Missing my son

[the1stlady98]

On October 3rd 2010 my son was killed by a drunk driver. He was a passenger in an automobile with 2 other boys his age. My son was the only one to die. Andrew was the eldest of four children, He left behind two sisters and a brother... all of which idolized him

Time ticks by so slow for me, minute by minute...hour by hour...slow day by day. I do not know how I am supposed to survive this. Everything has become silent.. The quiet is maddening, it makes me want to scream.

The anticipation of waiting for him to come bouncing in the front door with some off the wall story is gone, lost forever...just like his laugh and smile and great big beautiful green eyes..

My heart has perished and I do not know what to do to carry on for my 3 remaining children

 

[power2theweak]

(((((1stlady)))))

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I pray that God will give you the strength to carry on.

 

[bliz]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can not imagine how hard this is for you.

Are you getting some counseling? You've got three wonderful children who need you and who need your love.

 

[Singermom]

On October 3rd 2010 my son was killed by a drunk driver. He was a passenger in an automobile with 2 other boys his age. My son was the only one to die. Andrew was the eldest of four children, He left behind two sisters and a brother... all of which idolized him

Time ticks by so slow for me, minute by minute...hour by hour...slow day by day. I do not know how I am supposed to survive this. Everything has become silent.. The quiet is maddening, it makes me want to scream.

The anticipation of waiting for him to come bouncing in the front door with some off the wall story is gone, lost forever...just like his laugh and smile and great big beautiful green eyes..

My heart has perished and I do not know what to do to carry on for my 3 remaining children

Oh, my dear sister...I am sending you hugs and condolences. It's just been a couple of weeks...I can understand that you're still deeply, intensely hurting. That will take time.

If you don't mind a personal question...I notice that your icon shows "married". How is your husband? Are you able to lean on him and have him lean on you? If possible, lean on each other...even if both of you are leaning, where you meet will hold you both up.

Unfortunately, you DO need to be there for your other children. Just give them as much love as possible and then some. Don't be afraid to let them see you cry. You're "Mom", but you are also a person. This may sound strange, but cry WITH them.

If you have a church family, call upon them as well. That is what they should be there for. I know I've had to lean on mine on more than one occasion, and I am eternally grateful for that.

Also, don't be afraid to remember...share stories about your darling son. If I were there, I would listen. I know that when I suffered my most devastating loss, talking about him helped more than I could possibly imagine.

I will pray for you, dear Sister; Lean on your Father. He will pull you through. I don't want to sound like I'm spouting platitudes, but it's so true. Let yourself grieve, but, with God's Strength, you can do what you need to do.

 

[stargazer009]

I feel your pain I to lost a son in a few years ago I can not tell you that it will get better but will tell you this with good friends and Christ you can make it thru the tough times thru Christ we can do all thing I pray for you and your family.

 

[Hisbygrace]

I am so sorry for your lost and the pain you are going through at this time. I too
lost my son on Nov.11,2010, it was his 41th birthday.

The thing that keeps me going is remembering the poem "Footprints in the Sand" and
in this portion in particular, "The Lord replied, “The times when you have seen only one set of footprints in the sand,
is when I carried you.”

For both of us we have been given a mountain to climb, but I know and am trusting with all my heart that the Lord is going to carry you and me through the days, months and years ahead.
My prayer is that our heavenly Father will keep you in His peace, love and mercy 's

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