my ruin life...

[xr022kbKr02h]

most ppl dislike me or laughs at me juz becuz i dun look good enough and i walks in a funny way (strange tt i dun feel tt my walking style is abnormal...)

therefor, to show everyone tt i am not a weakling, stop despicing me and in fact, a smart guy, i began to work harder in my studies, however, they said that i m too ambitious.

i stare at ppl when they laugh at me...and they say tt i m too fierce

thus i ignore ppl when they laugh at me and call me idiol ( in a sarcastic way)

i began to fall in luv wif a gal and wanted to forget her...but deep in my heart...i noe that i dun really want to forget her...

and somehow, the secret tt i like this gal gets out...now...ppl are laughing at me again...

somehow...i hate everyone in this world to a certain extent (yes, including my mum...she said something i dun like to hear when i said that i plan to go to university)...somehow, i want to be like Hitler, conquering the world until everyone is full of fear wif me...no one will despice me anymore...the last time i told that to someone...they said that i m a sadist...

all i wanted is juz to show that i m not a weakling, i m a guy full of talent...but m i wrong? perhaps the saying that ppl judge ppl by their looks is rite after all...if ppl show me no luv, why should i show luv towards them?

a few days ago, i juz made a vow to whoever is up there in the sky tt i will not allow failure to happen in any part of my life again, i will show everyone tt i m greater than anyone else...m i wrong to do this?

ps: the reason i m posting this thread in this place is becuz the last time i post something similiar in ' questions for non-christian', i get ppl telling me to join the church and make friends wif christians...pls, this is not the type of advice i need rite now...i jus need some pratical advice for myself...

 

[wackyjo]

you've got loads on your mind...I dont know what to say!
Praying for you at this time!

 

[ApostateAbe]

ruixiangz, the most important thing for you to realize is that all the ridicule stops when you get out of school full of children. Don't lose your ambition. Don't lose your hope to conquer the world. The kids who are ridiculing you are destined to be mediocre at best, and they will probably be losers. Since they don't have the ambition you have, their laughter will be short-lived. Follow your dream and go to a university. You won't find any ridicule there, trust me.

Don't be distracted by girls. They will only hold you back. You can have your choice pick when you become rich and powerful.

 

[TLC4God]

Hey you need to be in the word read your bible and pray with friends and family just spend time with God.

 

[TheOriginalWhitehorse]

Ruixiangz,

If people are laughing at you because of how you walk, friend, you've been hanging out with entirely wrong people. Please remember: if they laugh, it says more about them than it does about you.

You definitely don't want to become like Hitler. People who are feared are also hated, and I'm guessing that's a pretty lonely life. People being nice because they have to, but no one to truly share your heart with. It wouldn't do much to impress that girl, I will say that!

The answer is to simply ignore them: bullies are usually people desperate for attention. If you don't give it, they'll eventually shut up. But something needs to be done about that hate problem.

Blessings to you.

 

[Bevlina]

most ppl dislike me or laughs at me juz becuz i dun look good enough and i walks in a funny way (strange tt i dun feel tt my walking style is abnormal...)

therefor, to show everyone tt i am not a weakling, stop despicing me and in fact, a smart guy, i began to work harder in my studies, however, they said that i m too ambitious.

i stare at ppl when they laugh at me...and they say tt i m too fierce

thus i ignore ppl when they laugh at me and call me idiol ( in a sarcastic way)

i began to fall in luv wif a gal and wanted to forget her...but deep in my heart...i noe that i dun really want to forget her...

and somehow, the secret tt i like this gal gets out...now...ppl are laughing at me again...

somehow...i hate everyone in this world to a certain extent (yes, including my mum...she said something i dun like to hear when i said that i plan to go to university)...somehow, i want to be like Hitler, conquering the world until everyone is full of fear wif me...no one will despice me anymore...the last time i told that to someone...they said that i m a sadist...

all i wanted is juz to show that i m not a weakling, i m a guy full of talent...but m i wrong? perhaps the saying that ppl judge ppl by their looks is rite after all...if ppl show me no luv, why should i show luv towards them?

a few days ago, i juz made a vow to whoever is up there in the sky tt i will not allow failure to happen in any part of my life again, i will show everyone tt i m greater than anyone else...m i wrong to do this?

ps: the reason i m posting this thread in this place is becuz the last time i post something similiar in ' questions for non-christian', i get ppl telling me to join the church and make friends wif christians...pls, this is not the type of advice i need rite now...i jus need some pratical advice for myself...

