suggestion to divorce, you will see very limited advice here. Personally I would suggest praying and let God answer. You both cheated from what I can tell and the damage is severe, so its really important to seek God first to give you direction and peace with whatever direction He should lead you to.

As for your daughter being bi-sexual, this could be psychological issue beyond rebelling that may require both you and your wife to be involved in her recovery. It may be due to weakness in your paranting skills or something the alike where she is looking for someone to fill either role as mom/dad like figure to her, then again I could be wrong and she just happens to find both sexes attractive. I don't have any psychological training, just anthropological/sociological so I can only go by group issues, not individual issues.

Either way I will pray for you. Its a tough situation.

 

[vcs]

Prayers for you brother. Also, your daughter and wife and the tough situation you are all finding yourself in. May God bring wisdom and clarity.

 

[Jhail83]

You can't force her to reconcile, however you can alter your own behavior and influence her actions.

I would read some of the following books...
Hope for the Separated by Dr. Gary Chapman
The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman
Desperate Marriages by Dr. Gary Chapman
Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
Divorce Busting by Michele Wiener-Davis

Also I would go to a good marriage counselor. Even if you have to go alone at first.

I will pray for you. I don't believe any marriage is beyond saving, but there has to be willingness from both partners.