I am in an LDR right now. I had planed on going out to meet her next summer and stay for a month. But I am missing her so bad I feel like I am going nuts. I think I may have to go sooner and just give up the month. But I know it will be at least 2 years before she moves here. So I was thinking...if I go, I am going to miss her even more when I get back. So I am so confused! Do I go sooner and not spend a month with her, or wait a year and spend a month with her?
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Miss her so much!
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Pope Gonzo
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The more you think about missing her, the longer it will seem. Take your mind off her (and yes, I know it's just so hard to do that because you're always thinking about her and how much you miss her and how much you want to be with her!). Read a book. Run a marathon. Bake a cake.
I would stick with the original plan to go out there next summer and stay for a month. That would cover 1)that your LDR has held strong over a good while, because it will have to keep going for even longer, and 2)being close to her for a month will give you both a feel for what it will be like seeing the person every day - everyone has mannerisms and idiosyncrasies that you obviously can't pick up over the internet.
I would stick with the original plan to go out there next summer and stay for a month. That would cover 1)that your LDR has held strong over a good while, because it will have to keep going for even longer, and 2)being close to her for a month will give you both a feel for what it will be like seeing the person every day - everyone has mannerisms and idiosyncrasies that you obviously can't pick up over the internet.
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Living4Him03
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I hate to be the party pooper, but I just got out of a LDR that lasted for nearly a year. We rarely got to see each other and things just did not change when we were finally closer to one another. 2 years is a long time to wait. You will grow and change quite a bit over the next year even. Also, if you have not met her yet and have not gotten to interact with her in person and won't for awhile, that's really really tough. Online is different than in person, not saying that it won't work, but it is an adjustment. Also, I have found, although this is not true for everyone, that it's hard not to become too focused on that person and missing them and to lose focus on your walk with God. Take it slowly and let God do His thing 
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fiveinjuly
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I was in an LDR for a month and a half when I was 15. It was none too good for me. Boys at that age are so fickle.
More power to ya, man. I could never do it (again).
More power to ya, man. I could never do it (again).
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