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Ben johnson

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Barbara has been married several times before (don't know the story); Gerald (names may have been changed) is intelligent, humorous, thoughtful.

He has left her; 5-6 days now.

She is committed to not getting divorced.

She is 50-something, he a few years older.

"Father-God, we come before you in submission and humility; we lift Your name above all that is in the Universe, for You are worthy! We praise You and worship You in spirit and in truth! Praise You, Lord, FOREVER! Indwell us, Lord; shape us and guide us, sweet gentle Spirit! Be Thou our God, take us Your willing servants and mature us in love and righteousness! Dear Jesus, whose blood so painfully and willingly shed, such incredible love; our grattitude is boundless, we are so thankful for You! Take the broken pieces of our hearts, mix them with the water of life, and shape us on Your wheel into something magnificent!

Touch the hearts and lives of my friends, Lord; we here agree to bind the dark forces in their lives, that seek to promote "SELF"; BREAK Gerald, shatter his pride, that he has no place to turn but to you! Teach also Barbara in the way that You would have her go. Instruct her in the words she should say, when to speak and when to be quiet; be Thou her comforter and calmer of her Spirit --- increase her faith and trust in You! Draw them home to YOU, oh Lord! Convict, convert, and regenerate them both!

If there is anything You would have me say or do, then I submit to You; guide me and teach me, Lord, in all ways. THANK YOU, Oh Lord!

Be ever more real to me, Father; be Thou my God! Mature me, remake me in Thy image. Instruct me in the ways of love. Let me succeed, for YOU. Lead me to the great Harvest, that Heaven will be full. Let eternity begin HERE and NOW; and let it begin with me. I lay aside every encumbrance, every hesitation, everything, and commit myself to You! Praise Your holy name, forever and ever!"


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I can not only imagine what she must be going through, with this husband of hers, I must give her my story.................

I know that times may be ruff, when you feel rejected by the one you love. I've been there and I know the devasting heart ache you may feel! This is my second marriage as well. And can honestly tell you, that I believed that I was ready to move on from my first. I was not in love with him..... for eight long years I lived with this man. I was un`happy and through my unhappiness, I found myself , bitter and no easy to get along with. My life was leading down a path that I did not really want, but never seen it until it was too late..

We were going through a divorce I met this guy, and fell head over hills in love with, so I thought! He was there to talk to and offer open arms to me, as away for comfort in my times of troubles. I knew not what was before me. We dated and then married and the abuse started...... Some major things happen that changed my life for ever. My husband and I were not christians.... we got into a huge fight and he pulled a gun on his self, and tried to force my hand on the trigger..... I broke away and took off running and I could not stop. I could feel Gods presence trying to catch me , but I kept running. I asked God why things had to be this way, but no answer.... That same year things only got worse. My husband left me three X's in one year. The last time he left, he stayed gone for almost four days. I knew it was over, and because I was not a christian I ended up in another mans arms.
I was lonely, and needed to be loved and showed love, and this guy, really loved me. " So I was thinking he did " Which now I know that Satan was behind all of that!! My husband came back begging me back.... I took him back and tried couseling, I told him that if he ever left again it was over completly. I felt un loved and betrayed. I felt ugly and ashamed. I felt so many things that only a women would feel after being treated that way. The feeling was unbearable...... But yet I was setting myself up for my heart aches..The more I tried to make it work the worse our relationship got! At first when he came back, it was good for acouple of weeks, but then the abuse started back. More verbal, and mental, than physical. We would run to the preachers house for help, but nothing was working. I then feel down to my knees and pleaded to God for forgiveness, and found my salvation. I know what I did was wrong. I know that I was part of the reason my husband and I were not getting along. I found my salvation, and am now a christian.... How it happen was through an Angel, that God sent me!

A guy from another state, that was willing to take the time to hear me cry. To hear my whole life story , starting from the time I was a child until now. When I told him what I was doing, he helped me to see that God was not pleased with my actions. That the way I was handling this, by running to another man was not the answer. That , by putting God first and letting him have complete control over my life, is the only way out of this devastating sitution. He prayed with me and there that day I gave my life completely over to God. I am still married to my husband, unfortuiantly he's not a christian, but he has and is changing slowly, day by day. He has never left me again, since that day, and I have not ran into the arms of another man, again...
I know that for my every action, I will have to pay the consquence. And the though of me dying and going to hell for my sins are unbearable, so in order to keep on the right track and living a Holy life, God has to be My leader in everything I do!!! Its his will, that sees me through each new day, and I am happier now that I gave my life over to him!!!

I also have learned that being a cHristian is not easy! God never said that it would be! But in order for God to bless me, or to help me, I have to allow him the ability to help me. By giving him my whole heart!!! Reading Gods word, and putting him first each and everyday, is the only light to ones way!!!!!!



I pray that this testomony will help your friend, and give her strength in all the days of her Life! I pray also that God will enrich her life with love and happiness! For we all need to be around uplifting, spiritual people to help us through our troubled times in life. Through them God gives us strength and encouragement! I pray that he annoints you Ben, to give her the guiadiance she needs to help her to survive this evil that Satan has put upon her, and her family! God loves you and your doing a wonderful job, by helping your friend! May God bless you , her and her family in everyway possible. " For nothing is impossible through Jesus Christ"

If you want to write me you may, I will certianly keep this lady in my prayers!
Your friend INCHRIST~ Angelface~

If it will help her, she could write a jornel, and talk about her problems. I write poems, and have started a book. God has worked a blessing in my life out of my sitution. Another words, what your friend maybe going through now, God is allowing so she can help someone else who may be going somewhat through the same sitution, later down the road. Just tell her to keep her faith up, cause she's never alone..... God is with her and he knows everything, and he will help her, for he is still the answers to all our problems, if we will just let go and let God have complete control........
 
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Angelface, thank you for your testimony! What a blessing that in the midst of your troubles, you found God! I pray with all my heart that you always grow in Him, into what He wants you to be. You are a godly woman now; I pray that you will increase in love and kindness for others, that the world will be even more blessed by you!

I pray for both husbands; "Barbara's" and yours. May they be convicted, broken of pride, surrendered to the Creator. May eternity be awakened in their hearts, as the Spirit dwells there bodily! May they become your "Joshua-men", founding marriage in Him.

God bless you and keep you; today, and forever.

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Lord I ask that you continue to watch all the people affected from this story. May You warm the husband's heart and may they come back together and be a living testimony of Your glory. You did not institute marry to end...it's only suppose to end at death, so please Lord help them. And give Barbara the strength that she seeks in Your name. ~Angel
 
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