This is long.
Need advice have not talked to aunt in year and half.
Ok well first the story to this so you all can see how things played out.
For the first time in 2010 I got contact with my aunt after not knowing were she was for 16 years. We talk like any family on the phone.. then I start getting into my marriage with her and how bad things were I think I think the way I told her maybe it was like lying.
Me and my husband well we fight but it isn't like that. Its verbal. And it had been going on so long that I think I started treating others that way without realizing it but not just out of no were like him. So things go good we talk she starts telling me how I should think about getting out of there and coming to live with her. I think about it.
Fast forward to Dec 2011. My husband is not giving me the things I need you know to keep the marriage up I dont feel loved nothing by him just I feel control... So this drives me to another man because of this a man that I worked with at the time.
Fast forward to end of dec 2011. I get caught by husband on texting that other guy now remember I did it cause he was giving me something my husband wouldnt and I stumbled.. He catches me he throws my phone breaking the inside screen but the screen outside and all buttons outside still worked.
I call this guys mom the guy I like sense they was only 20 miles away. she lets me move in. On way there I call aunt she says you really need to come out here now.
When I am there I find out this guys gma lives 60 miles away in the same exact state as my aunt. He called her she said he can move with her that way I would have a travel partner and someone out there.
My aunt sends me a ticket his gma sends him one we left one month later for arizona. When we get there I meet up with my aunt and me and him part ways for time being keeping in touch via texting.
2 days later at my aunts my aunt gets a horse which I find out later was soposed to been a suprise present for me. She got me cowboy boots and hat.
As Im living with here im texting this guy constantly being anti social keeping to myself in the bedroom. I thought everything was a joke I told my aunt once all my friends were bad news and always got in trouble. And I told her how I am bipolar and have anxiety.
Fast forward a week later. This guy becomes mad at me one night cause he thinks im messing around on him saying someone made a fake facebook page of me..My aunt didnt know this she was already in bed. He said if you love me you will find a way here by noon tomorrow or we are done.
It was already 10pm that night I searched craigslist found a ride and snuck out in the morning before my aunt woke up leaving no note and hopped in a ride with a stranger for the 60 mile trip.
The stranger did drop me off at his house thank God. Let me say she was mad almost wasnt goin to take me back I had to stay in motel one niht cause his gma wouldnt let me stay wih him.
In morning aunt makes the trip to get me says I cant talk to him no more.. Somehow later that day she said she would give him one more chance sense it made me happy but said she didnt like him I could do better and he needed a job. A week later he started crap again Ididnt tell my aunt he was makign me see him..
But somehow I conned her into driving me there.. His gma owed her money anyways sense my aunt combined plane tickets. Somehow I did something a couple days later and my aunt gave the $300.00 to me. I didnt have a job yet but i was selfish.
Even Started saying how I needed my car from ohio out there somehow and made her feel bad and she gave in and paid for my car to be shipped out there. Fastforward my car gets there and next day I go see u know who.. then every day after that I am gone.. Making my aunt think I am up to doing bad things. But honestly I wasnt I just cant sit still. She found the birth control stuff anyway one day while I was out and about..
When I got back this is were it got bad to worst.. We got in a arguement I talked back to her it got bad were she kicked me out called the cops for me saying that if she hit me I wqould call the cops on her. I said that to her in her own house. anyways cops excorted me out and said I couldnt go on her property no more.. I got in my car and literally started heading back to ohio.
Made it back to ohio.. And she messaged me saying she didnt believe I was back in ohio and not to talk to her again until I learn how to respect and I get myself help.
Now she must have told my cousin everything that happened cause he told me he dont want nothing to do with me. How do I win him back how do I win her back?? She will want proof Im serious.. Do you all think I should message her tomorrow already been a year and a half sense this incident.
Or should I wait until I actually start counseling next week so I look better? And how should I word this letter I need help.. Or should I never say nothing to her? U think if she forgives me my cousin will follow?? Basically I lied to her about doing something else when I wanted to see that guy I guess U can say conned stuff off her and just treated her like crap.
I do feel bad about what I did.. She wasnt 100% innocent either though. She never really set up real rules when I got there. And growing up my dad never kept tabs on me.
Sorry this is so long.