Well here's some practical advice Dear One. You are a beautiful person with blood flowing through your veins and a beating heart. Your beauty shines from within you. Your heart beats to love, and to be loved. And you are loved.
I'm not going to tell you to do this and that. All I'm going to say to you is, YOU are a beautiful being. And you were born for a reason.
You are NOT wrong to prove to yourself, and to the world that you can be greater than anyone else - because you are, right at this moment as good as anyone on this planet. And, don't you EVER let anyone think you are not.
You go for whatever you want to do in life and let that beating heart shine with Love and laughter. Get out there mate - and show the world!

 

[xr022kbKr02h]

The answer is to simply ignore them: bullies are usually people desperate for attention. If you don't give it, they'll eventually shut up. But something needs to be done about that hate problem.

u muz be wrong...this happened for two years already...they once said that the reason they continue their nonsense is becuz i dun fight back like others does...and when i fought back...this is the result i got...

 

[TheOriginalWhitehorse]

u muz be wrong...this happened for two years already...they once said that the reason they continue their nonsense is becuz i dun fight back like others does...and when i fought back...this is the result i got...

The key is to solve the problem without giving them satisfaction. So what you do is to give them a clearer picture of how they look in front of everyone. Make this not about you, but about them.

In other words, look at your bully with a look of deep compassion and whisper so no one else can hear it but him, "Are your parents not giving you enough attention at home? It's okay. A lot of people are going through the same thing." Decide whether to invite him over for dinner. At best, he will accept your invitation and realize he needs a friend. At worst, he will realize his bullying is only revealing he has a deep psychological problem, as is always the case with bullies. But if you handle it with class and with style and with grace, give him a soft place to land, he won't feel a need to retaliate further and he'll back down.

Then, you quietly walk off, at least for the moment, and prepare to get to know your new friend.

But listen to your gut. If you feel the guy will get violent if you do this, then it's time to get someone else involved. An authority of some kind. Someone you trust, and who won't let you down. Deal with it quickly and finally. But usually you don't have to do this. A soft answer turns away wrath. The guy is probably jealous of your academic success and teasing you is how he covers his feelings of failure. Keep turning his unkindness into a further devotion to your studies, and perhaps offer to study with him so he'll feel more secure. But he has to back down and start treating you with respect first. If he starts taking advantage, or continues to bully you, it's time to put this guy in his place. He has to understand you're not helping him as a bribe, you're giving him one last chance to change his ways before you start getting school counselors involved and really making a stink.

Not in a mean or vengeful way, but simply in the interests of giving you the proper justice. But try to overcome his evil with good. There's nothing sweeter than having one of your enemies become one of your dearest friends.

 

[Bevlina]

u muz be wrong...this happened for two years already...they once said that the reason they continue their nonsense is becuz i dun fight back like others does...and when i fought back...this is the result i got...

I reckon they continue their nonsense because you are too good for them and they want to belittle you! Honey - the world is filled with jealous people and obviously these people are jealous of you. And, jealousy is the highest form of flattery!

I agree with Whitehorse.

 

[Paladin Dave]

