my friend is bisexual

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[Steve J.]

So one of my good friends came out as being bisexual, mostly gay he actually says. I have been struggling with this ever since he came out. I'm worried for him and I am confused myself because I don't feel like I know where I should stand on this. As a Christian I feel as if I can't support him because that would be supporting sin and then if I can't support him I feel like it's hard for us to be friends. I really like him though but I just don't know if we can be friends because of this. I just don't know where I should stand on this. Please help and pray. Thanks

I am with you, man! If my best friend dropped that one on me I would be shaken hard. Just the thought of that is just so disgusting!:o

Personnaly, I could not have anything to do with him. That's just me. However, you can support him. Stand in the gap. Go to war for him in the spritual realm! Pray for him unceasingly. Ask others to pray for him. He is your friend, man, don't let him down in this. He is risking his soul (much less likely to ever accept Chrsit if he has not already) and he is risking his life (AIDs is a terrible killer and it rampant in that group).

And do not forget to protect yourself. Don't take this wrong, but you are too young to know how to deal with this issue. It can be hugely confusing! The enemy is wise and WILL try to influence you through your freind and do everything possilbe to ruin your walk for God and destroy your life if possible.

If you have to, split from this guy. But don't ever stop praying for your friends. The green guy on the right is me. I am praying for you and you friend right now.

God loves you. Jesus loves you. I love you too.

 

[Psychlea]

As a Christian, you are called at the very, very LEAST to "love the sinner, hate the sin." Jesus always befriended the "sinners": the tax collectors and whatnot, because, as he said, it was not hte healthy who needed a physican, but the sick.

If you think that your gay/bisexual friend is a sinner (I am not saying he is, but since you seem to) then you are called to follow in Christ's footsteps and unconditionally love and respect and "eat with" this "lost sheep". In fact, all the more so than your other "saved" friends.

This is beside the fact that he was gay/bisexual before he came out to you too...and you liked him then and were friends with him then. What's changed? You say you still like him. Being friends with him would be condoning his sin? No. Remember the scripture: judge not lest ye yourself be judged.

-Psychlea

 

[JanusLimegold]

Support your friend. Hate his sin. Love his Heart. Understand he may be in for a rough ride.

 

[JeremiahJ]

Alright, you've got a good starting point. You're a Christian who knows that it's a sin. You know it's a sin, God says it's a sin, and though other people will probably respond telling you otherwise, you know the reality of it. You can indeed "Hate the sin and love the sinner." Do not let this hinder your relationship with this guy. Don't be dishonest with him, it's okay to let him know it's wrong. Don't focus on that at all though, just don't lie about it or skirt around it. Be his friend, even if it's hard. Think about Jesus. He was always with people who did things that he couldn't support (cheaters of the innocent, prostitutes, drunkards, adulterers, and others like them), yet he loved them and cared for them, even though the religious instution of the time riddled these same people with incredible shame. If Jesus were here in physical form, he'd be chilling with and loving the homosexuals. He resides in you, use your body to do what He'd do, continue in your friendship, and try to be understanding without compromising your own beliefs.

 

[KTskater]

One of my friends is openly bisexaul, I've had trouble dealing with this not only because I feel the same thing you are feeling, but I struggle with homosexual temptations myself so I have to make sure me and her are never alone, because theres a big chance I'll screw up.
But also someone's sexuality is not them, it's a part of them. Be open in how you feel, (say you against it or not against it) and if your friend is truly your friend it won't be a big deal. There are many things about my (striaght) friends I don't like, but I don't hate them all together. So state that you don't agree with it (or whatever you are), but tell them you still want to be friends and that you're not condemning them.
Hope that helped, your in my prayers.

 

[goliwog]

So one of my good friends came out as being bisexual, mostly gay he actually says. I have been struggling with this ever since he came out. I'm worried for him and I am confused myself because I don't feel like I know where I should stand on this. As a Christian I feel as if I can't support him because that would be supporting sin and then if I can't support him I feel like it's hard for us to be friends. I really like him though but I just don't know if we can be friends because of this. I just don't know where I should stand on this. Please help and pray. Thanks

It is very important that you keep some sort of friendship with this friend. It is impossible for one to hear if knowone can tell him it is hard for minorities to cope and If your his friend he may come to you in time of need this will be your chance to tell him about God so maybe you should pray and wait for that chance to come.

The key to saving people is not to argue however on what you agree on but expand what you do agree on. at school we were having a scripture lesson (as it is legal in australia) our teacher was talking to us about how to get our friends saved... he said often we get into useless arguements that leads nowhere. so he set out a servey we surveyed allot of ppl and it turned out that at least every person had scored a point on certian parts of believeing in God. Its a simple as this if a person believes there must be a creator of some sort expand there knowledge on this and it will bring them closer to God if Someone does not believe God creted the earth but believes we should be good to one another expand there knowledge of being good to one another and this will bring them closer to God.

So try to find out what you frined does believe in Jesus does he believe in a creator ? does he believe in being good to one another ? does he have any christian friends ? Does he believe jesus existed ? does he believe in spirits ? does he belueve miracles can happen ? those are just a few if you can get one yes expand on that yes and the no's will disapear without much arguement

 

[madison1101]

As a Christian, you are called at the very, very LEAST to "love the sinner, hate the sin." Jesus always befriended the "sinners": the tax collectors and whatnot, because, as he said, it was not hte healthy who needed a physican, but the sick.

