Marriage struggles...

[lin1966]

I think this is where I am to post the problems I am having with my marriage. I am married to my second husband. We have been married a little over 5 years now. When we met I had reservations but I was not following the Lord at the time. I don't even think I loved him when we got married but wanted stability. So, since then I have recommitted my life to Christ and I have a much stronger faith now than I ever have in the 30 years that I have been saved! My husband claims that he asked the Lord into his heart at some point but does not think it is necessary to read the Bible (which he claims is outdated and not applicable today) He says he prays every day but they are prayers asking why the Lord doesn't take him out of the job that he hates and take away all his pain. He does go to church with me but the minute we hit the car, he is griping about the pastor, the service, everything in general. He is a very negative, dark and depressed person. He thinks that I get too carried away with my Christianity. I am really struggling with who he is as a person and how he treats others. He is very spiteful. An example would be just last night, he talked to his ex-wife because his youngest son is 15 and learning to drive. She wants money for his driver's training and football. He pays child support but needs more to cover these expenses. He told her he doesn't have it right now and he is worried she will run and have the child support raised. He got off the phone and said he hated her and called her names and said he doesn't want anything to do with his own son. I do not know how much longer I can be married to this man. I know that we are not supposed to divorce unless there is unfaithfulness. But, I want nothing to do with the negative darkness that he portrays. My kids are grown but they do not want to be around him at all and I cannot ever have my grandson come over to my house. He has 0 friends. I think that is very sad. He will not reach out to people and says that I am the only friend he needs. This is just the tip of the iceberg. There is so much more. I pray all the time over and over for him. I cannot stand to be intimate with him and really do not like it when he touches me. He has a way that is hard to describe when it comes to touching me. Oh, and we have been to a Weekend to Remember and counseling too. He thinks counseling is ridiculous.

 

[Yonny Costopoulis]

This is the very difficult situation. If he refuses to accept help and refuses to change you will have to make choice of stay or go. I will pray for you.

 

[SkyWriting]

I think this is where I am to post the problems I am having with my marriage. I am married to my second husband. We have been married a little over 5 years now. When we met I had reservations but I was not following the Lord at the time. I don't even think I loved him when we got married but wanted stability. So, since then I have recommitted my life to Christ and I have a much stronger faith now than I ever have in the 30 years that I have been saved! My husband claims that he asked the Lord into his heart at some point but does not think it is necessary to read the Bible (which he claims is outdated and not applicable today) He says he prays every day but they are prayers asking why the Lord doesn't take him out of the job that he hates and take away all his pain. He does go to church with me but the minute we hit the car, he is griping about the pastor, the service, everything in general. He is a very negative, dark and depressed person. He thinks that I get too carried away with my Christianity. I am really struggling with who he is as a person and how he treats others. He is very spiteful. An example would be just last night, he talked to his ex-wife because his youngest son is 15 and learning to drive. She wants money for his driver's training and football. He pays child support but needs more to cover these expenses. He told her he doesn't have it right now and he is worried she will run and have the child support raised. He got off the phone and said he hated her and called her names and said he doesn't want anything to do with his own son. I do not know how much longer I can be married to this man. I know that we are not supposed to divorce unless there is unfaithfulness. But, I want nothing to do with the negative darkness that he portrays. My kids are grown but they do not want to be around him at all and I cannot ever have my grandson come over to my house. He has 0 friends. I think that is very sad. He will not reach out to people and says that I am the only friend he needs. This is just the tip of the iceberg. There is so much more. I pray all the time over and over for him. I cannot stand to be intimate with him and really do not like it when he touches me. He has a way that is hard to describe when it comes to touching me. Oh, and we have been to a Weekend to Remember and counseling too. He thinks counseling is ridiculous.

Focus on your own personal development and growth.
This is the solution.

 

[lin1966]

I am trying. I am continuously asking the Lord what He wants me to learn and how He wants me to grow.