My addiction needs to STOP!!

[pure4u2]

Hi there, I don't know where to begin. I am free from pornography for 2 years soon but I am really struggling with stopping masturbation. I need help!! My attitude towards God's love is really hard for me right now. Like once I'm done, I say that I'm going to stop and ask for forgiveness. I was 2 weeks clean but then I caved. I don't want to do this in my own strength anymore. Any accountability partners out there willing to help me?

 

[Purge187]

I don't want to do this in my own strength anymore.

Herein lies part of the problem. As Christ said, "A kingdom divided against itself cannot stand." Trying to repress your flesh with your flesh is pointless.

If you have trouble in any area of life, ask God for help. God knows how strong the sexual urge can be; He's the One who gave it to you.

 

[Jesmincan]

I have been struggling with the same thing, so I know exactly how you are feeling. If you really feel that God is telling you not to do this (You need to ask him about it), then what you have to do is ask God to keep the door shut on the temptation. If you truly ask him to help you, because you can't stop doing it on your own, then he will. It's not necessarily easy after that, but it is a choice you make, and as it says in the bible, he won't tempt you beyond what you can bear, so he will help you if you ask him

 

[brandon908]

yes i want to be your partner i also struggle with this problem it sucks

 

[Hawthourne]

I recommend finding a fellow female to be your partner, and so may not be able to help you there, but maybe I can share a few ideas.

How are you doing with spending time with Christ? If you aren't reading his word daily, then I would actually place that as a higher priority than beating your addiction. You cannot win by yourself, you much first draw near to Christ. Will that make it magically go away? Probably not, but that is the foundation where you must start.

Next, I would ask, do you have triggers that make it difficult for you? It staying up late and alone a problem? Go to bed early. Do you struggle with certain things online? Try to get a filter to block them. K9 works fairly well, though not perfect. Be proactive: act before you get in temptation.

Finally, remember that there is nothing you can do which can overpower Christ's atoning sacrifice on the cross. How many chances do you deserve to win his love? Zero. Therefore, don't obsess over the number of time you have fallen, but focus on his grace and use that as your motivation to strive to live for him.

 

[pure4u2]

Spending time with Christ, I just put in worship and have my own quiet time. I really do try and read the word daily but I get so easily distracted sometimes it's better to just soak in music.
I don't struggle with online cuz I don't have a computer, it's just when I'm trying to go to bed. Recently though has been amazing, I ask God to take away my temptation and pray for others instead if focusing on myself and then all of a sudden I wake up and it's morning. If has been really helping to just turn to Christ!!
Thanks so much for the encouragement and kind words!

 

[Hawthourne]

Yea, it is very easy to be distracted- especially when we are not used to it. However, over time as it becomes a habit, it is much easier. Though music is also a powerful tool that can help to redirect our focus, I don't think that it is any substitute for study as it is one way we draw near to him. It also has the practical application of letting us learn more about him and to better appreciate what we have.

Still, I am glad to hear that prayer has been a help .

 

[Jcmiran]

ill be your accountability partner. i also struggle with this

 

[dave1997]

I'm right there with you. For many years I've battled the cycle of exposing myself to homosexual porn and masturbation. Only, to be very remorseful and shameful afterwards. For some reason I always feel "more spiritual" after the fact. But, during looking at porn and masturbating, I'm consumed and ignore the Holy Spirit. I keep telling myself this is the last time. But the Enemy always draws me back in. I would appreciate any prayers and support as I, with the help of the Holy Spirit, try to overcome this addiction. I'm married with two wonderful kids and don't want to go through life fighting this addiction. I know it's wrong and keeps me from my relationship with Christ. I so badly want the attraction and lustful thoughts toward men to end so that I can have a healthy relationship with my wife and my Lord. In Christ,