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My Husband Is Addicted To Ice

Jeninoz

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Hello All,

My husband is addicted to ice. It has been going on for years.

Has anyone out there recovered from ice. I believe only God can help him as I know he loves myself and our children so much but he just doesn't seem to be able to beat this.

I am sober in AA myself. We met there. He hasn't picked up a drink in nearly 8 years but has become an ice addict, porn addict and compulsive gambler.

Jeninoz
 

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Sorry to hear about your husband. Drugs is a world that always sucks to get caught up in. Thing about it is that the people doing the drugs aren't the only ones that are dragged into that world. Their family and the ones that love them are too. Porn and gambling the same.
I'm only 14. In my short years I am already labled a few things a former druggy one of them. I stopped after a year thanks to God. My mother, father, brothers father, and brother all do drugs. Sadly just yesterday I found out my brother is wrapped up in that world too. All are alcoholics too. The men are wrapped up in the world of pornography when they leave the world of drugs. My mother is constantly high or drunk.
To get to the point of helping you. You and your husband should talk. He's probably not going to want help but you probably know that since you've been to AA. Both of you should keep going to AA meetings. If you guys are still going then thats awesome! If he has certain people he gets in contact with to get the drugs then cut off any form of comminication with them. If you have a blocking program on your telephone you can block their number to where they can never reach you through your home phone. If your husband speaks to them through the cell phone go through and delete the numbers off his cell phone. It may anger him... it probably will. So when you guys do talk tell him all you want to do to help him stop. Work out a plan with him and let him know your there by his side 110%. Have your kids go away for a long weekend. On their next break have them go away for 3-5 days and have your husband go completly cold turkey. You don't want your kids there and I'm sure you know why.
For the pornography, if he's doing it through the internet then put a filter on your intrenet. One that won't allow you to reach those websites. If its through magazines then stop the subscriptions. Don't let anymore of them be sent and burn or throw away all the other magazines.
I'm not sure what to do about the gambling. I have never been faced with this problem. I know that its a terribly addictive and that its a hard habbit to break. You can ask him if you can hold his money for him. All his credit cards and bank cards and stuff too. Just for the time being to get over the habit.
When worst comes to worst. Make him seriously choose between the addictions and his family. Its not the nicest way to go about it but if he honestly loves you guys he can throw out all the drugs and stop watching all the porn and forget about all the gambling.



Hope I was of some help!



God Bless,
Sarah
 
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Hello All,

My husband is addicted to ice. It has been going on for years.

Has anyone out there recovered from ice. I believe only God can help him as I know he loves myself and our children so much but he just doesn't seem to be able to beat this.

I am sober in AA myself. We met there. He hasn't picked up a drink in nearly 8 years but has become an ice addict, porn addict and compulsive gambler.

Jeninoz

Hello and good morning. Thank you for coming here for help.

Here's a sight that has much insight friend: http://www.tlsm.org/ListenOnline.cgi


May the LORD Jesus Christ bestow His complete knowledge, wisdom and Truth on you and all you come in contact with as you listen and read His TRUTH.

JESUS LOVES US.

God bless
RAVENN

JESUS CHRIST HAS SET US FREE! YAY!!
 
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I am an crystal meth survivor. I lived through that nightmare for two years, but I was stronger than the drug. I became addicted when my gilfriend's sister, a devout Christian, got her hooked on the drug by giving her large amounts for free. I tried my best to help my girlfriend, but in the end I only got hooked myself. Her sister began selling to us and all of our friends to support her own addiction, but she made a lot of money and was dealing with extremely dangerous people. I was in a cycle and I couldn't get out. After my girlfriend's sister got arrested and had to give up legal custody of her only son, we both gave up the drugs got clean.

I am sorry to tell you, but God alone will not help your husband and neither will you. In fact, both you and God will push him further toward the drugs. The truth is crystal meth COMPLETELY changes your mental and physiological state of being. The only thing that will save your husband is to check into a rehab facility for an extended duration, coupled with intensive psychotherapy. He will need to drastically change his surroundings to get away from the people selling him the drugs. Moving often is necessary for hardcore addicts. Doing manual labor will help him immensly because both his mind and body are extremely weak. Unfortunately, jail time may also be necessary for longtime users.

My heart truly goes out to everyone that has to go through this, both the user and their friends and family. But personally, at the same time, I have a little less sympathy for the addicts because they have a choice. In the beginning, I remember destinctly making up my mind every time I wanted to use and didn't want to use. I had a choice, and more often than not, my choice was to be selfish, neglect my loved ones, call in sick to work, and use. Even in your husband's case, being a longtime user and all, he still has a choice. Don't forget that.
 
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I am an crystal meth survivor. I lived through that nightmare for two years, but I was stronger than the drug. I became addicted when my gilfriend's sister, a devout Christian, got her hooked on the drug by giving her large amounts for free. I tried my best to help my girlfriend, but in the end I only got hooked myself. Her sister began selling to us and all of our friends to support her own addiction, but she made a lot of money and was dealing with extremely dangerous people. I was in a cycle and I couldn't get out. After my girlfriend's sister got arrested and had to give up legal custody of her only son, we both gave up the drugs got clean.

