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My friend converting to Mormonism for a girl - How should I handle this?

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Okay, this isn't for me but I don't know where else to post this and I feel that this needs to be resolved immediately. My apologies.

Here's the story: my friend Mike, who was originally non-denomination (and Filipino by the way), decided to convert to Mormonism (so he claims). A few months ago he met a Mormon girl and he has fallen madly in love with her (he claims this as well). To prove his love, he decided to admit to everyone that he converted to Mormonism; this includes his friends, family, "lover," and his "lover's" family. Now my ex-girlfriend/best friend Sofia, a non-denomination Christian as well, burned him about the wackiness of Mormonism and threw all sorts of facts in his direction; <staff edit> Of course Mike did not do any research and has blindly accepted this "religion" <staff edit> as well as refuses to check this all out. We keep telling him that if you really love someone you wouldn't convert to his/her religion because that's just a sign of lust. But of course he puts this aside and says he's finally getting his first "big break" (he's twenty-three by the way, this is his first girlfriend and had his first kiss a few weeks ago, quite cute and sad).

Now my question is what's in the thread's title: how should my friends and/or I deal with this? I like him, he's a good friend, and I don't want to lose him. I understand that this is the first time he's been "romantically" involved with a girl but at the same time what he's doing is wrong. He claims to have converted but hasn't done any research on this cult. I fear that the more we try to coerce him into getting out the more we'll push him in. Once again, I'm sorry if this is the wrong section, but please help me out!

Short version: My friend blindly converted to Mormonism for some girl he likes, how should I handle this?
 
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If he's willing to convert blindly, chances are he didn't really have a good reason to practice his old beliefs either.

There are just some lessons people have to learn on their own. It sounds like, for your friend, this is one of them. Be there to support him when he finally gets that unpleasant wake-up call. And who knows? Maybe Mormonism will do something for him that his previous church wasn't, or at least make him take his worldview a little less lightly.

It's not as if he'll be drinking spiked kool-aid or sacrificing puppies.
 
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It's a pretty easy answer really, be happy for him and if *highly likely will* it all comes to an end be there as friends to support him. As you said yourself its his first ever Gf, so just let him enjoy all the silly things that people do when in love.

Secondly, I have a lot of friends who are Mormon, and as much as I enjoy teasing them about the multiple wives, He really could have done far worse in his conversion.

So to sum it all up, let him have this learning experience, like everyone deserve to have. Be happy for him.
 
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I agree. I think you guys have done plenty in telling him your opinion on Mormonism. I don't think any slamming comments about it will change his mind... but as his friend, support him, even if you disagree, since he knows already you disagree.

I also agree with the fact that if he "converted" so easily, there obviously wasn't much keeping him in the camp he was in previously.

People do stupid things while in love (or lust, whichever it is) and it wears off. If it is a stupid thing he's doing, it'll wear off in time.
 
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People do stupid things while in love (or lust, whichever it is) and it wears off. If it is a stupid thing he's doing, it'll wear off in time.

I agree, I don't look for this to last. This sounded like something that he did with little thought to not only what the religion belives in but also how committed his gf is to this relationship.

If the relationship ends he will probably come back. If it doesn't then, he has made his choice.

You can do nothing but support him as a person (not his choices) and pray for him.
 
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