My story

[FlyingUnicorn]

I was married for almost six years to John when he was killed by a drunk driver on December 19th last year. He had just told me the week before that he had found someone else but didn't want to ruin our kid's Christmas and so wouldn't say or do anything until after the new year. I was already devastated that he didn't love me anymore, and then he was gone completely. I was already carrying our twins and as a result of the stress landed in the hospital over Christmas. Our girls are due in two weeks, but the doctor says they aren't developed enough to come any time before then, so as of today I am back on bed rest. Our other two kids have been wonderful - helping me when I need them, going next door to my parents if I need them to, and they've kept their rooms clean without me having to fuss too much. They miss their daddy, especially John Jr (JJ), and they always will. I never told them he was planning on running out on us, I don't think it would have done any good.

Sorry this is long, I just wanted to get my story out, hopefully it will bring some closure.

 

[singingwife]

Welcome, FlyingUnicorn. Your story is SO heartbreaking! I can only imagine your mixed feelings. Thanks for sharing. I too pray that you can find closure and healing here.

 

[jenelis]

My mom lost her husband three years ago on March 20. Your story has familiar ring in that my mom confided in me that he had told her he wanted a divorce just about a month before he died. I think its really a hard situation for you to deal with. I would never, ever tell the kids-- it would devistate them even if they are old enough to understand. I know you're still grieving. But, in time, you owe it to yourself to move on and find someone who will love you in good, bad and everything in-between.

Gob bless!

 

[kaykay9.0]

Hi, Flying unicorn.
I am not a widow, but my husband and I have done a bit of grief recovery type work since we lost our only child about 7 years ago. Because of that, I have come in contact with several widows. Quite a few of them said that counseling helped them the most. In your case, where the circumstance was even more complex than usual, I think you especially might benefit from that if you can swing it someway. Praying for you!