Need help with a friend..

[Ryanelectric]

I wasn't sure where to put this, so I decided to place it here.

Ive never been a strong christian, and have always been on shaky ground with God on my part. But today something happened that i just am not sure what to do about.

My best friend and I were at church tonight for something our church does sota like a youth group. She wasnt acting right. We went with our friend afterwards to Mcdonalds (sparing the details of some things) and after some harsh words i took our friend home and drove to the parking lot of the local menards and my friend and i talked. at first she denied anything was wrong. she just would keep saying shes a horrible person. finally i was able to get her to admit that she made a mistake yesterday, and had sex with a guy in his car. at first i didnt know what to say. all i could do is hold her. she was so upset she was shaking. literally shaking, and i could tell she was close to tears.

what im asking is, what can i do to help this girl? she regrets it so much and wishes she could take it back, but i know she cant. and now shes worried she might become pregnant. (it was unprotected) i know this isnt the place to put this, but im seriously at a loss. i want to help her so much but idk what i can do.

 

[Qyöt27]

It may seem cliché to say this, but with as touchy of a subject as this is, I think that simply being there is enough. To lend support and do what you can to reassure her that she isn't a horrible person because of this.

People make mistakes, and sexual ones do tend to hit home a lot more, but as it clearly being something regrettable to her means that what she needs is to be able to forgive herself. Forgiving oneself is always the hardest part, and for everyone else they just need to be supportive so that the person can cope with the things they're going through. Having the support of friends is a big factor in that.

 

[saturnne]

Give her hope. Our Father is there for her. All she can do now is to repent and trust in the all-loving Lord, whose essence is love itself.

 

[RobertMerton]

I would be there for her, pray for her,but i would be cautious with her.
I would try and not get too close with her.

I would also think about (and perhaps discuss this with her.. if you think you/she is okay with it) the 'morning after pill'.
the morning after pill is a contraception. ( ie. not a killing pill), however it is limited by 72 hours since the event occured.

I realise that this may offend some people, particularly catholics, but to other denominations who are 'pro-life', the morning after pill is of course a contraception.


is she a christian?
if it were my friend i would ask for her to pray for repentance.
then ii would ask for her to seek some counselling.
if i were not a strong christian, to which you have hinted, i would also try and keep my distance from her (whilst being there for her).
do not allow yourself to become tempted with her. I know this is a strange thing to ask,but we are in the midst of a war in the spiritual realm.

 

[explodingboy]

Pretty much got most bases covered, there isn't anything you really can do but be a shoulder at times.

Obviously CK makes a valid point with the morning after pill, and I'll throw in the whole get tested because unprotected sex is a great way to catch things.

But to be honest I don't quite understand how you end up having sex with someone in the back of their car.. which makes me question the telling of the story and perhaps "guy" needs to be exanded upon in some way, shape or form. That or the reasoning for the situations occurance.

 

[Keri]

The morning after pill and getting tested is the best thing to do. In most states you can get the morning after pill at a pharmacy for like $25.

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

Be there for her. Make sure that she knows no matter what you aren't going anywhere. Remind her she's forgiven, that's really all you can do.

 

[Mr Dave]

Be there for her, what she needs is probably someone to be there for here and to not make her feel worse.

I'll hold you both in my prayers too

 

[Rose of Eden]

I have to agree with most of the people here and say that just being there for her right now is the best. So keep being a wonderful friend to her! I also think that you should encourage her to talk to another woman that she is close to and trusts about what happened, preferably someone older than she is. The support, love, and guidance of a female friend or mentor is also something she needs desperately right now as well.

 

[WiredSpirit]

Should have taken her to the parking lot of the Home Depot.

You can do it, we can help.