Why do you think that God created men to be attracted so strongly to physical beauty? Of all the characteristics for a woman to have, that is likely the least useful or important. Beauty alone contributes nothing to the betterment of society, unlike intelligence or creativity or even just kindness.
I was having a phone conversation with a single male friend last night and we began talking about a buddy of his who is also single. I said tell me about him and what he's looking for. I have all kinds of delightful single female friends and thought that I might know of someone interesting to introduce to him. My friend's response was "skinny, blond, big boobs". That's it? Really? When I indicated that I thought his friend was shallow and that even if I knew a girl that was skinny, blond and had big boobs I would never inflict his buddy upon them, at which point he started backpedaling fast and said his pal wasn't really that shallow and was just really picky. Both guys are early 40s.
This seems to be a consistant thread in my dating world. I understand that there should and must be physical attraction, but why do you think God would make that be what men start with? Physical beauty fades quickly. Physical beauty is useless. Kindness, gentleness, intelligence, humor, creativity, industriousness, even fertility I would understand. But why the body? We don't even keep our body when it's all said and done!
Unfortunately it seems that Christian men are worse about this than the heathen men I hang out with. If a woman isn't a skinny little blond waif with big boobs they just pass over them. There is no chance for the fat or plain looking. Why do men not look for the heart and mind?
(...and don't come tell me that they do after they look at the package. It's too late at that point. You've already passed by some of the best and brightest and most interesting by then...)
I just see mean, hateful, hurtful, lazy women dating and hooking up just because they have great genes. And all around me are wonderful, clever, funny, intelligent, interesting women left alone.
Why would God set it up this way in the first place?
I was having a phone conversation with a single male friend last night and we began talking about a buddy of his who is also single. I said tell me about him and what he's looking for. I have all kinds of delightful single female friends and thought that I might know of someone interesting to introduce to him. My friend's response was "skinny, blond, big boobs". That's it? Really? When I indicated that I thought his friend was shallow and that even if I knew a girl that was skinny, blond and had big boobs I would never inflict his buddy upon them, at which point he started backpedaling fast and said his pal wasn't really that shallow and was just really picky. Both guys are early 40s.
This seems to be a consistant thread in my dating world. I understand that there should and must be physical attraction, but why do you think God would make that be what men start with? Physical beauty fades quickly. Physical beauty is useless. Kindness, gentleness, intelligence, humor, creativity, industriousness, even fertility I would understand. But why the body? We don't even keep our body when it's all said and done!
Unfortunately it seems that Christian men are worse about this than the heathen men I hang out with. If a woman isn't a skinny little blond waif with big boobs they just pass over them. There is no chance for the fat or plain looking. Why do men not look for the heart and mind?
(...and don't come tell me that they do after they look at the package. It's too late at that point. You've already passed by some of the best and brightest and most interesting by then...)
I just see mean, hateful, hurtful, lazy women dating and hooking up just because they have great genes. And all around me are wonderful, clever, funny, intelligent, interesting women left alone.
Why would God set it up this way in the first place?
) makes a really good point. There is an instinct in a man that makes him want to pursue a beautiful woman and propogate. But I agree with what Kirk said - that this impulse for many men is fleeting and they don't take it to mean they should only pursue women they find the most attractive. 
