{Marriage} The issues that are important

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I was wondering if this would be more appropriate to post in the married forum or here. But since I'm single I'm going to post it to fellow singles. Anyway, I was watching A.R. Bernard on TBN earlier and he mentioned that one of the things he practices with couples in pre-marriage counseling is that he writes up different values in mixed order and then tells the man to put them in order of importance and then the woman also. The point is that all of these issues are imporant but the priorities in which we order them are key. So please, list some things that are going to be important in marriage.

I plan on bringing this before the pre-marriage counselor I use in the future too because I think it would be a wise exercise. So again, please list some values that you think will be important in marriage. Here are the ones that come to my mind right off the bat.

God (time spent seeking Him)
Finances (how to obtain and spend money)
Children (how to raise kids, discipline, education, etc.)
Ministry (how to witness and help others)
Sex (how much time spent there and the boundaries within that)
Leisure (time spent doing stuff for entertainment & fun)
Physical exercise

 

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I agree that's a wise exercise. This is a very important thread for singles (also married), I would say.

I think most relationships would work out great if they are able to keep it simple, that is: Love God, love your spouse. Hopefully, that should put everything else in its place according to the season. I want to believe that and work towards it.

I do understand it's not as easy or simple as one might think. It will take a lot of practice and patience. The days are so evil and the devil is always after godly marriages. This world is no longer a place we want to be living. I could only imagine how fearful (I mean a good godly fear) it is to bring children into such a dark world and how difficult it might be to keep them from it. I think it's a good thing to have fewer worldly affairs once married and some close godly elders/local church/friends. Instruction given in 1 Thessalonians 4:11 is what I think would be the best way forward in this world,- to live quietly, mind our own thing, and work with our hands.

God (make sure that I continue to love Him with all my heart/soul/mind/strength)
Spouse (do my best to support him in every area he needs me)
Children (create an environment of love and cultivate the fear of the Lord)
Self (be an example by maintaining my godly beauty, in and out)
Community (give/receive whenever an opportunity is presented)