Hey man, I know what it is like to be ridiculed and ignored by people, and to feel affection for someone who would never want me. Such is our curse my friend, however, there are always people who are willing to befriend us. And remember, school is only a part of your life, and most of the people there are morons who could not possibly comprehend our dreams and our behavior. My world domination idea kinda made everyone think I was nuts, so I decided to give up on it, mostly because I didn't think I could pull it off, and people would see it coming. What you have said reminds me of Frankenstein's monster, when he said "If I cannot find love, then I will inspire fear." Really, world domination rocks, but an Adolf Hitler approach is not the way to go. Think for a minute. He LOST WW2. However, I have always believed that one of his power in the world could have taken a more subtle approach, and then when the time was right, and the world held them in high regards, and would be willing to join them, make the move. Look at the US. We have so much control over the world, and we are not necessarily very kind or considerate towards certain groups of people, and a lot of what we do can be seen as a way to hide a campaign of material gain. But, people tolerate it because we put up an image of being the helpful big brother nation. Anyways, as far as the fools at your school, you can do 3 things. Conform to their wishes, and find yourself always falling short of something, as their demands can very well be endless. 2, you can ignore them and exist as an outsider, and only seek refuge with others like yourself or your own solitude. Or 3, turn the tables on them and influence them to the point where they look up to you. The 3rd option is probably an idealistic kind of end, but you can always give it a try, eh?

Whatever happens, good luck with it. And if you need a hand with the world domination thing, just let me know .

 

[TheOriginalWhitehorse]

Dave, we freed Iraq from Saddam Hussein. The guy was a terrorist. He created huge burial pits for people he killed. His son murdered someone for driving faster than him on the highway. His son put people inside an iron maiden for losing a soccer game. If you can in any way see our intervention as an attempt to hide materialism, I encourage you to think it through a little more. Those who were most against our going to Iraq, such as France, were the ones hiding material gain. Then the UN scandals. Anyone who supports a terrorist regime can be immediately suspect.

But God is control. Hitler is sited by even the most evil and godless people as being the icon of everything shameful and reprehensible. He's always the example that comes up. And where did his hunger for world domination lead him? To the grave. It is written, that he who lives by the sword, dies by the sword. And Hitler's life of hate and domination was so rewarding to him that he committed suicide. And it resulted in the people he hated who hadn't been a nation for what, some 1600 years or so, getting their nation back. So Hitler was the example of the ultimate loser.

By way of comparison, take Princess Di who used her position to do good for the underdog, the oppressed, and the poor in the world. The sick. When she died tragically, the street was filled with flowers, stuffed animals and other gifts.

What has expressed in his refusal to fight back and his delving himself further into his studies shows he has every bit the heart this girl may fall in love with, if her affection is worth having. No one loves a hitler. Sounds to me like Ruixiangz is smart enough to love anyway, and to know whose good opinion is worth having. He's smart enough to know that people who are hateful toward him cannot love, and so trying to win their love is a waste of time. Rather, he sounds like he's been an example of love to those who apparently know nothing about it, and for that I applaud him.

 

[Paladin Dave]

Alright, look, forget everything I said earlier. I am really sorry, that kind of stuff normally doesn't come out very often. I get all worked up when people mention world domination, and I am sorry. I gave Ru very bad advice, and I hope he reads this before he tries to go take over his school...... Let me post a revised version. Once again, I am truly sorry.


DAVE'S POST (REVISED)!!!!!!

Ok, basically, if people don't like you, that is their loss. You sound like a cool guy, and if they make fun of you this much, then they obviously have a lot to fear about you. Don't be afraid to pursue friendship with these people, even though they have been cruel to you. Show them your better side(no, dont flash, moon, etc anyone), figure out a way to use your many abilities and traits to please them if it is friendship you seek. Use what you got. And if you don't want anything to do with these people, well... about the best I can say is to ignore what they say, and try not to fight back too much, because if you don't, it'll drive them nuts! For real, why do you think they commented on you not fighting back? Because they WANT you to! Reverse phsycology my friend. And as for this dream girl of yours, make sure you want her for the right reasons, and make sure she won't end up hurting you that bad should you break up(and hey, we are only 15, it is more likely than not that if you hook up with her now, it wont last). Try working your way up slowly, be there for her, give her a hand when she needs it, be friendly with her(not too friendly, if you knwo what I mean), and if you dont get sick and tired of it(which would mean she is probably not right for you, or you are doing it for the wrong reason), and you guys are older, who knows? You might have a chance with it. Anyways, as much as this may suck, if you wish to find new friends, you will probably wither have to find someone who shares common interests, ideas, and personality with you, or change yourself to better fit the populus' criteria. And hey, a little change can be good. Perhaps you are really doing something wrong and you dont know it. Just make sure that if you do try to change, you don't change the core of who you are. If you do that, people wont like you for who you really are, and that is whats important. Either way, good luck with it, I hope you make lots of friends and find that special someone who is perfect for you. And PLEASE disregard anything in my previous post, k?

