Need Encouragement

[lucybee]

Hey there,

I tried to talk to someone in person about what happened, but it didnt go good. I guess I shouldnt have been suprised, but it still hit me hard
The person I tried to talk to wasnt involved in anyway, but they still had very strong feelings. You can imagine a few of the names I was called. And all the blame was put on me. I didnt let on how bad they hurt me while they were around. I couldnt let them see me cry. It seems just when I was getting better they had to come along and destroy my confidence and peace. I guess I just need to hear a few kind words or some encouragement, to try and make me feel better.

 

[vibrant]

aw, i'm so sorry!

when the weight of what i'm facing dawns on me, tears fall and shoulders bow. soon, however, i realize that i'm not weakened by my soulful cries. up from a past that rooted in pain, i rise into the realization that i'm more than a conqueror (2, 3). i have a peace that transcends all understanding because i know that as i pass through the waters, my God is with me; and when i pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over me. when i walk through the fire, i will not be burned; the flames will not set me ablaze. for the LORD is my God, and He loves me! (4) The height and depth and breadth of that love sustains me even when my attention is focused on the darkness, but even there, my Redeemer lives, saving me from the brink of disaster (5).

2. "i rise" maya angelou
3. romans 8:37
4. isaiah 43:2-4
5. job 19:25

 

[thepianist]

I'm so sorry to hear how talking to someone turned out for you. Please know that you will be in my prayers.

 

[lucybee]

Ever felt the need to kick someone, while their down? They came ack because in their words"they had more to say"... do you have any good advice that I can use to tell them to back off and let me begin to heal again?

 

[goldenviolet]

Ever felt the need to kick someone, while their down?

many times.

i was thinking about your posts. the last real time that i felt 'beaten' i couldn't seem to climb out of that feeling. i had to go to my pastor for counsel. he quoted to me a scripture that i had been reading and re-reading.
"count it as joy when you fall into various trials...." wow was i surprised. i realized that God had sent this scripture to me to apply it to my needs now.
the pastor pointed out what i had not realized about the scripture: "if any of you lacks wisdom, ask, and i will give librally without reproach" .... wow!! all the times i asked for something in prayer that wasn't answered: this was a promise to give me lots of widsom to help me deal with my trials. then that left the last part... "no doubting or you'll be tossed about like the sea"... so i asked my pastor: he exsplained that the winds toss the sea around. and when we doubt God's plans and promises, then our doubt is like the wind... tossing us about.


Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world. John 16:33

James 1:2-9
2 My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, 3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. 4 But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.

For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal. 2 Corinthians 4:17


then this took me to philippians 4:6-9
6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. 9 The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you.

to you a sisterly warmfuzzy ... when we get hurt and are sad and mournful. practice going back to the things that are praiseworthy. and trust that your exsperiance will work to your benifet and knowledge... because you are called a child of the most high God.

 

[Psalmangel]

Hey there,

I tried to talk to someone in person about what happened, but it didnt go good. I guess I shouldnt have been suprised, but it still hit me hard
The person I tried to talk to wasnt involved in anyway, but they still had very strong feelings. You can imagine a few of the names I was called. And all the blame was put on me. I didnt let on how bad they hurt me while they were around. I couldnt let them see me cry. It seems just when I was getting better they had to come along and destroy my confidence and peace. I guess I just need to hear a few kind words or some encouragement, to try and make me feel better.

Perhaps they themselves were victims of this as well and blame themselves. the scriptures does say love your neighbors as much as you love youreself.
So if they blame themselves, they are going to do the same to others who admit they were in a similar situation.

Perhaps you should let them see you cry. It'll drop coals on their head.

And amen to the post above this one.

I tell you the truth, you will make through. just like the mebrs said above, if Jesus can do it then so can you, in Jesus' name. You will overcome it.

 

[girlintact]

well... maybe it's to put your strength & faith in test. when something happens that you don't like, i guess God is wondering if how you're going to react to it. for me, nowadays, when something wrong happens, the first thing i do is turn to God. and you know what God does, he eases my pain. I guess he wants to know if you're going to call out to him and ask him for help.

sometimes when we ask for God's help, we're not sure that he's going to give us answer because we don't know if he heard us. but you need to have faith, even if you have to remind yourself, "i have to trust God" do it. i'm telling you, if you put all your trust in him to find you a solution to your problem, he'll give you more than what you want.

always know that what happened to you WAS NOT! your fault. no matter what people think of you or call you, God ALWAYS ALWAYS loves you for who you are regardless of your past.

i hope this helps.

 

[justcallmejamie]

Ever felt the need to kick someone, while their down? They came ack because in their words"they had more to say"... do you have any good advice that I can use to tell them to back off and let me begin to heal again?

I wouldnt even bother speaking to them again ever, the best thing you can ever do for yourself is get away from toxic people...when dealing with Sexual Assault, God has given me very specific instructions to choose very wisely who i talk to about it, most people jsut dont get it babe, this way i dont reinjure myself by talking to someone who is clueless...there loss not yours.