today and for that matter this whole week has been hell.last week my finacee of two yrs told me he had thought of cheating on me im so hurt and it seems his lies dont ever end we were waiting till marriage he confided in me that he had messed up a few times anyway needless to sayi am leaving him i am moving out and as far as dating again i do not want to ever be in any relationship i am angry and i absolutely refuse to open up again yall just pray or send me an email letting me know how to resolve issues with a LTR who continues to lie he says i know u dont belive me but i will change ive g
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my bf lies
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Monaleezza
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There is absolutely no need to resolve that relationship if you don't want to.
Don't feel for a moment that you HAVE TO!
You don't! And you must thank God that you found out what he's like BEFORE marriage.
That means your courtship was successful. You have successfully found out that you are not compatible before making a lifetime commitment.
Don't write off other relationships though. You may not feel like thinking about someone new, and you don't need to! Not for some time yet. But keep in your mind that not all men are the same. Think about the positive role model relationships there are in your home/church/neighbourhood and let that be a reminder that love and LTRs and marriage are beautiful things that can go wrong but certainly don't always.
When you're ready and have healed from this hurt, pray that God reveals to you the type of person that will bring you true joy. He will, for sure!!
Don't feel for a moment that you HAVE TO!
You don't! And you must thank God that you found out what he's like BEFORE marriage.
That means your courtship was successful. You have successfully found out that you are not compatible before making a lifetime commitment.
Don't write off other relationships though. You may not feel like thinking about someone new, and you don't need to! Not for some time yet. But keep in your mind that not all men are the same. Think about the positive role model relationships there are in your home/church/neighbourhood and let that be a reminder that love and LTRs and marriage are beautiful things that can go wrong but certainly don't always.
When you're ready and have healed from this hurt, pray that God reveals to you the type of person that will bring you true joy. He will, for sure!!
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I'm pretty much just going to reitterate what was just said.
You learned that this man was NOT the man for you. write him off, no need for second chances, and if he is a lier, you can't really trust anything he says. (Expect him to immidiately start with the "I've changed, honest!" lines).
Move forward, and give yourself some time to heal. If you can surround yourself with good solid Christian friends who can help. And start praying that God will lead you to the man he has chosen for you. There are still some good solid men out there, and I'm sure God has one lined up for you!
The one thing I do wish to caution you on however, is moving in with a boyfriend in the future...it may seem practical and good to help you get to know your SO, but in the long run I think it will hurt the relationship alot more than it helps.
God bless!
You learned that this man was NOT the man for you. write him off, no need for second chances, and if he is a lier, you can't really trust anything he says. (Expect him to immidiately start with the "I've changed, honest!" lines).
Move forward, and give yourself some time to heal. If you can surround yourself with good solid Christian friends who can help. And start praying that God will lead you to the man he has chosen for you. There are still some good solid men out there, and I'm sure God has one lined up for you!
The one thing I do wish to caution you on however, is moving in with a boyfriend in the future...it may seem practical and good to help you get to know your SO, but in the long run I think it will hurt the relationship alot more than it helps.
God bless!