If you think that your gay/bisexual friend is a sinner (I am not saying he is, but since you seem to) then you are called to follow in Christ's footsteps and unconditionally love and respect and "eat with" this "lost sheep". In fact, all the more so than your other "saved" friends.

This is beside the fact that he was gay/bisexual before he came out to you too...and you liked him then and were friends with him then. What's changed? You say you still like him. Being friends with him would be condoning his sin? No. Remember the scripture: judge not lest ye yourself be judged.

-Psychlea

Amen to this post. My son is bisexual. I told him there was nothing that he could do that would make me stop loving him, and praying for him. I don't support him in his sexual behavior, I just keep praying my knees off.

Trish

 

[invisible trousers]

I really like him though but I just don't know if we can be friends because of this. I just don't know where I should stand on this. Please help and pray. Thanks

For shame. Most likely he *really* could use support and understanding right now. This is a perfect opportunity to hit a grand slam by showing the love and compassion which Jesus showed, but you're thinking of not even stepping up to the plate?

I am with you, man! If my best friend dropped that one on me I would be shaken hard. Just the thought of that is just so disgusting!:o
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Personnaly, I could not have anything to do with him.

A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.

There really are more important things to worry about than who your friends are attracted to.

 

[SparkyMel]

Support him.

It's tough for people who come out into an environment of people not supporting. Yes you can dislike what he does. But you can't condemn him for what he is. God made him that way (its scientifically proven) and it's a struggle. See it as a test from God.

In the Catholic Catechism (I know it says you're not Catholic but it's a good quote all the same) it says: "They do not choose their condition - for most of them it is a trial"
So basically your friend is gonna be struggling with all the same issues as most of the people on here. You can be friends. He's still exactly the same person. Sexual desires dont define a person.

Good luck!

 

[feline]

Personnaly, I could not have anything to do with him. That's just me. ]

Wow! Amazing! You must be pretty lonely if you don't have anything to do with people who sin ( or what you perceive as sin). The world is full of people who lie, cheat, steal , and lust on a daily basis, heck, even an hourly basis. So, congrats to you up on the hill in your sin-less cave!!!

 

[Mr.Cheese]

I know quite a few gay/bisexual people.
One of them is a lesbian here and she has the sweetest heart I've ever known. She showed me what love really is.

Love your friend. The poor guy probably needs you right now.

 

[JeremiahJ]

God made him that way (its scientifically proven)

Can you point me somewhere that says this is scientifically proven? I've heard it before, but I've also heard a lot of other things that were "scientifically proven" that were in fact completely false.

 

[FaithfulServant]

Can you point me somewhere that says this is scientifically proven? I've heard it before, but I've also heard a lot of other things that were "scientifically proven" that were in fact completely false.

Its not scientifically proven. I keep updated on medical topics such as this, and there are studies that lean both ways.

 

[Penny_Lane]

Being bisexual is not a bad thing, in fact evry HUMAN BEING at some point of theit lives, usually early teens, have bisexual tendencies, this is a psychological fact.

 

[Cristiano]

Steve,

I understand how you would be shocked, but it bothers me that you would view your best friend in such a way if he told you he was gay. I mean, best friends are best friends for a reason. If you don't love your best friend unconditionally I would say he might not be your best friend. It seems that the relationship is shallow. I'm not attacking you, but I'm just trying to put you in his shoes. If you told someone something that you couldn't tell anyone else in the world because he was your best friend and then he ditched you because he thought it was disgusting or disapproved, how would that make you feel? If my friend told me he was gay, I would love him regardless. I know this because I am a normal guy that struggles with same sex attraction. I would want someone to support me, especially my best friend, if I were not a believer in that situation.

Think about this: If your best friend said, "Hey, I'm an alcoholic," would you ditch him? I mean, that behavior is condemned in the Bible and is no more or less a sin than homosexuality is. I am just trying to put it into perspective. Almost all of my non-Christian friends get drunk and practice premarital sex, but do I love them any less? No. In fact, it requires me to love them MORE. This situation should be the EXACT SAME. As Christians, we just need to love people where they are at and pray for Christ to draw them unto him.

As for the random comment about AIDS, check the facts again. You will see that AIDS is rampant on the contintent of Africa as well as many other places, and believe me, the continent is not filled with gays--just a side note. AIDS is no longer a gay disease. It hasn't been since the 80s...

My point is to love others and pray for them but don't cut them off. I'm saying all this because I am such a normal guy that no one would suspect that I struggle with same sex attraction. It hurts to think my best friends might ditch me if they found out I struggled with it... This was meant to be informative and not hostile. God bless.

I am with you, man! If my best friend dropped that one on me I would be shaken hard. Just the thought of that is just so disgusting!:o

Personnaly, I could not have anything to do with him. That's just me. However, you can support him. Stand in the gap. Go to war for him in the spritual realm! Pray for him unceasingly. Ask others to pray for him. He is your friend, man, don't let him down in this. He is risking his soul (much less likely to ever accept Chrsit if he has not already) and he is risking his life (AIDs is a terrible killer and it rampant in that group).

And do not forget to protect yourself. Don't take this wrong, but you are too young to know how to deal with this issue. It can be hugely confusing! The enemy is wise and WILL try to influence you through your freind and do everything possilbe to ruin your walk for God and destroy your life if possible.

If you have to, split from this guy. But don't ever stop praying for your friends. The green guy on the right is me. I am praying for you and you friend right now.

God loves you. Jesus loves you. I love you too.