I am sorry to tell you, but God alone will not help your husband and neither will you. In fact, both you and God will push him further toward the drugs. The truth is crystal meth COMPLETELY changes your mental and physiological state of being. The only thing that will save your husband is to check into a rehab facility for an extended duration, coupled with intensive psychotherapy. He will need to drastically change his surroundings to get away from the people selling him the drugs. Moving often is necessary for hardcore addicts. Doing manual labor will help him immensly because both his mind and body are extremely weak. Unfortunately, jail time may also be necessary for longtime users.

My heart truly goes out to everyone that has to go through this, both the user and their friends and family. But personally, at the same time, I have a little less sympathy for the addicts because they have a choice. In the beginning, I remember destinctly making up my mind every time I wanted to use and didn't want to use. I had a choice, and more often than not, my choice was to be selfish, neglect my loved ones, call in sick to work, and use. Even in your husband's case, being a longtime user and all, he still has a choice. Don't forget that.
Thank you all. Westoff, your post was very scary but I'm afraid I think I already new this in my heart. He's coming down, in the "crash" mode. He's missed work today and has been in bed over 32 hours.

Last time I asked him to leave he went into a massive downhill spiral and became psychotic. Went nuts in the house and the kids and I came home to a totally wrecked house (the kids didn't see the damage). We had to move out whilst the house was repaired. So, in a way, I am very scared to know what to do.
We're going away on a holiday next week for a week. Maybe he can get some clean time up. He's sold our lawnmower for drugs.
I so wanted this marriage.
Jeninoz
 
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Many thanks for your responses and prayers.

Ravenn, I am going to check out the site you suggested.

As I wrote privately to one of you, it's funny isn’t it. After thinking “right, that’s it, I’ve had enough” he got up yesterday and we all went out as a family and had Yum Cha (Chinese where they come by with all sorts of little dumplings etc on trays and you pick what you want” and then he said “I know you’ve been wanting that perfume, I’m buying it for you” and did!! We ended up getting a DVD and watching it last night. Had a really nice night and he’s gone off to work today. He also got the lawnmower out of hock. I think he really is trying. He’s 6 days clean again today.

Jeninoz :pray:
 
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I've been clean for 16 months from ice. Before that I had a year clean and then relapsed. Over all I've been fighting to quit for about 3 years now. I know one thing is that no one can help your husband until he is ready to help himself. No amount of love for his family will get him clean either. NA (narcotics anonymous) is what has saved my life. I didn't want anything to do with God when I first got clean. I had misconception. Your husband is not an alcoholic he is an addict who suffers from addiction. It doesn'tmatter what you use, its why you use it. For me and I can only speak from my experience here is that once I could finally get a couple days clean I could then start looking at what my real problem was and try to find out why I wanted to use all the time and uncover those feelings I ran from for years. My suggestion would be for him to go to a NA meeting and get with the men there. But like I said he won't do anything about it until he is ready to change.
I hope I have helped. Your husband and you will be in prayers.
 
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I've been clean for 16 months from ice. Before that I had a year clean and then relapsed. Over all I've been fighting to quit for about 3 years now. I know one thing is that no one can help your husband until he is ready to help himself. No amount of love for his family will get him clean either. NA (narcotics anonymous) is what has saved my life. I didn't want anything to do with God when I first got clean. I had misconception. Your husband is not an alcoholic he is an addict who suffers from addiction. It doesn'tmatter what you use, its why you use it. For me and I can only speak from my experience here is that once I could finally get a couple days clean I could then start looking at what my real problem was and try to find out why I wanted to use all the time and uncover those feelings I ran from for years. My suggestion would be for him to go to a NA meeting and get with the men there. But like I said he won't do anything about it until he is ready to change.
I hope I have helped. Your husband and you will be in prayers.
Just wanted to check in and say hi.

My hubby, kids and I have just returned from a wonderful week away on the Australian coast. So, he's been clean at least a week (actually clean a couple I think).

Erica, I wanted to thank you for your reply. It was much appreciated.

He does to NA but you're right - he'll only get and stay clean when he wants to.

He's at an AA meeting (I hope) right now.

Many thanks,

Jenni
 
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Just wanted to check in and say hi.

My hubby, kids and I have just returned from a wonderful week away on the Australian coast. So, he's been clean at least a week (actually clean a couple I think).

Erica, I wanted to thank you for your reply. It was much appreciated.

He does to NA but you're right - he'll only get and stay clean when he wants to.

He's at an AA meeting (I hope) right now.

Many thanks,

Jenni
Jenni,
I'm glad that you are staying in touch. It may not be a bad idea for your husband to log into the site. I myself get a good amount of support by reading the posts and helping out when I can. I, also, recommend the online course at www.settingcaptivesfree.com and the book "Addictions: A Banquet in the Grave". I've been off of crack for 7 months and I have just reached the stage were I can say that I am stable in my sobriety. Of course, it is my walk with Christ that has made all of the difference. I apologize if I missed something. But, let me point out that the most important things that is going to help you and your husband is an ongoing relationship with Christ. Just recently in my studies I have been getting a glimpse of how the world of addiction (drugs, alcohol, porn, etc.) is filled with deceit. We are deceived into thinking that we are missing out on something, we are deceived into thinking that these things are going to satisfy our souls. Jesus Christ is the truth and an intimate relationship with Him allows us to recognize the lies that the devil uses to draw us into addictions. You have my sincerest prayers. Me, I'm just glad to be useful to someone. Stay in touch!
Greg
 
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