Marriage Advice

[Faith1st]

Good afternoon all.
I have a question that has me going back and fourth. When I married my wife she was a Bible believing women that went to church, now it’s not the case. In the past 6-8 months she’s been to 2 rehab facilities and one mental. She confessed that she is an alcoholic and her nursing license is on the line. Before going to this assessment to keep her license she told me she was unhappy with our marriage. We are going thru marriage counseling along with her going thru an 8 week rehab. Every time we talk it starts out with her barely talking and me asking how she is and talking about my day. She continues to blame me for little stuff and basically stating it’s my fault. When I think God has answered my prayers about men and women ministering to her it falls off because she continues to argue that the Bible is contradicting.

im trying to think of the best course of action. I know with her depression, anxiety, and her alcoholism all I can do is support her as I can’t make choices for her. I know the Bible says for best or for worst but what about a wife who was a Christian before but now has left the face and keeps bringing me down. My parents continue to ask why I’m with her. I need understanding on what it is that I should continue to do or shouldn’t?

 

[Blade]

Hi.. what your asking I can not answer would be very unwise. The word says anyone that calls on the lord shall be delivered. It is that easy for He is GOD! Been married close to 40 years now. I. am no expert. I was in my 40's when He showed me my wifes heart. It was in a fight.. but she was the only one mad.. won't go on about that shes not here to say anything. But in that moment it was bad.. I remember saying this is what love your enemy means. Well its so hard to explain. The world is against it for sure.

Well I had this love for her I have never had.. I looked at her.. she was so mad...yet I saw her heart.. it was noting what so ever like she was acting. That was strange. I had this love.. no I wanted nothing more then to treat her like a queen. If she was going to treat me like this for the rest of our life.. oh it was such a great reward to just please her. That was so so so strange. To give to her to make her happy was a reward..thats all I wanted.. Never wanting anything from her. Just to give. As fast as that came it lifted and was gone. Before I got married friends all told me not to marry her and prayed and alL God said was "what do you want?"

He is not against us.. HE will never condemn us. What do you want? I have all my life think like "what if it was me". So I did that with my wife. I would want someone to love me and never give up on me. That is what I want.. so how can I not do the same for her. Very close missionaries said to us once.. Marriage is not always 50/50 sometimes its 75/25 and some times its 100/0. There is NOTHING God can not do. IF we KNOW He hears us we KNOW we have the petitions we asked for. There are reasons why we might lash out or blame the other person.. so many times its from the pain in side us we don't know how handle or the like.

So praying..so its your house.. me when shes not here I would take the authority God gave me and tell each one of those things that came to mind to get out in Jesus name. Example if it was fear.. get out in Jesus name.. God has not given me the spirit of fear but of power love and a sound mind. WE have the Joy of the lord.. this HOUSE belongs to God.. anyway.. just my thinking..

 

[tturt]

So sorry that this is happening..

Would asks the Lord to help me love her as He does - even if it's just a portion of His love.




We need to armor up (Eph 6:10-18).