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kdet

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I badly need some advice from fellow Christians. I am having a problem with a member of my church. Now I know how petty us humans can be and how easily hurt we can be but even though my dislike for this person is probably all wrapped up in pettiness and my own feelins about myself I still can't let go of my bitterness towards her.
I have prayed and prayed about this and for awhile it seemed to be getting better for me, I wasn't so sensitive to everything she said to me, but alas those feelings have came back with a vengence!
I feel she is constantly looking down on me, that she finds me lackinjg somehow. I have reached out towards her in friendship many times...making her praise cd's, baking her things, taking her son out with my son to lunch and to the movies on me...and I am always rebuffed.

I finally decided that i had had enough and was just going to be civil towards her and that is all. The only problem is that she runs the MOM in Touch program and I had been attending that once a week with her and now that I've stopped, I know there will be some hard questions to answer.
I really would rather just avoid her altogether, but that probably isn't the right thing to do either.
I keep praying about it but I'm not sure if I'm listenign to God or my own selfish desires.
Anyway, any help? Any advice? Any verses that might help?
 
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I think that you should continue to be nice to this person. I think what you have been doing so far is very good. She may have personal issues that cause her to act the way she does. Keep praying and look to the Lord for wisdom on what to say and how to act. Also, pray for her. Praying for her could make a big difference. If you already have been, then continue to do that. Also, continue to show her love and friendship. Ask the Lord to help you do this if you are having trouble. Oh...and the key to know whether it's God or you talking is by the Word. The Lord won't go against His word. Look for scriptures in the Bible for the situation and see if you're listening to God or yourself.
 
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I think the NT advises us to approach fellow Christians one on one with our grievances toward them to attempt to resolve them. If that fails we are to go to the church elders with the problem. I advise you to try those out and see what happens. If she is like this to you she has probably done this to others, she may not even know she is doing it. Rather than letting her continue this in ignorance or maliciousness letting her know how you feel could be all she needs to change the behavior.
 
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Okay, what you are doing is great! You are being nice to a sister that is not nice back. Now, I know that it's hard, but just think of it like this. Plenty of people had problems with Jesus, but he was never mean back, he simply loved them because he loves everyone! You must keep up that great Christian testimony. Getting in the flesh is not the way to handle things at all. It never helps, thats what satan wants us to do, and you dont wanna give that punk his way. I would suggest to going back to the MOM thing, and continue being nice to her. If they ask why you hadnt been going, simply say you had some important things to resolve. If you get in the flesh, you will create a division. In some of Pauls epistles, he talks about his sadness because of the problems that the churches were having. They were creating division. Think of how Christ must feel when he sees 2 people in his church fighting! So just keep up the good testimony and continue what you've been doing. Dont look at her, but look at the Lord and if she isnt nice to you, then she'll have to answer to God someday. I hope I've helped you somewhat.
 
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