my supervisor hates me

[seremela06]

i am an airman. my supervisor is a tech sergeant. he talks to me like i'm a moron. i hate it! i hate being treated like i don't know what i'm doing. it's rare that i screw something up, but even when everything is perfect, he talks to me in a way to make me feel like a complete idiot.

our doctor has been on leave for a week and has a week to go so i don't have anything to do for two weeks. i've been working on training and helping out the clinic next door as well as sharing the front desk duties with our admin girl.

today he made me come up with an inventory list for the rooms and made me feel retarded because i didn't clean all the rooms while i was at it. then, i recently got married, so i had to update my information in the command section. when i went to do it weeks ago, the girl that normally does that stuff was on leave so i gave it to her stand in. apparently it got lost so my supervisor thinks i'm lying because they don't have it.

and lastly, monday, wednesday, and fridays we go to pt. the other airman i work with takes an hour in the morning and i take an hour in the afternoon. well, today since we didn't have anything to do, i was talking with my supervisor and, joking around, said that i should go get my car washed. he was like, "no, you can take care of that on lunch." and then he said, "actually, go do it now." so i did. when i asked him if it was okay for me to go to pt, he said no, because he was taking that time from getting my car washed. which is ridiculous. if he'd told me that, i would've gotten my car washed during lunch like i'd originally planned... twenty minutes later, he came up to the airman that went this morning and was like, "you can go home." and she looked kind of confused and said, "i went to pt this morning." and he was like, "i know. freswick can watch your desk." so she essentially got to go to pt twice. and i'm stuck here all day.

i don't know what to do! it makes me feel horrible!!!

 

[jcook922]

Use your chain of command, talk to your supervisor and ask if there's anything wrong, doesn't matter if that resolves anything, it just gets the ball rolling so you can speak to the next person up, say, your first sgt.

 

[Autumnleaf]

Maybe you made him mad. Is the other girl married? Is your stupervisor married? He may just be miffed you are unavailable.

This happened when I was in the Marines when one of my peers took a liking to a subordinate.

 

[seremela06]

she's not married. he is. i don't think that has anything to do with it. i think he's just trying to make a point because he told me i needed to get my car washed but i couldn't because the car wash was closed... so i got punished for it.

 

[Autumnleaf]

she's not married. he is. i don't think that has anything to do with it. i think he's just trying to make a point because he told me i needed to get my car washed but i couldn't because the car wash was closed... so i got punished for it.

That could be it. The situation I was referring to was between a married Sergeant and an unmarried Lance Corporal in the Marines. Who knows.

 

[Waren7]

You should go through your chain of command or talk to him personally. Probably the latter first would be better.

 

[thoughtIwas]

I am in the Army. I have noticed in my 3 1/2 years that some people abuse their power. I told one of my specialists the other day. Some people are who they are because they joined the military. They are usually the ones that had no friends in high school and have never really been leaders. If you feel singled out unfairly it needs to be run up the chain. Especially, if you just got married. Stress at work ineviatably leads to stress at the house. You may not even realize it. Talk to the next higher. See if your peers see the same things as you. Sworn statemants work wonders. Dont be afraid to ripple the water. I made that mistake a few times and just tryed to stay under the radar with people that did not like me. Its better in the long run to fix the problem. If you have to ask you supervisor for a one on one. Permission to speak freely sort of thing. You Know? Start there if you catch flak go up the chain. It will get better one way or another. Especially, if your peer believe you are being hastled for no reason.

 

[daveleau]

Hey, I know what you mean. While I'm not enlisted, we get the same things often. It all depends on the supervisor. There are definitely varying qualities of supervisors.

My advise would be to simply work hard and understand that that 28 to 35 year old TSgt has to supervise a lot of people right out of high school who often have little initiative or work sense. Do your best to make a name as one who goes above and beyond. An example would be to check up on others when you task them with something. For instance, that girl that took your paperwork. Check up on her after a few hours to see if she got it right. More often than not, they didn't. Those are the types of people that drive supervisors batty, and that can also make you look bad.

Have patience with your supe. If you can't please this one, another one will replace him soon enough. Just make sure you aren't on the bad side of the old supe for being impatient or for being that guy who always makes up excuses.

If it gets worse, then I'd talk to someone. But, simply looking at you or talking to you like you are not as smart as you are is not something I would bother the chain of command with until it gets really bad. Then, start at the bottom of the chain, and work up.

Thanks for your service, and keep working hard. He'll recognize hard work and set you apart from the masses of people that need to be talked to the way you are describing.

In Christ,
Dave

 

[bliz]

I don't know... it just seems like there is not enough work to do...