I was in a car with my parents a few years ago, noticed that I felt very uncomfortable, and then I wanted to get away from them. Later, my mother has engaged in what they call gaslighting, trying to make me appear crazy, among other things when we are sitting in a cafe. There are many in society who do the same. She has also systematically tried to isolate me from my immediate family and relatives, systematically keeping me away.
I read online that when people are toxic like that, you should stay away for good, change jobs, move away, etc. I thought maybe if I just held on, pushed pride, my own comfort, etc. aside, that things would get better with time.
The other day we were at my brother's birthday party, and she finally had an outburst where she screamed at my father and me because I held the door open at my brother's so the dogs ran out. There were no worries, it was just an outburst for no reason. I expected it to come too, because it's toxic behavior all the time, holding back anger, etc. So I thought maybe an outburst would come in the end, either from the mother or the father. It's so much like that I feel left out because of them, that I'm just using resources for nothing, food, etc.
I've helped them a lot too, topped trees and chopped wood for hours, installed dishwasher, refrigerator, washing machine, shower. They helped with everything without payment often, so it felt a bit unfair.
What I see now is that they are still not violent, like some say they might become. Time remains to be seen then if it's worth all the trouble with toxic people, I assume they don't become violent because I'm physically stronger, not everyone has that advantage. There have been a lot of mind games with my mother in particular, including gaslighting as I said, there have been things about me taking my own life, not socializing with my family, she has tried to provoke me into violence too so they have something on me, I had to call my father's GP and tell him that I find it unpleasant that he is angry and stuff like that with me all the time.
Yes, you guessed right, I have not done anything to provoke any of that, completely innocent, that's how toxic people are. It remains to be seen, as I said, whether it is worth maintaining contact at all costs
I read online that when people are toxic like that, you should stay away for good, change jobs, move away, etc. I thought maybe if I just held on, pushed pride, my own comfort, etc. aside, that things would get better with time.
The other day we were at my brother's birthday party, and she finally had an outburst where she screamed at my father and me because I held the door open at my brother's so the dogs ran out. There were no worries, it was just an outburst for no reason. I expected it to come too, because it's toxic behavior all the time, holding back anger, etc. So I thought maybe an outburst would come in the end, either from the mother or the father. It's so much like that I feel left out because of them, that I'm just using resources for nothing, food, etc.
I've helped them a lot too, topped trees and chopped wood for hours, installed dishwasher, refrigerator, washing machine, shower. They helped with everything without payment often, so it felt a bit unfair.
What I see now is that they are still not violent, like some say they might become. Time remains to be seen then if it's worth all the trouble with toxic people, I assume they don't become violent because I'm physically stronger, not everyone has that advantage. There have been a lot of mind games with my mother in particular, including gaslighting as I said, there have been things about me taking my own life, not socializing with my family, she has tried to provoke me into violence too so they have something on me, I had to call my father's GP and tell him that I find it unpleasant that he is angry and stuff like that with me all the time.
Yes, you guessed right, I have not done anything to provoke any of that, completely innocent, that's how toxic people are. It remains to be seen, as I said, whether it is worth maintaining contact at all costs
