Modest clothes struggles

[123flower]

For years I have this conviction to wear modest clothes. I had different thoughts about what modest is over the years, but recently my thoughts about modest clothes is a long loose skirt.

The thing is nobody in my church and family is wearing that. They all wear clothes like everybody else in the world. I would feel weird and left out if I changed my outfit.

Also I’m still not sure whether a woman is allowed to wear pants or not. I understand skinny jeans are not modest because they reveal your shape. So to make it modest I wear something over my skinny jeans that would cover my back. But its still pants and originally menswear.

I mean what does God think about it? Does He understand that we live in another time period where pants are normal for women? And that you can wear it if you wear it modestly?

 

[Carl Emerson]

Men wear skirts as a normal tradition in several cultures.

This is surely a matter of "Blessed is the man (or woman) who is not comdemned by what he approves..."

It is not the outward adorning that matters as much as what is going on in your heart.

If your heart motive is pure, then walk in the freedom and peace a pure heart brings.

 

[Radagast]

For years I have this conviction to wear modest clothes. I had different thoughts about what modest is over the years, but recently my thoughts about modest clothes is a long loose skirt.

The thing is nobody in my church and family is wearing that. They all wear clothes like everybody else in the world. I would feel weird and left out if I changed my outfit.

Wear what you feel is right, and wear it with style.

Also I’m still not sure whether a woman is allowed to wear pants or not.

Wearing pants is 100% fine, if it's modest and feminine. The Bible doesn't actually mention pants.

A lot of women choose to wear pants together with a tunic or long top. In some parts of the world, that has been traditional female clothing for thousands of years.

 

[com7fy8]

First is that you are modest, not only how you show that you are modest.

It is not the outward adorning that matters as much as what is going on in your heart.

Possibly, Carl is referring to 1 Peter 3:3-4 >

"Do not let your adornment be merely outward---arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel---rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God." (1 Peter 3:3-4)

 

[com7fy8]

Also I’m still not sure whether a woman is allowed to wear pants or not.

I mean what does God think about it?

Well, I can offer what I have, and God can improve on even what He might have us offer to you.

My experience is there are Jesus people who dress with tight fitting clothes, but you can tell they are pure and not trying to seduce anyone. Possibly, they are not trying to make themselves totally distant from people of the world, by dressing totally differently. Our Apostle Paul does say he became all things to all people > 1 Corinthians 9:19-23. So, I can see how Paul would fit in with the culture where he was, but just don't do anything obviously wrong and harmful. And people would find out how he was different.

I would say a number of our ladies aren't trying to make a statement; they get what they like and plan to enjoy. And they are moral and therefore modest, but mainly by how they are kind and caring > putting on love and humility >

"be clothed with humility" (in 1 Peter 5:5).

And I think we have women who were brought up with cleavage-showing and form-fitting clothing. The ones bringing them up could have dressed like that in order to be seductive or to show themselves off, but second- and now even third-generation women might wear exposing clothing but it means nothing to them > it was how they got brought up.

Also . . . possibly I have seen how women on outings are dressed to look nice for their husbands. They are not doing it for anybody else.

Now I think of this > you want to help people to be moral; and how you conduct yourself and dress can be effecting men, and your example can effect other women. But clothing alone does not control how men and women may see you.

Even if you are obviously modest, ones can still see however you are beautiful that shows. And it seems a lot of people can be seduced by beauty, instead of finding out how to really love.

So, what could matter the most is how you become a mature example of how to be and relate in love.

A worldly person can be seduced by seeing just the form of your ankle under a flowing dress while you are walking. Satan can use anything, no matter what your meaning and intention may be.

But how you are becoming in love can help anyone. God uses good example.

 

[Tolworth John]

For years I have this conviction to wear modest clothes

Then it is up to you to find or to make stylish clothes, you don't have to blindly follow what everyone else is wearing. Look around there are dresses that come below the knee, yet are also stunning to look at.

Also I’m still not sure whether a woman is allowed to wear pants

Read Deut 22:5 which says a women is not to wear men's cloths and a man is not to wear women's clothes.
So don't go and grab a pair of your Dad's pants, but go and get a pair of loose fitting ladies pants.

 

[ripple the car]

For years I have this conviction to wear modest clothes. I had different thoughts about what modest is over the years, but recently my thoughts about modest clothes is a long loose skirt.

The thing is nobody in my church and family is wearing that. They all wear clothes like everybody else in the world. I would feel weird and left out if I changed my outfit.

Also I’m still not sure whether a woman is allowed to wear pants or not. I understand skinny jeans are not modest because they reveal your shape. So to make it modest I wear something over my skinny jeans that would cover my back. But its still pants and originally menswear.

I mean what does God think about it? Does He understand that we live in another time period where pants are normal for women? And that you can wear it if you wear it modestly?

A woman can wear pants. They should be of a modest fit, and comfortable. Many women globally wear pants. They're a part of some South Asian and East Asian traditional clothing, and they're always loose, and comfy.

 

[solid_core]

I mean what does God think about it? Does He understand that we live in another time period where pants are normal for women? And that you can wear it if you wear it modestly?

And where does God say you cannot wear pants?

The Bible only says that men should not dress like women and vice versa. There are skirts for women and skirts for men. There are pants for women and pants for men. Just wear what is meant for your gender.

 

[kvolm]

The thing is nobody in my church and family is wearing that. They all wear clothes like everybody else in the world. I would feel weird and left out if I changed my outfit.

This seems to imply that your priority is to fit in with or to please them instead of doing what you feel God has laid on your heart. I guess it comes down to how you interpret the idea you have about modest clothing meaning wearing long skirts. Was that idea of long skirts also "conviction" as you say the desire to wear modest clothing has been?