My dance team won't...

[miracle26]

Let me have any opionions on anything and it is really hurting my feelings so much that I am thinking about quiting. They do not take any of my advice which I think will make things better. It has to be their way or no way .. I do not know what to do..

 

[Multi-Elis]

I know that situation so well. I know how annoying and terrible it is.
You've got two choises: Either submit to others as being the choreographers, and make an effort to trust that once the team is doing things their way, they will see what is wrong with it for themselves and correct it. Then you can maybe also propose to choreograph something for them.
Or you can tell them that you are quitting because nothing artistique can come out of an atmosphere of bickerring, fighting, slighting others, selfish ambition and competitiveness.
If the general team spirit is really bad, quitting might be the only way to protest.

But if you really want to work on your own character, and think the cause for which you dance is worth it, you can make a big effort to try to find ways to work with them, just maybe distance yourself in your attitude.

Keep us posted about what you have decided.

 

[miracle26]

I am going to find out Easter when we do our praise dances if it is really worth it or not. Your right, there are alot of competition in there especially with my sister-in-laws, whom are all in the group too. It is mostly family and I think that may be the problem.

 

[godalltheway]

i had that problem at my school. they never listened to me because i was a middle schooler. U should keep dance up and still do it and tyr to keep telling u ure opinion. mayb they will listen sometime

 

[BeautifulWorshipper]

dont quit it would be giving themn satsfaction and also why dont you talk and say well i think blah blah should happen because blah blah blah and you never listen to me



lol really bad advice

 

[Living Soul Dance]

Let me have any opionions on anything and it is really hurting my feelings so much that I am thinking about quiting. They do not take any of my advice which I think will make things better. It has to be their way or no way .. I do not know what to do..

Are you the dance leader?
If so, the first thing is to make sure you have a spiritual mentor in your church who can come in and support what you are saying. This person should be one of your churches leaders. If you are not the leader of your dance ministry, then go and talk to one of the church leaders. Everyone needs a mentor.

Also realize that a ministry that prays together, stays together. In order to hear the Holy Spirit and be guided by him, you and the other dancers must talk to him on a regular basis. And if there is a lack of unity in your dance ministry, that is a sure sign that someone is not hearing and obeying God. Prayer can change things. Don't just get together and say a qwick prayer, stay in prayer until you and the other dancers have completely spilled out your hearts to God.

Prayer is always the answer.

 

[godsgirl4ever]

are you the head of the praise dance team?

 

[muffin]

I know how you feel about the situation but you must keep god in every decision you do.

 

[CJF]

Here's my two cents-
I am a dance leader. I Lead the kid's dance team at my church. I co-lead it with a friend of mine who's two years younger than I am. She's a wonderful dancer and she has a lot of creative ideas. We just did our first performances on Saturday(in a parade) and Sunday(both services at church.) I have had this dance choreographed since before I was asked to lead this team. My co-leader found out I had it done already and she was hurt that I didn't ask her to help. As the leader, it's my responsability to have something prepared and ready to teach, when I need to teach it.

My whole point in saying all of this is that, if you're not the dance leader, I can see why they might not want your help and your advice. Don't get me wrong, I think that if someone on the team has an idea, their idea and advice should be heard and, at least, considered. It's wrong that they ignore you. But I do see why they act that way.

Here's my advice to you- go to your dance leader and ask her why your idea are being ignored. Be nice and calm, but concerned. There very well may be a logical reason to thier behavior. Let them know that you are hurt that they wont listen to your ideas and see what happens. Attitude reflects real leadership. If their reason is a flad out dumb one, and you feel God calling you away from the team, then quit. If you fell that you need to stay, then stay. Does all of this make sense?