 

[TheOriginalWhitehorse]

Amen, Paladin Dave.

 

[Bain_Adaneth]

Ruixiangz,
Hi, I'm bain_adaneth. Anyways forget about what others people say. I know it hurts I've been there. there are people out there who are real friends, you just have to find them. Ruixiangz, doing evil to repay evil doesn't isn't right. It hurts us when people do mean things to us, so we should know not to do it to others. Ruixiangz, why do you hate your mother. Sometimes parents can say things that they don't mean. And then sometimes they regret saying it, but can't show they're sorry. Maybe it's better to know that both of you don't agree with eachother. If you feel ashamed sometimes, never feel ashamed of who you are. God created you with His love, He loves you no matter what. Besides, who's to say if we're different. Everyone is different in their own way. People just make stupid remarks because either they don't have love, their brain have been washed by the media, or they do it to make themselves feel better. Don't be angry, but think about ways to deal with these problems. Don't let these things get in the way of your life. Maybe sometimes it's better to tell them how you feel when they're being mean, because you have a heart too. I'm sorry that you have to deal with people like this. Their lives must be really sad, because people who have love for others have happiness from that love. Ruixiangz send me a private message if you like. I'd be glad to talk as friends.....Thank you for sharing your feelings. It is a courageous thing.

 

[xr022kbKr02h]

tnks...all of you here have inspired me...really...perhaps i was somehow wrong...
i watched the ' the day after tommorow' vcd yesterday...the music in the movie inspired me too ( strange that the music in that kind of movie can inspire me...i mean, the movie has got nothing to do wif my life! ) ...

i will continue to work hard to show other people that i m not inferior to them, but why should i continue to care how they thinks of me? why should i be upset over the faults of other people? so wat if there is a problem with my walking style? nobody sets the standard rules for 'proper walking' ! who noes, maybe i m the only one under the sky who can walks the correct way! why should i care weather they call me 'idiol' or not? this only shows that they are short-sighted! why should i care if anyone beleave in my ablity to enter the university? i will enter it no matter wat they think!

as for that gal...i will and i shall forget about her...it is not that i dun luv her...it is juz that she still deserve somebody better...why bring pains to everyone! if i m fated to be with her...i wun be thinking of her until now! someone is also right here...if i earn lots of money in the future...i can have anyone i wish! why should i care if the luvs me for my money...nobody will luvs me if i have no money and future anyway!

i should not waste my talents too...as suggest by people here...i m talented in music, debate and story writting ( although my spelling is !@#$%^) ... combine these three together and i have the power to change people's life! i can change the world...ten years from now and i shall read this post and find out how foolish and wrong i m...i m better than other people...and therefore, i should not care how other people despice me!

 

[TheOriginalWhitehorse]

I'm glad you feel imspired. That's good news! And you're right-it's not important what they think of you. But if you gently show them you're drawing opinions about them as well, it makes them back down often. And it will prevent you from being hurt by this all your life.

Here's a secret: when people try to make you inferior, it's usually because they themselves feel inferior. If you remember this reality, it will take away their power to make you feel hurt.

Why should anyone marry you only for money? You've got so much to offer the world. Absolutely: you can change the world. You can change people's lives. But only if you don't let the bitterness get to you. I know I'm not alone in being so proud of you.

