More Advice On Life..

[ab8907]

Sorry for venting so much but its the only place i feel comfortable doing it and getting good responses.

So I am currently living in Florida. I have been here 3 months and am thinking about going back home... to Wisconsin. The reason I want to go back home is because I miss my dog, hunting (pheasant, duck, deer, bear) and honestly miss the cold.. I ice fish a lot and its just sorta home. I love Florida but it just does not offer that. I like to shark fish and besides the good job I got down here and that is part of the reason I moved. I will miss shark fishing a lot but I feel I will miss my family and hunting and everything wisconsin has to offer more... I want to start my own shark fishing show but don't really want to live in florida and be so far away.. I just need advice on what you feel I should think about and how I should weigh this all out.. please help.

 

[K9_Trainer]

Its tough to move that far away from home, away from your family, to an area you don't know, people you don't know, a new climate...Its not easy. And there's going to be trade offs.

If I were you, I would give it a little more time. You're only 3 months in, you're home sick and reasonably so. There's still a lot about Florida that you haven't been able to experience yet, there are things Florida can offer you that Wisconsin can't. Give yourself time to explore Florida more, get acclimated to the weather, and make friends. Put making new friends as your priority because having friends will really help you feel more at home. You've discovered shark fishing, which is great, keep doing that. But also see what else is there that you'd enjoy doing, see what's unique to florida that you can hunt or fish.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Well for starters, I;d say pray about it. Also do you have a job back home? I would not think it wise to give up a job and go back home and not have one. But if you have one waiting for you that's a different story. But most important to me would be what God wanted me to do. I've moved and lived from California to Florida (with no job cuz my husband wanted to go there) and it did not work out so well. We only lasted 3 months and barely had enough money to get home, had to leave most of our stuff with friends til we could afford to send for it. Learned alot in the process but I wouldn't do it today, no way. I've also lived in WA where my husband wanted to move back to AZ but I wouldn't move unless at least one of us had a job and I prayed about it and I got a transfer within a week (which was unheard of in my co at the time) but I didn't want to move! Of course I had to, cuz that's what I felt God wanted us to do even though I knew we would struggle (and we did). So yeah, that's my advice PRAY first and make sure you have a job second. And thirdly after my mom died in 1995 I was sorry I ever left CA because I missed spending time with her that I could have had if we would have stayed. But I guess that wasn't meant to be, but family is also very important.

 

[ab8907]

Yeah. I would definitely line up a job before going home. But I really like your signature Proverbs 3 5-6. I just miss the cold getting up at 4 going out duck hunting in 35 degree temps with blowing rain and the dogs all excited and can't want to go... I miss that and will NEVER have that here in Florida :/

 

[pinkstars86]

I'm tempted to ask if you're a troll. JK but how the heck could one miss that?! The hobbies I understand but my main goal is to eventually get the heck up outta Cincinnati and somewhere where it's sunny and warm the majority of the year. There's not a lot I loathe more than cold weater. I could never fathom how anyone could actually love 35 degrees wtih rain blowing in your face lol.

Stay in Florida for awhile longer. If after a year you're truly feeling the same then maybe go back? I dunno I'm hesitant to give advice on this bc there's so much I don't know about you. But I'd say enjoy your experience and get to know a place good and well before you move back home. Sometimes it's easy to get caught up in the nostalgia of home and to overlook perfectly good opportunities right at your feet. Then sometimes you go back and the real thing doesn't quite measure up to the memories in your head. *shrug* If you left Wisconsin for a reason, give it more time.

 

[K9_Trainer]

^ I was thinking the saaaaame thing about the weather

I'm quite happy here in CA where below freezing nights are few and winter highs are in the 50's.

 

[Im_A]

Sorry for venting so much but its the only place i feel comfortable doing it and getting good responses.

So I am currently living in Florida. I have been here 3 months and am thinking about going back home... to Wisconsin. The reason I want to go back home is because I miss my dog, hunting (pheasant, duck, deer, bear) and honestly miss the cold.. I ice fish a lot and its just sorta home. I love Florida but it just does not offer that. I like to shark fish and besides the good job I got down here and that is part of the reason I moved. I will miss shark fishing a lot but I feel I will miss my family and hunting and everything wisconsin has to offer more... I want to start my own shark fishing show but don't really want to live in florida and be so far away.. I just need advice on what you feel I should think about and how I should weigh this all out.. please help.

