Need advice: Wedding etiquette

[sad astronaut]

My fiance and I are about to be married. We recently sent out wedding invitations. She has two sets of parents (both parents divorced and remarried) and I have one set. On the invitations, we just put the names of both her sets of parents, as it is wedding etiquette to just put the hosting families on the invite (they both shared the expenses).

Well, my dad emailed me yesterday and said he was deeply hurt for being excluded from the invitation. I explained to him about typical wedding etiquette, but he said that etiquette should not matter at the cost of someone's feelings. In my opinion, they should not take offense to it.

In all fairness to them, our (my fiance and I) relationship has not been the best. My parents state that I don't make an effort to include them in my life. We've tried to make an effort in the past 6 months, but it has been limited due to our being busy (college and wedding planning with her family and going to other people's wedding). They think the invitations just fall in line with me trying to exclude them from my lives.

Any thoughts?

 

[Matthew Hobbs]

You're in the right - the groom's family is not acknowledged in the traditional wedding invitation.

 

[karla]

We put both of our parents on the invitation for our wedding. But, in your case, you did what you felt was correct and you can't go back and change it. I would just apologize to your dad and explain to him that you didn't intentionally mean to hurt his feelings, but if you did that you were sorry.

 

[Flipper]

My fiance and I are about to be married. We recently sent out wedding invitations. She has two sets of parents (both parents divorced and remarried) and I have one set. On the invitations, we just put the names of both her sets of parents, as it is wedding etiquette to just put the hosting families on the invite (they both shared the expenses).

Well, my dad emailed me yesterday and said he was deeply hurt for being excluded from the invitation. I explained to him about typical wedding etiquette, but he said that etiquette should not matter at the cost of someone's feelings. In my opinion, they should not take offense to it.

In all fairness to them, our (my fiance and I) relationship has not been the best. My parents state that I don't make an effort to include them in my life. We've tried to make an effort in the past 6 months, but it has been limited due to our being busy (college and wedding planning with her family and going to other people's wedding). They think the invitations just fall in line with me trying to exclude them from my lives.

Any thoughts?

You did the right thing under the circumstances. You may want to make sure he is included in the wedding program, however.

 

[allieisme]

I wish I could help you out a little bit, but when me and my husband got married almost 8 years ago, we sort of eloped, so no body knew about it, until after the fact~~That's a entirely different thread in itself
It's kind of sad to me that your parents are making you feel bad, when this is supposed to be one of the happiest times in your life, to me they should be thankful their son, found a girl he wants to spend the rest of his life with, to grow old with, and to make them grandparents.