 

[Bevlina]

tnks...all of you here have inspired me...really...perhaps i was somehow wrong...
i watched the ' the day after tommorow' vcd yesterday...the music in the movie inspired me too ( strange that the music in that kind of movie can inspire me...i mean, the movie has got nothing to do wif my life! ) ...

i will continue to work hard to show other people that i m not inferior to them, but why should i continue to care how they thinks of me? why should i be upset over the faults of other people? so wat if there is a problem with my walking style? nobody sets the standard rules for 'proper walking' ! who noes, maybe i m the only one under the sky who can walks the correct way! why should i care weather they call me 'idiol' or not? this only shows that they are short-sighted! why should i care if anyone beleave in my ablity to enter the university? i will enter it no matter wat they think!

as for that gal...i will and i shall forget about her...it is not that i dun luv her...it is juz that she still deserve somebody better...why bring pains to everyone! if i m fated to be with her...i wun be thinking of her until now! someone is also right here...if i earn lots of money in the future...i can have anyone i wish! why should i care if the luvs me for my money...nobody will luvs me if i have no money and future anyway!

i should not waste my talents too...as suggest by people here...i m talented in music, debate and story writting ( although my spelling is !@#$%^) ... combine these three together and i have the power to change people's life! i can change the world...ten years from now and i shall read this post and find out how foolish and wrong i m...i m better than other people...and therefore, i should not care how other people despice me!

Now you've got the right idea!!! Now you are on the right train of thought ruix!! I am so happy you have seen how wonderful life can rally be by the right positive thinking!! You ARE talented. You will go a long way in life and I Praise God I had the fortune to meet you!

 

[Paladin Dave]

OORAH!!! Hmm, I know what you mean with the music thing. Sometimes if I hear a certain song or whatever, it stirrs up odd emotions in me, and sometimes they have little to do with the movie, and they often distract me... Anyways, great job! I hope everything goes well for you man. You have great potential, I can tell. Praise be to God that we have talented peope like you around. I only wish they would be treated a bit better...

 

[Bain_Adaneth]

Great!
Remember that people look at the outside, while God looks at the heart. No matter how cool, famous, or educated someone is, if they don't have love, they don't have nothing. All these things will pass, but God will remain always. So we should all remember to do onto others as we would do onto ourselves, as the Bible says. A person with a true heart is one who people want to be around. Pray to do God's will, and not your own, because God created us, and he knows what brings joy and gladness into our lives. Life goes on, and some people do change, and some don't. Just focus on God. In the past I've felt that my life is not going anywhere, but after I started doing what God wanted, and not what I want, there has been significant changes in my idea of my life purpose. Before people put me down, but I pushed along day by day, barrier after barrier, and now I'm somewhere I never thought I'd be. The only way peoples' goals has been reached, is when they've decided to set their minds on it. But remember that our main purpose for being on earth is to do God's will. So pray for guidance, because God know where you'll be happy most 10 years from now...

 

[Novaknight1]

most ppl dislike me or laughs at me juz becuz i dun look good enough and i walks in a funny way (strange tt i dun feel tt my walking style is abnormal...)

therefor, to show everyone tt i am not a weakling, stop despicing me and in fact, a smart guy, i began to work harder in my studies, however, they said that i m too ambitious.

i stare at ppl when they laugh at me...and they say tt i m too fierce

thus i ignore ppl when they laugh at me and call me idiol ( in a sarcastic way)

i began to fall in luv wif a gal and wanted to forget her...but deep in my heart...i noe that i dun really want to forget her...

and somehow, the secret tt i like this gal gets out...now...ppl are laughing at me again...

somehow...i hate everyone in this world to a certain extent (yes, including my mum...she said something i dun like to hear when i said that i plan to go to university)...somehow, i want to be like Hitler, conquering the world until everyone is full of fear wif me...no one will despice me anymore...the last time i told that to someone...they said that i m a sadist...

all i wanted is juz to show that i m not a weakling, i m a guy full of talent...but m i wrong? perhaps the saying that ppl judge ppl by their looks is rite after all...if ppl show me no luv, why should i show luv towards them?

a few days ago, i juz made a vow to whoever is up there in the sky tt i will not allow failure to happen in any part of my life again, i will show everyone tt i m greater than anyone else...m i wrong to do this?

ps: the reason i m posting this thread in this place is becuz the last time i post something similiar in ' questions for non-christian', i get ppl telling me to join the church and make friends wif christians...pls, this is not the type of advice i need rite now...i jus need some pratical advice for myself...

Don't give in to them. There's a better life. A life in Christ is very good. It's not easy, but you'll have a purpose in life. Those people just don't understand Christians.