my grief over mom's recent death is spiraling my eating out of control

[Marcianne]

HI everyone,

Since mother passed away in June 2013, my eating has been out of control, particularly sweets. Anything "high energy" Over the past 2 years, I had been in a Christ-centered 12 step program and lost 90 pounds. I am quickly gaining it back. Please pray for me. I am too frightened to get on a scale -- the one we "inherited" from mom. (I didn't even have the nerve to own one for myself!) I image I have gained about 20 pounds back judging how my clothes fit. I am feeling pretty bad about myself about now. My hubby - the food cop - is not happy with me at all. sheesh! thanks for reading and "listening"

 

[emilie mayer]

Well i have a couple of opinions for you. You seem to know why the eating is out of control. Its a coping habbit. Somehow eating makes you feel secure and sends off enjoyment to the brain. As far as losing your mother that is a tough,sad situation so eating is your answer sub consiously . View death of a loved one differently. Us being on earth is the 1st of 2 stages. The second stage is being in heaven with our heavenly father. The people who have passed dont feel sad, mad,lonely, low self esream ect. Because in heaven there is no sadness.the people that suffer loss are us the people still living on earth. You will see your mother again in Gods timing ... change your thinking about eating. Everytime you make an effort and deside not to eat out of bordom or sadness then get happy about it. Learn how to get happy when you resist eating. The more weight you lose the happier you will get. Then pretty soon your husband will be telling you to slow down on losing weight and telling you to eat .... but my best advice would be to talk to Jesus about it and ask Him to help you deal with the issue. God wants us to ask for help and wisdom. God loves you. Your husband seems to care about your health but sometimes they can be a little insinsitive about it.