Men and their ways

[lovinjesus31]

I have a question about men and maybe or hopefully I will get some responses from men.Why is it that a man so badly wants a good Christian women who dresses well and acts well but then in turn he still lustes after half naked women or women who may not be a Christan ? That really disturbes me!I know all men don't do this(I guess)but the ones who do,why?

 

[MERCY@GRACE]

For entertainment fantasy purposes. Men&women tend to fantasize about the op of what they have. I know of some women who are married to loving, passive men, but secretly desire to be w/ a "bad boy" of course this is humanistic and secular thinking,but sadly it has crept into the church!

 

[Svt4Him]

Because men are driven by what they see, women by what they feel, although that is an overly simplistic answer.

 

[Southern Cross]

Almost all men look at other women. I don't think all men lust after them. There is a difference between lusting and appreciating beauty, doesn't mean a man loves his wife any less. Maybe he's so used to you dressing up and taking care of yourself that he's become bored. Maybe he's just become used to the status quo and you need to change things up a bit.

I really liked it when my wife dressed nice and took an interest in her appearance, because it was sort of like she was doing it for me. I was proud to be with her when we went out somewhere nice and I made quite an effort to only pay attention to her.

From a purely physical standpoint, it's kind of like a car. A guy could have a Corvette, and be totally happy with it, but that doesn't prevent him from looking at an Acura NSX when one drives by and maybe wishing for one down the road. Or a nice truck. The difference is he knows he can replace his car - can't do that with a wife if your heart is in the right place.

Now if your man is looking at other women and appreciating them more than he appreciates you, there is a problem. If he's clearly lusting after them, then that's a problem, too.

 

[Jenna]

I think that it is probably a combination of problems, to be honest. With the way that our society is so saturated with sexuality, many men have problems with pornography. Combine that with the fact that some Christian woman have a hard time letting their hair down and really enjoying sex with their husband, and the combination can breed all sorts of nasties.

As far as women not being content with passive men, that's a whole 'nother discussion. lol I'm not sure that that is simply a matter of wanting a "bad boy" or being discontent in sexual matters.

 

[hygienemom]

I have a question about men and maybe or hopefully I will get some responses from men.Why is it that a man so badly wants a good Christian women who dresses well and acts well but then in turn he still lustes after half naked women or women who may not be a Christan ? That really disturbes me!I know all men don't do this(I guess)but the ones who do,why?

you may be interested in the book Every Man's Battle. It helped me to understand that it is a battle for every man.
I'm also sure you enjoy looking at a well-groomed man and appreciate all of God's creations!