Hello, I need help and prayers for this. I am a bit nervous to make this post, but hope other teens can relate and provide each other with help. Hello, I wanted to ask a question that had been bothering me for a while. I am a bit nervous to post this but wanted to get this out. Lately I have been very paranoid. I am a bit reclusive, but I have been coming out if my shell some and talking to people. My mom and dad are very very proud of me and state how much they love me every day. I am 16, and paint, I hope to follow my dream. I have talked to my mom and about my troubles a lot, and she does everything she can to help. We thought about getting professional help but someone we know stated that she suffers it too and the psychiatrist had made it worse, because of this professional help isn't the best option for me. I would get help, but even if I could right now I wouldn't out of nervousness. There are a lot of personal things I worry about deeply that I wish to keep to myself, but the main things I feel are worries of not being able to make friends. My mom has been taking me on grocery trips with her and out to the movies with her friends and they all love me, I try to be as kind and as happy as possible. I do feel happiness and excitement, but still worry. I do try to cheer myself up, and it does work, but I can't exactly get rid of the thoughts, so there is always kind of something that that worries me. I am scared I won't make friends because of this, or keep friends. My mom knows about this and always reassures me, but I do cry a lot. I get upset over trivial things and can't hide my feelings well. What I fear is that my depression will get in the way of things. I am scared people will see that I get sad a lot and will walk away because it ruins things. I know and understand that, when everyone else is happy and having a good time, it makes sense you would not want to be around someone who seems to always be sad, so I will try and fix this, but I am afraid that if I continue this habit of feeling this way, it will be hard to get people to like being around me. I am not one who can mask my moods well, or distract myself to get in a more happy mood. It is very petty, and that is why I wish to change it. I do have thoughts that are very hard to muffle, I have a inner critique that constantly chatters on the worst words anyone could say to anyone. I say sorry a lot over small things I accidentally do, my mom loves me, and she constantly reminds me every time that I do not need to say sorry over every little thing, but she doesn't get mad, she still loves me. Does anyone else feel this way? I also have constant feeling of paranoia and other personal feelings. I do feel happiness though, I go out for walks whenever possible and have gotten better at doing things that I would never normally do. There are a lot of positives in my life and I try to focus on them. But it has gotten in the way of acting normally, I love my family, and really want to change feelings, and follow my dreams without feeling this way.
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Hey, welcome 
Don't be nervous, we are not here to judge you but to help (or at least to try!).
It seems (I can be wrong, please tell if I am mistaken!) that you are worried about being "different", as it appears that you cannot fit society's idea of the perfect teen with thousands of friends. Seems like you are running after a kind of dreamy yourself, and that you are worrying because you cannot reach that fictional self.
If you want friends, and to be liked, you already need to like yourself. This is cool that you like people in your life, your families and nice events, however to blossom you need to love yourself.
You like to paint, and you said you were a good painter. Talent is an amazing and rarely thing, as you probably are (there is always a piece of yourself in your paintings). But you know, this is not all. I mean, you also have to accept and to love your weaknesses. Accept them. You are not really what you wanted to be? Ok. This is probably for a reason. Look for the reason! Look for yourself, and learn to love what you discover. You are easily sad? You are perhaps a nostalgic, a melancholy loner or an introvert, nothing wrong with that (I am a kind of introvert, so I hope ) Nostalgic people are often great artists or poets. Don't try to fit a narrow conception of happiness (and so a boring one), it will only bring you more problems, as you would only be looking for a fictional happiness.
About the psychiatrist, do as you feel. I personnally would advice you to go, but truly this is your choice. All I can say is that one of my good friends took antidepressants for years (she had been bullied at middle school and had psychologic aftereffects) and that she is now much much better. So it can sometimes be a solution.
Don't be nervous, we are not here to judge you but to help (or at least to try!).
It seems (I can be wrong, please tell if I am mistaken!) that you are worried about being "different", as it appears that you cannot fit society's idea of the perfect teen with thousands of friends. Seems like you are running after a kind of dreamy yourself, and that you are worrying because you cannot reach that fictional self.
If you want friends, and to be liked, you already need to like yourself. This is cool that you like people in your life, your families and nice events, however to blossom you need to love yourself.
You like to paint, and you said you were a good painter. Talent is an amazing and rarely thing, as you probably are (there is always a piece of yourself in your paintings). But you know, this is not all. I mean, you also have to accept and to love your weaknesses. Accept them. You are not really what you wanted to be? Ok. This is probably for a reason. Look for the reason! Look for yourself, and learn to love what you discover. You are easily sad? You are perhaps a nostalgic, a melancholy loner or an introvert, nothing wrong with that (I am a kind of introvert, so I hope
) Nostalgic people are often great artists or poets. Don't try to fit a narrow conception of happiness (and so a boring one), it will only bring you more problems, as you would only be looking for a fictional happiness.About the psychiatrist, do as you feel. I personnally would advice you to go, but truly this is your choice. All I can say is that one of my good friends took antidepressants for years (she had been bullied at middle school and had psychologic aftereffects) and that she is now much much better. So it can sometimes be a solution.
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Hey, welcome
Don't be nervous, we are not here to judge you but to help (or at least to try!).
It seems (I can be wrong, please tell if I am mistaken!) that you are worried about being "different", as it appears that you cannot fit society's idea of the perfect teen with thousands of friends. Seems like you are running after a kind of dreamy yourself, and that you are worrying because you cannot reach that fictional self.
If you want friends, and to be liked, you already need to like yourself. This is cool that you like people in your life, your families and nice events, however to blossom you need to love yourself.
You like to paint, and you said you were a good painter. Talent is an amazing and rarely thing, as you probably are (there is always a piece of yourself in your paintings). But you know, this is not all. I mean, you also have to accept and to love your weaknesses. Accept them. You are not really what you wanted to be? Ok. This is probably for a reason. Look for the reason! Look for yourself, and learn to love what you discover. You are easily sad? You are perhaps a nostalgic, a melancholy loner or an introvert, nothing wrong with that (I am a kind of introvert, so I hope
About the psychiatrist, do as you feel. I personnally would advice you to go, but truly this is your choice. All I can say is that one of my good friends took antidepressants for years (she had been bullied at middle school and had psychologic aftereffects) and that she is now much much better. So it can sometimes be a solution.
Thank you so much for the reply. <3 I will try and be more relaxed than nervous.
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You know, I have felt similar shyness, especially in the new church I have been attending. I could feel my heart ache and my body tremble at the thought of meeting new people, but I must say that in all honesty, the love of Christ is in you ! He will comfort you and help you to relax. The one thing that helps me to make friends is being comfortable with myself. I see alot of myself in you, and knowing that, I have a lot of personal insecurity. One of my friends Marjory posted a picture on her Instagram feed, and the quote read: "Confidence is quiet; Insecurity is loud" . The only way to move past your insecurity is to accept it. I've found that in order to make new friends, in order to find love, in order to become truly happy, you have to be comfortable with yourself. That is what is most important when it comes to how you feel internally. And trust me, prayers can help with that. The key to making those prayers work is faith. Just believe it will get easier. Work in harmony with what you pray for, because after all, faith without works is dead! You will see results in due time, friend!
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