Men Answer ONLY!

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

Please men only, I will be putting up another poll for the women. I will be putting this in several forums, but please only vote once.

You may write comments if you like, but please be honest in the poll.

 

[Sketcher]

It really depends on how much weight she put on. If she gained a hundred pounds, then definitely. If she gained more like 20-30 pounds, I don't think that would make much of a difference, provided she wasn't on the heavy side to begin with.

 

[onajourney87]

It really depends on how much weight she put on. If she gained a hundred pounds, then definitely. If she gained more like 20-30 pounds, I don't think that would make much of a difference, provided she wasn't on the heavy side to begin with.

Ditto that.

 

[Tranceformer110]

double ditto

 

[Angel of God]

The problem would be family work........
For a good christian life an athletic body is the best thing!......
The Disciple who Jesus loved, a malefactor, had an athletic body as us......

 

[dave007]

If she was overweight she would be less attractive, that's pretty logical and proven.
It's how our bodies function, if she's overweight it means that she's not healthy, or less healthy then before.
So she isn't good for reproducing....

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

For me it's all about the booty-doo.

If a girl puts on some pounds but retains the hour glass figure, no problem.

But when her stomach sticks out farther than her booty-doo, that's not attractive.

 

[Jedi]

I just put "yes," because the question was if she gained a "lot" of weight. A few pounds isn't significant, but when we're talking "a lot" (I'm guessing 50-100+ pounds), then the sad truth is simply "yes." This is, of course, presuming we're not talking about pregnancy here. A pregnant woman is easily more physically attractive than a woman who is the same size but due to excessive fat.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

When I said "gained weight" I was thinking about perhaps gaining up to 20-30 pounds.

Like, if she used to be 150 and then she had kids and stuff and was 170-180.

So would you really find them less attractive?

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

For me it's all about the booty-doo.

If a girl puts on some pounds but retains the hour glass figure, no problem.

But when her stomach sticks out farther than her booty-doo, that's not attractive.

What if she has kids and can't help it that her stomache sticks out some?

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

If she was overweight she would be less attractive, that's pretty logical and proven.
It's how our bodies function, if she's overweight it means that she's not healthy, or less healthy then before.
So she isn't good for reproducing....

Yes, but the question is: Would she be less attractive in your eyes? In media's eyes, yes, she would be. But what about you, if you were her husband?

What if she has had kids?

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

Do men feel the same way then? Do they feel that their woman should start finding them less attractive if they gain weight?

 

[SoC]

I'm sorry... but I can't vote here. My answer's not up there.

I don't judge my girlfriend by her "hotness." She is a pretty girl and very attractive, but the fact that she loves God and me means that I won't be less attracted to her if she were heavier.

Honestly, if you've married someone and they get fat, you're still married to them and, unless you disregard the Bible, you can't divorce them. Everyone gains a little weight or gets wrinkly as they age. To say you'd be less attracted to the person you married, just because they are fatter or more wrinkled, is to say that you judge them by their appearance. Love looks beyond appearances.

*climbs down off his soapbox*

 

[Sketcher]

When I said "gained weight" I was thinking about perhaps gaining up to 20-30 pounds.

Like, if she used to be 150 and then she had kids and stuff and was 170-180.

So would you really find them less attractive?

If she was short, yes. If she was tall to more evenly distribute the weight, no. But if she was short to begin with (think 5'1" - 5'3") 150 was probably too much for her anyway. Thus she would have been on the heavy side when we were dating to begin with. 150 pounds when you're 5'10" is thin though. Height and how she carries her weight will make all the difference whether I consider her "fat" or not.

 

[FlyerBoy]

To me I don't care what the outside looks like. No matter what once I find the right person for my life the beauty I look for is on the inside. I don't judge books by there cover, or I wouldn't get very far.

 

[Sketcher]

What if she has kids and can't help it that her stomache sticks out some?

That won't result in the beer gut that he's talking about.

 

[Sketcher]

Do men feel the same way then? Do they feel that their woman should start finding them less attractive if they gain weight?

It's not a matter of "should we" but it is a matter of "do we." And yes, we've got concerns that when we get old and fat, that we won't be as attractive. Being attracted to someone completely or even almost completely because of their personality is a foriegn notion to us. I just cannot fathom how a woman can like a man regardless of his looks.

 

[SoC]

It's not a matter of "should we" but it is a matter of "do we." And yes, we've got concerns that when we get old and fat, that we won't be as attractive. Being attracted to someone completely or even almost completely because of their personality is a foriegn notion to us. I just cannot fathom how a woman can like a man regardless of his looks.

Speak for yourself, not the rest of us.

 

[CaliforniaJosiah]

Interesting....

The poster put up TWO threads and polls
SAME question
One for the guys (about girls), one for girls (about guys).


At this time,
The guy one has 18 replies and 108 views
The girl one has 0 replies and 3 views.


Ummmmm.......



Any psych or soc majors want to take a stab at that??? LOL


.

 

[CaliforniaJosiah]

Okay, MY thoughts....

As a GENERAL norm, I think guy's sexuality is more visual (which is maybe why girls are prettier than guys, lol). It's a matter of DEGREE, not kind, and there are many exceptions for both genders, but I think the general norm applies. Thus, 'fat' is just more of an issue for guys (my guess).

The cool thing is that our sexuality becomes intertwined with a person (hopefully our wife) and it broadens and deepens - for both genders. It becomes an expression of what is in us rather than simply what we see or our senses feel. Saggy 80 year olds can have a pretty good sex life (although the view ain't much, lol) and maybe the biology of it isn't what it once was - but hopefully they've moved on to other dimensions?


Just a thought...


- Josiah