My first boyfriend

[Faithfulandtrue]

Backstory I am 30 years old and recently have a my first boyfriend. I am a serious Christian and was saved when I was 12. Over the years I've struggled with being single and feeling extremely lonely and unwanted by guys. Now I finally have a boyfriend and I feel like the Lord might be trying to tell me to break it off. This person is so shy and caring towards me. But the thing is I don't think he's a real Christian. He doesn't go to church nor talks about the Lord. We just started dating so I don't know if it's too soon to break up. What should I say/do? I don't want him to become resentful towards God because I broke up with him

 

[trophy33]

Backstory I am 30 years old and recently have a my first boyfriend. I am a serious Christian and was saved when I was 12. Over the years I've struggled with being single and feeling extremely lonely and unwanted by guys. Now I finally have a boyfriend and I feel like the Lord might be trying to tell me to break it off. This person is so shy and caring towards me. But the thing is I don't think he's a real Christian. He doesn't go to church nor talks about the Lord. We just started dating so I don't know if it's too soon to break up. What should I say/do? I don't want him to become resentful towards God because I broke up with him

1. Ask him if he is a Christian, what his values, goals, views are. If you have a relationship with somebody, you must not be afraid to ask important questions.

2. Watch his behavior in various situations, if it matches with what you want of a man and of a father of your children. And if it matches with his words.

 

[anetazo]

I think Jesus might be trying to get your attention, sister. He's not compadable. You converted to christianity and hes heathen. He will impeded on your spiritual growth. Read second Corinthians chapter 6:14. You will end up in bondage with them. Your willing to compromise your values and beliefs. That's bad news sister. God won't bless and use Christian who is consorting with heathen. Read second Corinthians chapter 6. Proverbs chapter 13;6. Righteousness keeps him that is upright in the way: But wickedness over throw the sinner. You don't want to be subverted by outsiders. Get the picture. 14:6. A SCORNER seeks wisdom, and finds it not. But knowledge is easy unto him that understand. Discernment is the key. Christian people practice spirtual discernment. Who to talk to or avoid. The body of christ is our brethren. The heathen are on the road to perdition. Unless they repent and conform to God's standard. Proverbs 14:33. Wisdom rests in the heart of him that hath understanding: But that which is in the midst of fools is made known. Those who walk in darkness will drag you down with them. Light and darkness have nothing in common. The heathen will impede on your spiritual growth. Be negative influence in your life. Jesus is looking for few good Christian people to produce fruit for God. Being attached to heathen will put you in Bondage and Jesus won't use you. If you Sincerely want to serve Jesus, the heathen have to go. You cant have it both ways.

 

[Faithfulandtrue]

Thank you both for your response. I definitely agree

 

[anetazo]

Your most welcome, sister. Peace.

 

[By_the_Book]

Backstory I am 30 years old and recently have a my first boyfriend. I am a serious Christian and was saved when I was 12. Over the years I've struggled with being single and feeling extremely lonely and unwanted by guys. Now I finally have a boyfriend and I feel like the Lord might be trying to tell me to break it off. This person is so shy and caring towards me. But the thing is I don't think he's a real Christian. He doesn't go to church nor talks about the Lord. We just started dating so I don't know if it's too soon to break up. What should I say/do? I don't want him to become resentful towards God because I broke up with him

Obey what the Lord Jesus is leading you to do and He will always bring into your life things better than you could ever obtain for yourself.

 

[David Kent]

If he doesn't go to church then it is unlikely that he is a Christian. Have you asked him to go with you? If you cannot be sure, my advice would be to break it off. I have known too many ladies who have been unhappy when the person they thought was a Christian and then married was not. Men as well. We had a foster son who married a girl he knew from school thinking she was a Christian. They had a son and she soon left with their son as she wanted to be with her grandmother. He has been married twice and the second left him. He is now in his 40s and now has a young lady who seems to be a Christian.