My views seem to change with the people I'm with.

[Audacious]

I don't know if it's odd or not, but it seems odd to me.

When I'm with my brother, I'll start acting like him; I'll mock people around him and say untrue things behind their backs (I've even done this towards my best friend) just to act like him when I'm around him. I'll even almost take up his horrible, self-righteous sense of morality for a few hours if I spent a lot of time with him (he thinks he's the most important person in the world, basically).

I don't know if it's insecurity, or what. I'm an ex-cutter (I haven't cut for about a year now), I have an eating disorder (not bulimia or anorexia - I have a really hard time eating meat, fruits, and vegetables, along with anything that doesn't have a lot of sugar on it or something -- this makes me pretty short, so on the fronts of physical health and on my height, I'm very insecure), and I've got a bit of a problem with compulsive lying (I'll lie about really small things that don't matter, like how many hours I've put into something, and things like that).

I've also been dealing with depression for the past year or so, which has made me lose a lot of my actual sense of identity, and I feel lost - I'll go days without praying or reading the bible, and I'm barely hanging on to my own religion, something that I should be defining myself by.

Anyway. Is this normal (if you somehow sort of ignore the eating disorder, cutting, depression, etc.)?

James

 

[HarborOrange]

I don't know if it's odd or not, but it seems odd to me.

When I'm with my brother, I'll start acting like him; I'll mock people around him and say untrue things behind their backs (I've even done this towards my best friend) just to act like him when I'm around him. I'll even almost take up his horrible, self-righteous sense of morality for a few hours if I spent a lot of time with him (he thinks he's the most important person in the world, basically).

I don't know if it's insecurity, or what. I'm an ex-cutter (I haven't cut for about a year now), I have an eating disorder (not bulimia or anorexia - I have a really hard time eating meat, fruits, and vegetables, along with anything that doesn't have a lot of sugar on it or something -- this makes me pretty short, so on the fronts of physical health and on my height, I'm very insecure), and I've got a bit of a problem with compulsive lying (I'll lie about really small things that don't matter, like how many hours I've put into something, and things like that).

I've also been dealing with depression for the past year or so, which has made me lose a lot of my actual sense of identity, and I feel lost - I'll go days without praying or reading the bible, and I'm barely hanging on to my own religion, something that I should be defining myself by.

Anyway. Is this normal (if you somehow sort of ignore the eating disorder, cutting, depression, etc.)?

James

I dunno, I'd say it's sort of normal, for this day and age... For this generation. We seem to abandon our own beliefs to fit in with others. It's sort of depressing. I don't, but I've always been sorta the loner kid because of who I am, it's in my personality to prefer being alone... So, I've never denied my views and beliefs, but I know many that do.

The stronger you get in your faith, the less and less your views will change when you're with someone else. But don't grow in religion, don't blindly follow your pastor. Take it upon yourself to get to know G-d better... And remember, belief is not just blind and stupid belief. Belief is trust in the Father... And if anyone ever questions you in your beliefs, prove to them what you believe by obedience.

 

[solarwave]

I suppose its normal, some or all people change a bit depending on who they are with.

 

[Mela Monkey]

Yeah sounds normal, maybe it's something you have to consiously work on changing.

I see it a lot with ppl whoare dating... gets really annoying in that situation lol

 

[breatheinthedeepbluesea]

How strange! haha. I too am very short (5'1") and went through severe depression around your age (about 3 years ago). I too find myself changing and adjusting around different people. However, I try to do so more as an effort to make others comfortable rather than to 'fit in'. For example, around my co-workers whom mostly consist of uneducated adults, I am very laidback and I tend to use a 'lower' vocabulary which consists of a lot of slang terms. However, when around my professors and peers, I am a bit more apt to lean towards an expanded vocabulary and you may label me as 'uptight'. I am comfortable in either skin, but I act how I believe will make those around me feel more comfortable.

What you're going through is perfectly normal. Those first few years of teenage are very difficult for all and many face challenges. Cutting, eating disorders, suicide rates.. all of these statistics are growing rapidly in our society when really the only answer any of us needs is Christ. You are never alone in His love. The best advice I can offer you is to try and limit yourself to a smaller crowd of people who you don't feel the need to taunt others or make them feel inferior. Never cast stones! The only allowed to judge is God. Get involved in busy work, volunteer work, church, school, etc and the years will fly by.

Always remember to examine your actions and ask yourself how this fits into the holy word, whether or not what you are doing is impure or unholy... if you'd like an old fashioned cliche.. ask yourself: What Would Jesus Do?

If you would like to PM me, feel free. Good luck and God bless!

 

[p1gs6]

Hey,
I'm brand new to this forum but i think i may be able to help. Basically i know exactly what your going through. For a very long time in high school i wouldn't allow my self to believe in God. My thought towards it was how can i look someone in the eye and tell them i believe in God when I smoke pot, drink, give into sexual temptation, and many other things. I would literally say things like god isn't real around my friends who are athesist because i know thats what they believed. My advice would be to keep God in mind next time your with your brother. If your thinking about God you probably will stop yourself from saying something mean or wrong with your brother. And yes i would say its completely normal. Its human nature. You gotta fight through it. Keep praying.

Ha hope that helps man

 

[Kellen]

It's like growing pains and most of us have gone through this. You are 16? I was really in a whole different group of kids at your age and now I've matured to choose the more positive clan. You have to get through the teen years to realize all this. LOL