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My girlfriends tattoo's

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I just want to get some advice from a christian point of view, i am christian (pentecostal) and my girlfriend, well she believes that god's exsists and he's good, but doesn't go deeper than that.

I try not to make this a big issue, but it just is to me, thats why im trying to come to a conclusion so i can put it aside and relax a little bit more. Before going out with this girl, she had 2 tattoo's! I didn't particully like em, and told her, but gave her a chance with me. The tattoo's are one dragon and a ying yang symbol on her inner ankle which to me, its pretty against christ. A dragon i see as a form of satan and a ying yang showing evil and good as equal where i belive good is more. To her, she picked it cause she thinks of a dragon as just a big lizard and wants to show people thats all it is, and ying yang, im still confused about what she means, but something like, there is as much good and bad in the world. The other is the words "Music is freedom" written on her inner wrist. Bit iffy with that one too, as satan was the saint of music. All depends on how u look at that one i suppose. She is a big fan of music and listens to all the world music quite alot.

I hope i dont sound like im bagging out my girl, I did accept her with these tattoo's! I can live with em, but the drama came when she told me she wanted another one, and hope it doesn't make me angry. It kinda upset me, to my mind came, how can she do this to me knowing how much it would hurt me, like what would she do in the future! BUt than again, i knew it was her body, and can't really stop her. It got ugly. She got the fealing i'd leave her if she got another one, and it upset her that i would leave her cause of a tattoo. the next day i told her even if she got another one i'd still love her. The next day, she spoke about getting another one, she was mentioning like pretty big sizes, i freaked out once more. Got ugly once again, but she at the end said she didn't want one. I feel so bad, cause i feel selfish! Can i get some help from you crew??
 

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Be clear with her and don't play games. If you don't like tattoos tell her you don't and leave it at that. If tattoos are a deal breaker tell her and stand by it. Telling her you don't like them but you won't leave her if she gets one, then flipping out on her when she talks about getting one makes you look like you don't know what you want; or worse, you know what you want but you won't go for it. Go for what you want and stick to it. She will respect you more whether you stay together or not, but more importantly you will respect yourself more because you have high standards.
 
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Thanks heaps desi!! I have stood by my request. And i told her before we started going out, and just when she mentioned getting another one, how i feal about them. The response i gave to her was "well u can get one, but just remember its gonna hurt me each time i see it" Do you think that is sellfish. She aint getting another one now, but i see if more as she isn't cause she's scared of losing me, rather than just out of will.
 
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