Men who let themselves go after marriage

[ImperialPhantom]

You hear all the time from men about how women let themselves go after marriage, but back in my cashier days I mentally compared the number of women and men at my register who have done so, and the number of men was quite a bit higher. It was mostly a function of dressing sloppily (women were very styled up, men were poorly dressed and did not match one bit), but often the men looked like they had just let themselves get out of shape too - including guys MY age who I had graduated high school with - that's still early 20s. Since I got married I've lost 5 lbs, at least 3 percent bodyfat, and have a full set of abs for the first time in my life, all despite my wife's delicious, and very filling, cooking. I can't say it will stay that way forever, but I plan to keep it that way by all means possible.

Anyways, if we're being honest, do more men really let themselves go after finding a gf/wife?

 

[tenntrekker]

I call it being "comfortable" around your spouse.

 

[Cordy]

Interesting topic. The first time I really remember hearing about anyone “letting themselves go” was when my husband and I were picking out his tux for our wedding. The store clerk gushed about her own somewhat recent wedding and shared that both her and her husband let things go after the wedding. She told us that we should just expect it, because it happens to everyone. Of course, we left the store determined not to fall victim to the trend, and, honestly, I don’t think we have.

Based solely on anecdotal evidence, I agree with the OP that it appears that men let things go more. I think it often comes down the pressure men and women receive from society. Men are allowed to look overweight and sloppy as long as they are rich, well-employed and/or prestigious. Women can be successful, but they also need to look great in order to be considered valuable. Obviously not fair expectations, but I think that often why we see that kind of discrepancy.

 

[llghoney]

I say they do.

 

[fuzzymel]

I agree that its more likely to be men that let themselves go. They somehow get away with it too. Unfair double standards!

 

[Mskedi]

I don't know that men or women do so more. I've seen examples of both.

 

[HuntingMan]

You hear all the time from men about how women let themselves go after marriage, but back in my cashier days I mentally compared the number of women and men at my register who have done so, and the number of men was quite a bit higher. It was mostly a function of dressing sloppily (women were very styled up, men were poorly dressed and did not match one bit), but often the men looked like they had just let themselves get out of shape too - including guys MY age who I had graduated high school with - that's still early 20s. Since I got married I've lost 5 lbs, at least 3 percent bodyfat, and have a full set of abs for the first time in my life, all despite my wife's delicious, and very filling, cooking. I can't say it will stay that way forever, but I plan to keep it that way by all means possible.

Anyways, if we're being honest, do more men really let themselves go after finding a gf/wife?

I let myself go WAAY before I ever got married

 

[Oblivious]

I don't know that men or women do so more. I've seen examples of both.

Yes, I agree...

 

[Antje]

I sure hope people don't "let themselves go" unless they were very insecure and obsessed with their appearance before marriage.

I hope to keep myself to the same lifestyle and health standards as I always have. Health isn't something to mess around with. As for makeup and clothing, I guess I never really paid too much attention to those things in the first place

 

[revrobor]

I have dealt with the public in many fields (including retail) for many years and have observed that more men than women DO "let themselves go". There seems to be a number of men thinking it's macho to wear sloppy, dirty, or torn clothing (and who wants to see a guys hairy underarms after he rips of his shirt sleeves). But worse than that are the women who fight aging tooth and nail by dying their hair, piling on the makeup and wearing clothes that are too young for their drooping bodies. Having said that I also want to say their is far too much emphasis placed on appearance in our society today. People (especially celebrities) are judged by what they wear not by who they are.