My husband visited a strip club after I first confessed to him I had been viewing pornography and cybersexing (6 months into my getting help through Celebrate Recovery) I forgave him and let it go. I figured it was his acting out his anger towards me.
Well here it is about a year later. About a week ago he arrived home at 3 AM. God told me where he had been and what had happened even what she looked like (a reddish brunette, I'm blonde)
He admitted to going again and this time supposedly "getting a lap dance in the public room"
He said because we live in Virginia she had on pasties and a g string. I am totally livid. this is way over the line too me. He asked me did I want him to leave, I said no but I am mad as heck. How do I know what really happens in these "public room lap dances" he claims he was lit. I feel wounded to my very core.
He would not talk to me for 24 hours after he admitted it and finally said that he had known it was wrong and had gone to the car and cried afterwards. yet he didn;t tell me I had to drag it out.
I tend to close in and isolate, I have emotional areas I cannot let a man into. I talk these areas over with girlfriends. My Best Friend said I need to let him into these areas but because of my past trauma and personality I cannot do this now. I cannot show hurt. I made myself an inner vow i would always protect my "little girl inside" because i am the only one I can trust.
We have a sex life that is great and very mututaly pleasing. I am into everything so its not that.
Well here it is about a year later. About a week ago he arrived home at 3 AM. God told me where he had been and what had happened even what she looked like (a reddish brunette, I'm blonde)
He admitted to going again and this time supposedly "getting a lap dance in the public room"
He said because we live in Virginia she had on pasties and a g string. I am totally livid. this is way over the line too me. He asked me did I want him to leave, I said no but I am mad as heck. How do I know what really happens in these "public room lap dances" he claims he was lit. I feel wounded to my very core.
He would not talk to me for 24 hours after he admitted it and finally said that he had known it was wrong and had gone to the car and cried afterwards. yet he didn;t tell me I had to drag it out.
I tend to close in and isolate, I have emotional areas I cannot let a man into. I talk these areas over with girlfriends. My Best Friend said I need to let him into these areas but because of my past trauma and personality I cannot do this now. I cannot show hurt. I made myself an inner vow i would always protect my "little girl inside" because i am the only one I can trust.
We have a sex life that is great and very mututaly pleasing. I am into everything so its not that.