Think about the reasons why you are moved. Is that worth what your missing?

As someone who has moved A LOT of times in his life, what helped me was that question. If I can answer yes and if you can perceive a way that you can make a productive life out that, then take time to adapt. Don't rush yourself into the new surroundings. All you may do is cause a knee jerk reaction for yourself that could be good for you but could also be very harmful for you. Keep in contact with those back in Wisconsin. One mistake I always seemed to do was alienate my prior life. Don't do that. It may make it hard but those hard moments teach you how to deal with it. Then you don't burn your bridges. I am good at burning bridges and I hope that with enough bridges burnt and smoke behind me, I have taught myself, be careful lighting the match if I come into a situation like that again. Be active. If you like hunting, I assume you like fishing, and you mentioned sharks. So be active. Find a place that you go to for yourself. I chose a pub close by me when I have the money. Then I started up an old hobby that I love, bowling. Be social as comfortable as you can be. Make good friends. Don't try to be the socialite of a strange place to you. Just be social enough to find a close knit friendship. Face the fact you have to adapt to your surroundings since you chose to move...iow swallow the bitter pill.

I hope anything I have typed gives you good thoughts in your head.

 

[ab8907]

It's not worth it really to me... I moved for the job and THOUGHT that shark fishing and the beach would be awesome and make up for everything I was walking away from well... it doesn't.

as the weather goes yeah a lot of people think its crazy to enjoy that but when your out freezing and your dog is going crazy seeing all this ducks flying around just waiting to go get the one or couple I shot it just is the best feeling in the world.. I bought that dog and trained it and everything its like a kid to me and idk how I thought I could be without her... :/ I will say i will enjoy my last few months here but I think i made up my mind to go back home... as long as I get a job lined up.

 

[Fremdin]

You sound like my brother, he loves nothing more than to be freezing his you-know-what-off fishing or hunting with his dog. I don't understand it but I can see the appeal. I'd go home. It always seems you never know what you're missing until you try something new. Besides Florida deer are itty-bitty and an endangered species.

 

[traingosorry]

It's a good experience for you even if it doesn't seem that way right now. Like Fremdin said, it just gives you a whole new appreciation for what you had.

I say stick it out a bit longer (and maybe in the meantime you could be sorting out something back at home), develop some new skills (deep sea fishing?) and make the most of the time you have in another part of your country, because I bet you won't want to be moving again anytime soon.

 

[Im_A]

It's not worth it really to me... I moved for the job and THOUGHT that shark fishing and the beach would be awesome and make up for everything I was walking away from well... it doesn't.

as the weather goes yeah a lot of people think its crazy to enjoy that but when your out freezing and your dog is going crazy seeing all this ducks flying around just waiting to go get the one or couple I shot it just is the best feeling in the world.. I bought that dog and trained it and everything its like a kid to me and idk how I thought I could be without her... :/ I will say i will enjoy my last few months here but I think i made up my mind to go back home... as long as I get a job lined up.

I hope the best for you man. It is hard to know what to say when you admitted that it isn't worth it to you now. I could never advise you to stay in hell if you can't find worth where you are currently at. Then again it would be hard to advise you to give up all that you did try. Psychological well-being will always override adventure and new opportunities in the end though if you can't adapt. I am curious though, do you think 3 months is a time frame you can make a big decision to move back like that?

So beyond that I'll just say I hope the best for you and hope you make the best decision for yourself that you can.

 

[Gabe7]

Remember why you left. If that is resolved and going back home makes sense then go home.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

It's not worth it really to me... I moved for the job and THOUGHT that shark fishing and the beach would be awesome and make up for everything I was walking away from well... it doesn't.

as the weather goes yeah a lot of people think its crazy to enjoy that but when your out freezing and your dog is going crazy seeing all this ducks flying around just waiting to go get the one or couple I shot it just is the best feeling in the world.. I bought that dog and trained it and everything its like a kid to me and idk how I thought I could be without her... :/ I will say i will enjoy my last few months here but I think i made up my mind to go back home... as long as I get a job lined up.

Is your dog with your family? I sure hope so! Sounds like you have thought it all thru and I'm glad you are gonna get a job lined up first cuz that's kind of important. We moved to Florida years ago, and we only lasted 3 months for different reasons but I DO understand. And family is important too so...good luck to you. Let us know when you get that job back home.