Need advice have not talked to aunt in year and half.
Ok well first the story to this so you all can see how things played out.
For the first time in 2010 I got contact with my aunt after not knowing were she was for 16 years. We talk like any family on the phone.. then I start getting into my marriage with her and how bad things were I think I think the way I told her maybe it was like lying.
Me and my husband well we fight but it isn't like that. Its verbal. And it had been going on so long that I think I started treating others that way without realizing it but not just out of no were like him. So things go good we talk she starts telling me how I should think about getting out of there and coming to live with her. I think about it.
Fast forward to Dec 2011. My husband is not giving me the things I need you know to keep the marriage up I dont feel loved nothing by him just I feel control... So this drives me to another man because of this a man that I worked with at the time.
Fast forward to end of dec 2011. I get caught by husband on texting that other guy now remember I did it cause he was giving me something my husband wouldnt and I stumbled.. He catches me he throws my phone breaking the inside screen but the screen outside and all buttons outside still worked.
I call this guys mom the guy I like sense they was only 20 miles away. she lets me move in. On way there I call aunt she says you really need to come out here now.
When I am there I find out this guys gma lives 60 miles away in the same exact state as my aunt. He called her she said he can move with her that way I would have a travel partner and someone out there.
My aunt sends me a ticket his gma sends him one we left one month later for arizona. When we get there I meet up with my aunt and me and him part ways for time being keeping in touch via texting.
2 days later at my aunts my aunt gets a horse which I find out later was soposed to been a suprise present for me. She got me cowboy boots and hat.
As Im living with here im texting this guy constantly being anti social keeping to myself in the bedroom. I thought everything was a joke I told my aunt once all my friends were bad news and always got in trouble. And I told her how I am bipolar and have anxiety.
Fast forward a week later. This guy becomes mad at me one night cause he thinks im messing around on him saying someone made a fake facebook page of me..My aunt didnt know this she was already in bed. He said if you love me you will find a way here by noon tomorrow or we are done.
It was already 10pm that night I searched craigslist found a ride and snuck out in the morning before my aunt woke up leaving no note and hopped in a ride with a stranger for the 60 mile trip.
The stranger did drop me off at his house thank God. Let me say she was mad almost wasnt goin to take me back I had to stay in motel one niht cause his gma wouldnt let me stay wih him.
In morning aunt makes the trip to get me says I cant talk to him no more.. Somehow later that day she said she would give him one more chance sense it made me happy but said she didnt like him I could do better and he needed a job. A week later he started crap again Ididnt tell my aunt he was makign me see him..
But somehow I conned her into driving me there.. His gma owed her money anyways sense my aunt combined plane tickets. Somehow I did something a couple days later and my aunt gave the $300.00 to me. I didnt have a job yet but i was selfish.
Even Started saying how I needed my car from ohio out there somehow and made her feel bad and she gave in and paid for my car to be shipped out there. Fastforward my car gets there and next day I go see u know who.. then every day after that I am gone.. Making my aunt think I am up to doing bad things. But honestly I wasnt I just cant sit still. She found the birth control stuff anyway one day while I was out and about..
When I got back this is were it got bad to worst.. We got in a arguement I talked back to her it got bad were she kicked me out called the cops for me saying that if she hit me I wqould call the cops on her. I said that to her in her own house. anyways cops excorted me out and said I couldnt go on her property no more.. I got in my car and literally started heading back to ohio.
Made it back to ohio.. And she messaged me saying she didnt believe I was back in ohio and not to talk to her again until I learn how to respect and I get myself help.
Now she must have told my cousin everything that happened cause he told me he dont want nothing to do with me. How do I win him back how do I win her back?? She will want proof Im serious.. Do you all think I should message her tomorrow already been a year and a half sense this incident.
Or should I wait until I actually start counseling next week so I look better? And how should I word this letter I need help.. Or should I never say nothing to her? U think if she forgives me my cousin will follow?? Basically I lied to her about doing something else when I wanted to see that guy I guess U can say conned stuff off her and just treated her like crap.
I do feel bad about what I did.. She wasnt 100% innocent either though. She never really set up real rules when I got there. And growing up my dad never kept tabs on me.
Sorry this is so long.
