I was one year old when my sister was born. We have been very close ever since. After high school, I went to college and chased my career. She got married young, had children and then went to college.
She was an excellent mother who would get her kids to school, go to school herself, pick kids up and get them to their extra curricular activities, make dinner and then do a Bible study and prayer time with them every night. After they went to bed, she studied. She graduated with honors. Meantime, her husband worked very hard to provide for the family and my sister. He paid for her college, vehicles and their home. He participated in the extra curricular activities with the kids. We all went to church together every Sunday.
I admired my sister because she was humble and so happy with the life she created. Until she wasn’t.
My sister had an affair with a family friend. I think I’m the only one who knew. She still took care of her kids, went to church and enjoyed date nights with her husband. I believe the guy didn’t want anything serious-so she broke it off. She told me how heartbroken she was. Because I learned of it after the fact-I didn’t have much to say.
Then I learned she was having another affair. This time, it was with her boss. After the affair, she was away from home 5-6 nights a week. She’d pick fights w her husband and then storm out…returning around 5-6am the next morning. She stopped going to church. She stopped raising her kids.
The boss fell for her, divorced his wife, left his children. His family was ruined. My sisters family was ruined. This went on for 6 or more years. She’d lie and say she was at out of town work conferences-when she was really on vacation with her boss.
In the process-she was burning through an obscene amount of money. She told everyone she had a gambling problem…but was not honest about the affair. She begged and borrowed from everyone. Multiple times I gave her money…one time, more than $1,000 and did not ask for it back. Another time $500.
Meanwhile, her husband just thought she’d lost her mind. He had no clue about the affair. He was bailing her out of financial problems. He started drinking regularly. They’d fight. He’d yell and cuss. She’d then feel justified in leaving. She told everyone that he was physically abusive. I know he wasn’t perfect, but he was not abusing her physically. She garnered sympathy. She was able to borrow thousands of dollars from family to divorce him.
She divorced him and got a nice payout. But she didn’t leave him. In fact it was like a light switch went on in her brain. They began dating. Flaunting their relationship. She was talking about re marrying him. They went on a vacation together. They were inseparable the year after her divorce. She was, in ways, returning to who she used to be. She was involved in her children’s lives afain.
Not long after tho, she starting seeing another guy. She completely left her family: husband and kids, to be with this new guy. Her kids have suffered so much through her selfishness.
Anytime I have tried to talk to her-she yells at me, mocks me for being so “perfect,” and tells me I’m judgmental. I feel led to help her. But I do not know how. Also…she and I are not the same. I do not like or respect this version of her. How, as a God fearing Christian, should I be in this situation?
She was an excellent mother who would get her kids to school, go to school herself, pick kids up and get them to their extra curricular activities, make dinner and then do a Bible study and prayer time with them every night. After they went to bed, she studied. She graduated with honors. Meantime, her husband worked very hard to provide for the family and my sister. He paid for her college, vehicles and their home. He participated in the extra curricular activities with the kids. We all went to church together every Sunday.
I admired my sister because she was humble and so happy with the life she created. Until she wasn’t.
My sister had an affair with a family friend. I think I’m the only one who knew. She still took care of her kids, went to church and enjoyed date nights with her husband. I believe the guy didn’t want anything serious-so she broke it off. She told me how heartbroken she was. Because I learned of it after the fact-I didn’t have much to say.
Then I learned she was having another affair. This time, it was with her boss. After the affair, she was away from home 5-6 nights a week. She’d pick fights w her husband and then storm out…returning around 5-6am the next morning. She stopped going to church. She stopped raising her kids.
The boss fell for her, divorced his wife, left his children. His family was ruined. My sisters family was ruined. This went on for 6 or more years. She’d lie and say she was at out of town work conferences-when she was really on vacation with her boss.
In the process-she was burning through an obscene amount of money. She told everyone she had a gambling problem…but was not honest about the affair. She begged and borrowed from everyone. Multiple times I gave her money…one time, more than $1,000 and did not ask for it back. Another time $500.
Meanwhile, her husband just thought she’d lost her mind. He had no clue about the affair. He was bailing her out of financial problems. He started drinking regularly. They’d fight. He’d yell and cuss. She’d then feel justified in leaving. She told everyone that he was physically abusive. I know he wasn’t perfect, but he was not abusing her physically. She garnered sympathy. She was able to borrow thousands of dollars from family to divorce him.
She divorced him and got a nice payout. But she didn’t leave him. In fact it was like a light switch went on in her brain. They began dating. Flaunting their relationship. She was talking about re marrying him. They went on a vacation together. They were inseparable the year after her divorce. She was, in ways, returning to who she used to be. She was involved in her children’s lives afain.
Not long after tho, she starting seeing another guy. She completely left her family: husband and kids, to be with this new guy. Her kids have suffered so much through her selfishness.
Anytime I have tried to talk to her-she yells at me, mocks me for being so “perfect,” and tells me I’m judgmental. I feel led to help her. But I do not know how. Also…she and I are not the same. I do not like or respect this version of her. How, as a God fearing Christian, should I be in this situation?
