My daughter

[mompoo]

my daughter is 10 she is getting to the point where she is forgeing my name to stuff for school I want to punish her but how long and is taking the tv and radio and phone away from her enough

 

[Andy Broadley]

It's difficult. I guess it depends on what you normally impose for other 'offences'. I'd go mid range on that, and make sure that she knows beyond any doubt that she has got off lightly this time. But if it happens again....


I'd also speak to the school and arrange all communication with you (presumeably the stuff she is forging your name on) to be done by post, or in such a way as to make your replies unforgeable.

 

[Sharky]

Then punish her. What's wrong with a little discipline?

She may hate you for a while. But at least when she grows up she will be straight and will bare no hatred to you.

Don't withhold the rod. If you do, you hate your daughter, you are basically saying 'she's not worth disciplining'. (that's in proverbs).

Take the TV away, radio away or ground her for a time. Do it for as long as you see fit.

 

[lucypevensie]

If school doesn't already know make sure you tell her teacher about the issue. See if you can arrange to have information passed directly to you as much as possible. I'd not leave her alone or let her go anywhere without a parent for a while. So that means she'll probably not get to go do some things. She'll not like it and think that it's unfair and embarrassing. Well, then you explain to her that she has demonstrated that she cannot be trusted and when that happens it can really mess things up, and it can take a while to earn back people's trust (in the real world you get fired or kicked out or sued). In the meantime she'll just have to prove to you that she's going to be good. And when you see evidence of that you can slowly let up on the reigns.

 

[okiemommy26]

I did that when i was a kid and i got spanked and i never did it again.

 

[Katydid]

You know, Dr. Dobson said in one of his books that when he slacked off in school his mother threatened to go to school with him. I would ground her and make it clear that you WILL go to school with her if you find out she did anything like this again. Not just drop off and pick up, but walk to class and sit next to her etc. Chances are, if she knows you are telling the truth, you won't ever actually have to do it. But, if for some reason she does this again, then definately follow through.

 

[okiemommy26]

I agree with Katydid, kids usually dont want the parent to go to school with them

 

[Jenna]

You could also try something a little different, like testing just how much your daughter likes writing your name. If she is so fond of signing for you, have her sit down and write your name a few hundred times until her fingers want to fall off. I'm more of the mind that Sharky is, but I figured that I'd throw something a mite creative out there.....