Married friends

[Silver Speak]

Well, I received some surprising news a few weeks ago: my friend told me her boyfriend had proposed and they'll marry next summer. I was happy for her, of course, but just in a bit of a shock since they've only been together for more or less six months and she's only 21 years old! Now, I really believe she's making a smart decision 'cause I know her and I know she is very mature for her age. I have a lot of faith in their marriage.

Well, here comes the but: I am sooo sad! As much as I love her and wish her all the happiness in the world, I can't help feeling sort of disappointed when she makes the huge change in her life. All her concentration now is on her husband-to-be (naturally) and she's also going to move far away from me -it just looks like a whole different world to me! :o

I don't envy her; I'm only nineteen myself and not ready to settle down just yet. I just worry for not being a part of her life anymore, which is probably not true but it really feels like it at this time.. I don't have many good friends to lose! I really don't mind my friends forming serious relationships but I wish they still had time for me and genuine interest in me. It makes me wonder if I should find a boyfriend since 'everyone else' has one and there's no one to rely on anymore -not a very good reason, huh!

I guess I'm overreacting a bit but I just know things are changing and it's not a comforting change. Again: I am truly happy for her but I just feel sorta left out.

Anyone else been in this kind of situation? How did things turn out?

 

[BeautyForAshes]

Aww hon, cheer up!

Out of my circle of close friends, I'm the only single lady - which does suck sometimes. My remedy? Make friends with other single girls. lol

But seriously, don't find some guy to hook up with just because...... You already know how that would turn out.

Just be supportive of your friend, and try not to let the enemy use that sensitive spot for his enjoyment. Ask God to seal it off with His annoiting and help you sort through your feelings.

God bless.....

 

[hischildsindik]

I can understand. Although I don't have a lot of marriages going on around me, where I work is a baby factory. Or at least that is what it seems. In the 3.5 years I have worked there, there has constantly been on average 2-3 pregnant women at all times in various timings and stages of pregnancy. There are days I wish I could find that 'water', wherever they find it!

 

[revelations12_12]

Aww hon, cheer up!

Out of my circle of close friends, I'm the only single lady - which does suck sometimes. My remedy? Make friends with other single girls. lol

But seriously, don't find some guy to hook up with just because...... You already know how that would turn out.

Just be supportive of your friend, and try not to let the enemy use that sensitive spot for his enjoyment. Ask God to seal it off with His annoiting and help you sort through your feelings.

God bless.....

I continue to be amazed by your perspectives and wonderful godly advice your posts are always a joy to read, thanks beautyforashes

 

[Nico]

Well, I received some surprising news a few weeks ago: my friend told me her boyfriend had proposed and they'll marry next summer. I was happy for her, of course, but just in a bit of a shock since they've only been together for more or less six months and she's only 21 years old! Now, I really believe she's making a smart decision 'cause I know her and I know she is very mature for her age. I have a lot of faith in their marriage.

Well, here comes the but: I am sooo sad! As much as I love her and wish her all the happiness in the world, I can't help feeling sort of disappointed when she makes the huge change in her life. All her concentration now is on her husband-to-be (naturally) and she's also going to move far away from me -it just looks like a whole different world to me! :o

I don't envy her; I'm only nineteen myself and not ready to settle down just yet. I just worry for not being a part of her life anymore, which is probably not true but it really feels like it at this time.. I don't have many good friends to lose! I really don't mind my friends forming serious relationships but I wish they still had time for me and genuine interest in me. It makes me wonder if I should find a boyfriend since 'everyone else' has one and there's no one to rely on anymore -not a very good reason, huh!

I guess I'm overreacting a bit but I just know things are changing and it's not a comforting change. Again: I am truly happy for her but I just feel sorta left out.

Anyone else been in this kind of situation? How did things turn out?

most of my closest friends have jumped on the marriage bandwagon. but at least with my friends, there has really been no change in our friendship. that being said, we put in a concerted effort. we all live in different states but make it a priority to find time to see each other, talk on the phone, and email. and when i go and visit my married friends, i stay at their house, which, admittedly was a little strange at first b/c now i sleep in the guest bedroom, when my friend and i used to share the same bed back in our single days. but she always makes a point to go out to dinner, just the 2 of us one night, then maybe all 3 of us (her husband, she and i) will go out. i think in some ways it gets eassier, cause she sees him all the time, so she feels completely justified in "ditching" him for an evening to be with me. just cause 2 people get married, doesn't mean that they dont' need their respective "girl" and "guy" nights out, you know? the one thing that sucks is that now that they're married, they don't understand what the whole dating scene is and how much it sucks. they're always like "oh, honey, your time will come..." which can be a little annoying.

 

[JPPT1974]

On my father's side, his parents have six grandchildren and Im the only one not married. However on my mothers side, there are fourteen grandchildren on her parents side and I am one of only eight grandkids not married.