Need Advice :(

[x.miranda.x]

Ok, so yes I have this posted in the Christian Advice Section as well. I am just posting here to see if others will read it as well.---Ok, so let me give a little bit of background first...So there is this guy, he and I used to to be really close best friends. We had great times together, and our personalities just "click". Anyways, everything was great... then there was this girl, who I was also friends with at the time (and I am DEFINETLY no longer), and she told him that I was saying all of these things about him and asking him out repeatively. And I never said any of it. Anyways, he got upset, and stopped talking to me. But then I talked to him, and we straightened it all out. And then... this girl started it again... this time we were split for good. And I haven't talked to him in 3 years -So anyways, I have been praying about this situation & him since it happened.... It's gone from begging to be friends again, to begging for me to not care, because it hurts too much. Just like at our last youth group meeting, it was after dark, and the youth group was outside playing volleyball, and I was watching, and just being around him, and seeing him... I just need to not care soo much, because it's so hard for me to be around him, and remembering everything.. that I just broke down crying. But it was dark and nobody saw...thankfully. And I don't understand why I can't get over him. I have been able to get over anyone and anything else better than him... and trust me I have had some rough things to get over....But for some reason, he won't get out of my mind.And lately I have been praying harder and more than usual... and he has become more and more involved in my life. He has even been coming to my church & youth group.But I've been praying and praying.. and I keep getting mixed messages from God. He keeps bringing him more and more into my life, and things sem like they will start to get better...then he backs it up. And also, more lately, I have been having dreams about this... and we end up being close, but something keeps blocking it, but I never know what it is...So what is God trying to tell me? Should I talk to this guy face to face (which I am scared to death to do), or leave the situation.. or what? ANY advice is welcome!!!

 

[Aino]

I'd say that just talk to him. He probably doesn't even care so much any more since it's been 3 years already for goodness' sake. He might have not believed you back then, but now he's had some time to go through it on his own and will perhaps listen to you more willingly. And if you never do, then you'll never get over him. You'll never get this straight with him... Wouldn't that be stupid?

Just start talking to him, ask how he's been doing and what's going on in his life. Be interested in him there and then and bring the old stuff up again first when you've kind of broken the ice with other stuff and have something else to go back to when you've dealt with it - that will help you avoid awkwardness afterwards, do you know what I mean? I hope you'll get this off your chest soon and get back to being friends with him again. My PM box is open if you need to talk or would wish to be prayed for... And ask away if there's something important that I didn't address yet.

 

[x.miranda.x]

Thanks But I do do have another question. Why is it that the more I seem to try and get away from him ( emontionally, and seeing him), the more he is showing up? Is God trying to tell me something, or teaching me a lesson?

 

[RobertMerton]

Thanks But I do do have another question. Why is it that the more I seem to try and get away from him ( emontionally, and seeing him), the more he is showing up? Is God trying to tell me something, or teaching me a lesson?

sounds like a trial.

 

[Steve Gleaves]

I know the textbook right thing is just to go and talk to him, but I can understand you being scared to talk to him (I certainly would be) so have you maybe tried talking to one of his friends or maybe siblings about it? 3 years does seem like a long time to hold a grudge but sometimes one good conversation can fix a lot, even so I will try to remember you in my prayers.

 

[x.miranda.x]

Thanks and finally someone who doesn't think I'm rediculous for being a little scared haha