Meeting His MOM

[GirlForChrist]

I'm going to go see my boyfriend in michigan over thanksgiving break in november. well this will the first time i've ever met his mom, we've talked a lil' bit on the phone and email too. but i'm afraid that we won't get alone, shes a pesimist and so am i. so clint thinks that we'll not get along cos we're so much alike, I need advice on how to be calm and allow her to like me. i'm planning to marry my boyfriend and his parents talk about marriage too, so i dont' want to blow the first impression thing

 

[desi]

Try to be polite and dress conservatively. Don't be overly affectionate with Clint in front of his parents. Ask his mother's opinions on womanly things she knows a great deal about and act interested. If you establish commonality with her it'll be gravy from there. Also keep in mind these may be your future inlaws so look for irreconcilable differences which are deal breakers before you marry him.

 

[lucypevensie]

Don't assume the worst before you've even met the woman. I cannot stress it enough--be polite.

Be kind.
Have respect for her as the mother of this very special man.

Make special effort to be peacable.

 

[GirlForChrist]

thanks, whats peacable mean?

 

[lucypevensie]

Sorry, I probably spelled that word wrong. Do all you can to keep the relationship peaceful. Make every effort to live in peace with all men (That's Hebrews 12:14)

 

[KristiXP]

You need to be yourself, you don't want to have to fake a personality that his mom will like. If she dosn't like you, then you should sit down with her and talk about it, she will have more respect for you if you do that.

Try your best to get along with her, and I'm sure she'll make the same effort.

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

I'm terrified of meeting my boyfriend's mom. I'm excited because I think we'll get along because according to him , we're a lot alike, but I'm afraid of her thinking that I'm taking her son away. Oh, we live 500 miles apart....

 

[OrderMySteps]

You may be scared to meet your bf's mom, but I'm scared to meet my gf's parents period. But through it all you're going to have to meet her eventually so go in and be yourself. Try not to cling to your boyfriend too hard around her either.

 

[rachetman]

OrderMySteps and kristiXP both have great advice. Being yourself is one of the most important things. My mother told me that she looks most for what a girl is hiding. She absolutely loves my girlfriend becauseshe's upfront and as herself about everything. Having something to hide leads to suspicions, and a mother hates to know that she might not know everything about her son (at least mine does). Respectful approaches to his family will lead to a better relationship for both of you, as well as your relationship that will soon beginning with his parents. Goodluck and God Bless!!

 

[GodBoy809]

lol...take it from me, its not bad....granted the first meeting can be a little awkward, but its not bad. I remember meeting kristi's parents for the first time, i was nervous...but after a while, wasnt so awkward anymore. Unless his/her parents are mean, or conceded, It shouldnt be bad.

 

[LadyBird]

Just relax! It's not that bad. Just be polite and remember your manners...also dress modestly. You want to make a good first impression.

 

[bravesaz]

In addition to all the good advice that's been offered, don't forget to offer to help with the cooking or cleaning up afterwards. If she says "no thank you" don't press the issue, but perhaps you could hang with her in the kitchen and ask her about your b/f's favorite meals, etc.

Also, be sure and take a small gift along--candy or something like that. When you get back to your own place, write (using pen & paper) a thank you note.