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to help yourself you need to be able to get to the point of being able to forgive him (might take a while) you dont have to like him just be able to forgive him, there is only one who has the position to judge and that is not you nor i, being able to forgive him will also help you to stop dwelling on it and be able to move on
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ty i really needed to hear that cause im getting discouraged and depressed im so disappointed in this relationship.i just feel like im not worht a man loving me enough to be honest and treat me well i keep praying and asking god to help me be strong for mike but the more i see him not working out these issues the more i feeel hurt by this
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i wrote this poem to mike to tray and exsplain how i feel
NOT MY HOME
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I AM SITTING HERE ALL ALONE
IN MY EMPTY HOUSE THAts not a home
I AM FEELING HOPELESS AND FULL OF SHAME
SOMEONE NEEDS TO STOP MY PAIN
I AM FULL OF HATE FROM ALL THESE YEARS
TAKE ANOTHER GLASS OF WHISKEY WITH TEARS
NOTHING GETS BETTER IN MY MIND
I AM SITTING HERE WITH ALL THATS MINE
WILL ANYTHING BE BETTER ON THIS EARTH
DO YOU CARE
DO YOU SEE WHAT YOU HAVE CAUSED
IN MY EMPTY ROOM WITH ALL THESE WALLS
I AM TRYING WITH ALL MY MIGHT AND WILL
NOT TO TAKE ANOTHER HANDFULL OF PILLS
IT DOESEN'T SEEM TO EVER GO AWAY
MY NEED TO GO OR STAY
BUT IN MY HEART SO FULL OF HATE
WHY DID YOU SALE ME ALL YOUR LIES AND MY DREAMS
JUST PASSING BY.I TOOK FOR GRANTED WHAT I SEE
THERES NO LIGHT BEYOND THESE TREES
I AM HERE SITTING ALL ALONE
IN MY EMPTY HOUSE THATS NOT A HOME
TEARS FALLING DOWN MY GENTLE FACE
MY LIFE HAS BEEN MY OWN DISGRACE
IT NEVER WAS YOU AT ALL
IT WAS ME WHO TOOK THE FALL
I AM SO ALONE AND NO ONE CARES
WHY DO I STAY
WHY DO I SHARE
MY LOVE
MY HAPPINESS
MY PAIN
IT WASNT YOURS TO TAKE AGAIN
WHY DO I SIT HERE ALL ALONE IN MY EMPTY HOUSE
THATS NOT A HOME....
NOT MY HOME
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I AM SITTING HERE ALL ALONE
IN MY EMPTY HOUSE THAts not a home
I AM FEELING HOPELESS AND FULL OF SHAME
SOMEONE NEEDS TO STOP MY PAIN
I AM FULL OF HATE FROM ALL THESE YEARS
TAKE ANOTHER GLASS OF WHISKEY WITH TEARS
NOTHING GETS BETTER IN MY MIND
I AM SITTING HERE WITH ALL THATS MINE
WILL ANYTHING BE BETTER ON THIS EARTH
DO YOU CARE
DO YOU SEE WHAT YOU HAVE CAUSED
IN MY EMPTY ROOM WITH ALL THESE WALLS
I AM TRYING WITH ALL MY MIGHT AND WILL
NOT TO TAKE ANOTHER HANDFULL OF PILLS
IT DOESEN'T SEEM TO EVER GO AWAY
MY NEED TO GO OR STAY
BUT IN MY HEART SO FULL OF HATE
WHY DID YOU SALE ME ALL YOUR LIES AND MY DREAMS
JUST PASSING BY.I TOOK FOR GRANTED WHAT I SEE
THERES NO LIGHT BEYOND THESE TREES
I AM HERE SITTING ALL ALONE
IN MY EMPTY HOUSE THATS NOT A HOME
TEARS FALLING DOWN MY GENTLE FACE
MY LIFE HAS BEEN MY OWN DISGRACE
IT NEVER WAS YOU AT ALL
IT WAS ME WHO TOOK THE FALL
I AM SO ALONE AND NO ONE CARES
WHY DO I STAY
WHY DO I SHARE
MY LOVE
MY HAPPINESS
MY PAIN
IT WASNT YOURS TO TAKE AGAIN
WHY DO I SIT HERE ALL ALONE IN MY EMPTY HOUSE
THATS NOT A HOME....
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Weasel7711
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well good for you, dont look back, someone better will come along (I apologize for the cliche)
how the heck did he say it anyway???
So honey, i was thinking about cheating on you the other day, isnt that the darndest thing?
what a DB
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It's good you are leaving him. You deserve better. You deserve someone who treats you right, who doesn't lie to you and doesn't cheat. I know how hard it can be. I've been lied to and cheated on by my ex, and its definitely hard to get over. Pray, dig deeper in the word, and definitely DON'T BURY IT. I know it's hard, but allow yourself to grieve. It's ok to be hurt. Feel free to PM or IM me if you want, and I'm sorry you have to go through this. Someone else will come along who will be grateful for you waiting for him, and he will cherish you as you are, the way God intended.
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