I just wanted to know how many of yal have messed up...and gone too far with your boyfriend or girlfriend physically. That doesn't just mean sex.
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Messed up and Gone 2 Far
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MagicStar723
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Yes. And still do struggle. Once you mess up it is HARD to stay pure again but thanks to God's grace it is possible.
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I voted for the wrong thing on the Poll. I voted for "yes" by mistake. tried to change my vote but I don't think you can
It is quite a struggle....its kinda like once you kiss...it would be hard to just quit kissing for good and just hold hands. It takes a lot of self control.
But some more please vote and give your opinions or just talk about what you've been through. I'm really struggling
It is quite a struggle....its kinda like once you kiss...it would be hard to just quit kissing for good and just hold hands. It takes a lot of self control.
But some more please vote and give your opinions or just talk about what you've been through. I'm really struggling
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yes, maybe a little far, but not sex. That was once, maybe a little to much cuddling.
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Boss_BlueAngels
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I'm guilty too. It's very, very hard when you love someone sooooo increadibly much. We both know we're right for each other, and have for the 2.5 years we've been together, so that makes it tough. But, it is simply time before I may pop the question. (I have to be careful as to what I say here, as she recently joined the forum, but has yet to post haha) 
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invisiblebabe
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WhenFinallySetFree777
*~[such a beautiful surrender]~*
I have "messed up" (but not had sex) a couple times. I had to have a discussion with my boyfriend about it, because it's more I've let him do things with me that make me convicted and don't say anything. **smacks self on forehead**
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Yeah I've messed up. And I'm happy to share about it because it just goes to show how full of grace and love the Father is for his wayward kiddos like me!
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72_Chev_Truck
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yea we messed up but didnt get very far, we both agreed it would be good to come up with a plan of attack to hold back against sin
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Peculiarone
who can find a virtuous woman
I was playing this song today in my car by Donnie McClurkin.
We fall down but we get up.
We fall down but we get up
We fall down but we get up
For a saint is just a sinner who fell down
But had enough strength to not stay there
But get up.
We fall down but we get up.
We fall down but we get up
We fall down but we get up
For a saint is just a sinner who fell down
But had enough strength to not stay there
But get up.
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Wow i love the words of that!
But yes, im guilty of falling. It's sometimes quite difficult because he doesn't really care whether he falls or not now, because he's fallen so much in the past, and trying is so difficult now. I've got to be real careful as to what we do and where we are. Making the commitment is so important now, and if he tries, i explain gently that I don't want, because i want our nite to be so amazing. I know he'll start trying again, but it will take a little persistantce that it IS what i really want.
But yes, im guilty of falling. It's sometimes quite difficult because he doesn't really care whether he falls or not now, because he's fallen so much in the past, and trying is so difficult now. I've got to be real careful as to what we do and where we are. Making the commitment is so important now, and if he tries, i explain gently that I don't want, because i want our nite to be so amazing. I know he'll start trying again, but it will take a little persistantce that it IS what i really want.
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Somebody ask what Is goin to far. When I said messed up and going too far I don't mean like just a lot of kissing....u know if you've gone to far. And defiantly touching where your not sopose to is one thing I was talking about. Doing the things that is basically "everything but sex" is kinda what I'm refering too.
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Hmm... going too far in my mind is when you start to question is this right, or when you know it isn't.
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i have been there doonneee that! lol but if you are struggling i suggest that you set boundaries and pray about it.. it got so bad for us at one point we had to pray at the door b4 he came in! lol but its getting better.. not perfect but better.. ill be praying for ya!
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leaningonherbeloved said:
i disagree with this comment. being aroused is not an indication that you have crossed your boundaries... unless your boundaries involve you being blindfolded, having ear plugs in and living in a bubble until you get married
if you are attracted to someone, they will cause you to be aroused at one point or another. there are no two ways about it. this is not wrong. it is how God designed our bodies.
anywho...
my b/f and i have managed to stick to our boundaries for over 3 years now
it's not always easy but i think it has a lot to do with the fact that we set really good boundaries in the first place. it also helps that we are both completely adament that we will be married as virgins (including touching of a sexual nature, not just sex) whether it be to each other or someone else.
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